In-laws and their kids eat all our food

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Anonymous wrote:We always have a ton of food. It's our culture (Hawaii). Guests bring food too so you always have plenty of leftovers for people to take home.

I live here, too! Maybe we are friends IRL. And no one (no one!) in Hawaii would go to someone’s house empty-handed or eat up all of their non-party food. That is crazy.

Howzit! 🤙🏻Right, no one ever!

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If they weren’t in-laws would you feel,differently? I consider my in-laws family and this wouldn’t bother me in the least. When I host, I treat my guests like family. They can eat me out of house and home and I would feel happy about it. You don’t sound very kind.

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Anonymous wrote:As a military family, and well just an American…I just can’t with your “problem”. Don’t host or put your food away. This isn’t hard. You clearly don’t like the kids.

What does you being a military family have to do with this thread?

Did you seriously just ask what military has to do with Memorial Day??

No. What does a military family have to do with ops issue of rude guests that eat her out of the house? Rude.

You seem dense. Remember the reason we celebrate Memorial Day. A few snacks seems trivial, doesn’t it?

People don’t really care about Memorial Day other than a day off work. Sorry.

Then don't invite your family over if you can't afford or don't know how to feed them.

I don’t, baby! I won’t even be in the country this year.

Glad you stopped by to give out your useless advice. What would we do without you here?

God only knows. Lucky for you, I can post even while I’m traveling.

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I hosted teen elite tennis players for weeks. They eat like elephants and then some. I never thought it was unusual. Heck, I worried bcs my teen was not eating 1/3 of that. Guess who is the shortest among them without genetic height issues? My kid.

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Anonymous wrote:I tend to forget how WASPy this site is until a food/hosting thread. A holiday cookout is not the time to police how much your guests are eating. You're not supposed to guess how much people are going to eat and then make exactly that much food and hide the rest. It's a Memorial Day cookout, you should expect neighbors to wander over and people to tag along. You're supposed to make a huge spread of food, make sure everyone has enough, and send people home with plates. You should be thrilled if people go back for seconds and thirds. If you run out of food you figure out how to fill the gap right now and make a mental note to make much, much more of whatever went fastest next time.

I stg my DH would commit seppuku if our guests had to resort to eating cereal to fill up after he shut the grill off. The fact that this has happened in your house and you've decided the guests are the problem is bizarre.

This exactly. I am as WASPy as you can get, but I was raised in the Italian culture of North Jersey. If there aren't leftovers after you have people over, you haven't made enough food. I ALWAYS want to make more than people can eat.

OP, it's very simple. If your guests are raiding your fridge, etc. after the cookout, you aren't preparing enough food. Since it has happened n the past, now you know, and you can make more.

Even if she does not prepare enough food it is not a valid reason to be rude. Learn some manners and thank the host for what you were served. No one is going to starve to death in a few hours.

DP. It is rude not to make enough food. Don't host people if you are not ready to host!

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My nieces and nephews used to be like locusts at my in-laws. It did not matter how much was cooked or how many full plates they had.

It's rude to empty your host's cupboards. Op, ask your brother to bring snacks and drinks their kids enjoy. Make sure you have bread and peanut butter and let them know pb sandwiches are an option if they are hungry. Don't buy a bunch of junk food. Some, yes but not a bunch. Also things like bananas, grapes, apples and cheese.

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Anonymous wrote:I tend to forget how WASPy this site is until a food/hosting thread. A holiday cookout is not the time to police how much your guests are eating. You're not supposed to guess how much people are going to eat and then make exactly that much food and hide the rest. It's a Memorial Day cookout, you should expect neighbors to wander over and people to tag along. You're supposed to make a huge spread of food, make sure everyone has enough, and send people home with plates. You should be thrilled if people go back for seconds and thirds. If you run out of food you figure out how to fill the gap right now and make a mental note to make much, much more of whatever went fastest next time.

I stg my DH would commit seppuku if our guests had to resort to eating cereal to fill up after he shut the grill off. The fact that this has happened in your house and you've decided the guests are the problem is bizarre.

This exactly. I am as WASPy as you can get, but I was raised in the Italian culture of North Jersey. If there aren't leftovers after you have people over, you haven't made enough food. I ALWAYS want to make more than people can eat.

OP, it's very simple. If your guests are raiding your fridge, etc. after the cookout, you aren't preparing enough food. Since it has happened n the past, now you know, and you can make more.

Even if she does not prepare enough food it is not a valid reason to be rude. Learn some manners and thank the host for what you were served. No one is going to starve to death in a few hours.

My focus is on the OP, not the guests. OP claims that he (and it's definitely a he) is making more than enough food. That is demonstrably false. People are still hungry after the food is gone. Yes, it's rude to raid someone's pantry without asking, but OP can avoid the entire problem by making enough.

If you need to eat 3 or 4 burgers you are rude.

You should meet my husband and BILs. They grew up using serving bowls as regular individual dishes. It's amazing what they can put away. It's a habit.

