"Don't Text Me So Early!"

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Anonymous wrote:You're in the wrong. Period.

+1. Op is wrong. Nothing more, nothing less.

Strongly disagree. There are no limits on texts, only calls.

No one wants unlimited texts at all hours of the day and night including yourself.
You’re a hypocrite and rude.

Uhhh, that's why there is a DND feature. Holy sh*t there are some stupid people here.

Yes, there are certainly some pretty clueless people here, about that you are right. But you are among them. Emails and texts are not the same. There was never an issue with the timing of emails. Texting is the same as calling. You are rude for assuming that it's on the receiver to put you on DND.

Holy sh*t, you have outdone yourself here, sweetie. You are the biggest fool in this entire thread. As far as the phone is concerned, there is no difference between a call, a text, or an email. The user controls which of those, if any, make your phone do..... something. You can have your phone ring, vibrate, play usic, flash, ......or do nothing for all those things. But, alas, you are too stupid to know that.

Frankly, it's miraculous that you are using the interenet at all, much less typing on a forum. Are you having your grand daughter post your replies?

Again, I'm 35. I am sure you have been told this before: you need serious help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced 75% of the replies from **Team Moron** are one old lady that doesn't know how to use a phone.

That's funny, because I assumed the crazy shrew who is finally realizing why she is 40 years old and alone was responsible for 100% of the posts calling people stupid and morons.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is an age related thing. Those of us who came of age before cell phones were ubiquitous might feel more strongly that courtesy dictates that you don’t contact people at all hours. People who who grew up texting probably don’t see it that way because texts are different than phone calls. It’s just a different frame of reference.

I don’t think OP or her SIL did anything wrong. OP wasn’t expecting to wake her SIL, and SIL wasn’t expecting such an early text about something that was not the least bit urgent. She’s letting you know her preference. If you care, take it into account. If you don’t, do whatever you want.

Two problems with your ageist post: old people not only know how to use their phones, but they also don't comprise the only age groups who understand texting etiquette. I am in my early 30s and think OP and the loon who feels so bad to discover what a rude, nasty shrew she is that she has to come here and call everybody old and stupid, are wrong.

Old people know how to use their phones???? lol!!! Literally the funniest thing I’ve heard all week. You are in your early thirties? So your parents are in thier 60s or 70s? Come back in 15 years. lol!!!!!!!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is an age related thing. Those of us who came of age before cell phones were ubiquitous might feel more strongly that courtesy dictates that you don’t contact people at all hours. People who who grew up texting probably don’t see it that way because texts are different than phone calls. It’s just a different frame of reference.

I don’t think OP or her SIL did anything wrong. OP wasn’t expecting to wake her SIL, and SIL wasn’t expecting such an early text about something that was not the least bit urgent. She’s letting you know her preference. If you care, take it into account. If you don’t, do whatever you want.

Two problems with your ageist post: old people not only know how to use their phones, but they also don't comprise the only age groups who understand texting etiquette. I am in my early 30s and think OP and the loon who feels so bad to discover what a rude, nasty shrew she is that she has to come here and call everybody old and stupid, are wrong.

Old people know how to use their phones???? lol!!! Literally the funniest thing I’ve heard all week. You are in your early thirties? So your parents are in thier 60s or 70s? Come back in 15 years. lol!!!!!!!!!!

My parents are in their late 70s and while they are ON their phones seemingly constantly, they do not understand their phones at all 🤣

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is an age related thing. Those of us who came of age before cell phones were ubiquitous might feel more strongly that courtesy dictates that you don’t contact people at all hours. People who who grew up texting probably don’t see it that way because texts are different than phone calls. It’s just a different frame of reference.

I don’t think OP or her SIL did anything wrong. OP wasn’t expecting to wake her SIL, and SIL wasn’t expecting such an early text about something that was not the least bit urgent. She’s letting you know her preference. If you care, take it into account. If you don’t, do whatever you want.

Two problems with your ageist post: old people not only know how to use their phones, but they also don't comprise the only age groups who understand texting etiquette. I am in my early 30s and think OP and the loon who feels so bad to discover what a rude, nasty shrew she is that she has to come here and call everybody old and stupid, are wrong.

Is it ageist to point out that the era in which you were raised might influence how you use technology? I was not insulting anyone. My Silent Generation father grew up with a party line. We still had rotary phones when I was little. I remember my family getting call waiting and our first answering machine, and then later, voicemail. I didn’t get my first cell phone until I was in my 20s. When I get texts from people my age, they’re in complete sentences with no text speak. That’s not how my teenagers text. Twenty years ago, the elderly relatives who used email always typed in all caps. There are generational differences. I’m not calling the elderly stupid or wrong. Technology evolves, and with it, etiquette.

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NP. That’s a really rude text to send a family member.

I’m mid 30s and typically don’t text that early but I don’t care when I receive txts or emails. While it’s something to be conscious of, especially when texting older people, I am surprised someone who gets very annoyed and loses sleep over it hasn’t fixed the settings.

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

You don’t have friends and family thoughout the world and it shows.

That’s not the gotcha you wished it was.

It’s not a gotcha, it’s an explanation. It explains why you are so small minded here.

How do you know where the relatives of the person you responded to live? You know her and all her friends and family?

Because literally *no one* who has family who lives on a different continent objects to when they text. She claims to only text during certain acceptable hours. That would really affect communication if the person’s family lived in different parts of the world.

You obviously don’t have relatives or family on other continents, otherwise you and them would have reason to know the time difference.
You have google, look up Webster’s dictionary for the word literally.

I know the time zones. That don’t even understand the point confirms you don’t actually find yourself in this situation — I said. Thanks for confirming.

You had no point other than you made up some stupid sh*t thinking you had a point.
Literally.

Sigh, are you honestly that clueless? There is narrow window where everyone is up and it is the supposed appropriate time to text. Sometimes things come up outside the window. Please prefer you text when they are sleeping rather than hold on to the message even if it is not an emergency. I know this because I live this as do many of my friends.

no, not a narrow window. The overwhelming majority of the entire world are within hours of each other’s own family and friends.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. That’s a really rude text to send a family member.

I’m mid 30s and typically don’t text that early but I don’t care when I receive txts or emails. While it’s something to be conscious of, especially when texting older people, I am surprised someone who gets very annoyed and loses sleep over it hasn’t fixed the settings.

You think it's 'rude' to ask your SIL if she wants to come to her nephews graduatin party? All because it was sent some 68 minutes before you think it's acceptable to send? You think you set the terms of OP's son's graduation party?

You are a pathetic, sad, fool.

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Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

No. I won't. Because this wasnt sent 'late at night'. It was sent at 7 o'clock in