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Anonymous wrote:I tend to forget how WASPy this site is until a food/hosting thread. A holiday cookout is not the time to police how much your guests are eating. You're not supposed to guess how much people are going to eat and then make exactly that much food and hide the rest. It's a Memorial Day cookout, you should expect neighbors to wander over and people to tag along. You're supposed to make a huge spread of food, make sure everyone has enough, and send people home with plates. You should be thrilled if people go back for seconds and thirds. If you run out of food you figure out how to fill the gap right now and make a mental note to make much, much more of whatever went fastest next time.

I stg my DH would commit seppuku if our guests had to resort to eating cereal to fill up after he shut the grill off. The fact that this has happened in your house and you've decided the guests are the problem is bizarre.

This exactly. I am as WASPy as you can get, but I was raised in the Italian culture of North Jersey. If there aren't leftovers after you have people over, you haven't made enough food. I ALWAYS want to make more than people can eat.

OP, it's very simple. If your guests are raiding your fridge, etc. after the cookout, you aren't preparing enough food. Since it has happened n the past, now you know, and you can make more.

Even if she does not prepare enough food it is not a valid reason to be rude. Learn some manners and thank the host for what you were served. No one is going to starve to death in a few hours.

My focus is on the OP, not the guests. OP claims that he (and it's definitely a he) is making more than enough food. That is demonstrably false. People are still hungry after the food is gone. Yes, it's rude to raid someone's pantry without asking, but OP can avoid the entire problem by making enough.

If you need to eat 3 or 4 burgers you are rude.

You should meet my husband and BILs. They grew up using serving bowls as regular individual dishes. It's amazing what they can put away. It's a habit.

A gross and unhealthy habit and I bet you will tell us they are not obese.

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If she was taking the neice/nephew out to a restaurant would it be okay for them to order 3 entrees each instead of one? As each burger would be an entree. I think not. This is extremely rude behavior. If you need to eat that much then you should eat something before you attend.

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I am OP. I am a guy lol

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Anonymous wrote:I tend to forget how WASPy this site is until a food/hosting thread. A holiday cookout is not the time to police how much your guests are eating. You're not supposed to guess how much people are going to eat and then make exactly that much food and hide the rest. It's a Memorial Day cookout, you should expect neighbors to wander over and people to tag along. You're supposed to make a huge spread of food, make sure everyone has enough, and send people home with plates. You should be thrilled if people go back for seconds and thirds. If you run out of food you figure out how to fill the gap right now and make a mental note to make much, much more of whatever went fastest next time.

I stg my DH would commit seppuku if our guests had to resort to eating cereal to fill up after he shut the grill off. The fact that this has happened in your house and you've decided the guests are the problem is bizarre.

This exactly. I am as WASPy as you can get, but I was raised in the Italian culture of North Jersey. If there aren't leftovers after you have people over, you haven't made enough food. I ALWAYS want to make more than people can eat.

OP, it's very simple. If your guests are raiding your fridge, etc. after the cookout, you aren't preparing enough food. Since it has happened n the past, now you know, and you can make more.

Even if she does not prepare enough food it is not a valid reason to be rude. Learn some manners and thank the host for what you were served. No one is going to starve to death in a few hours.

My focus is on the OP, not the guests. OP claims that he (and it's definitely a he) is making more than enough food. That is demonstrably false. People are still hungry after the food is gone. Yes, it's rude to raid someone's pantry without asking, but OP can avoid the entire problem by making enough.

If you need to eat 3 or 4 burgers you are rude.

You should meet my husband and BILs. They grew up using serving bowls as regular individual dishes. It's amazing what they can put away. It's a habit.

But do you honestly expect other people to accommodate your husband's outsized appetite?

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OP, you sound like a terrible person.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like a terrible person.

Yeah. I am . I buy all the food i mentioned and get a little miffed when my cupboards and pantry are raided. I am right up there with Dahmer and Bundy

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My guess is this is a combination of factors. Maybe host isn’t providing quite enough food for the hungry teens and perhaps has things in the fridge and pantry that their parents don’t buy at home? As well as an issue with manners for the guests. By now they should know how much food will be on offer. My husband and son are both athletes and like food (and are both very fit). We have friends who are all very petite and do not eat much at all. We know if we are going to a meal at their house then husband and son eat a meal at home first . It is not reasonable to expect these friends of ours to feed us the quantities spouse eats at home. And I also take a large appetizer or side to their gatherings. But this sounds like OP’s in laws are telling their kids “ok, afternoon bbq is your lunch and supper - eat up!”

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How often do you host them, really?

It sounds like it is only very occasional. I’d suck it up and serve more food, and more food that the teens like.

If they lived down the street and were over all the time, that would be very different.

I don’t blame you for being annoyed but….It is almost certainly going to be easier (on you!) to suck it up for a day, than to create potential family drama over some potato chips and rude teens. I doubt you need the stress. Who does? Right?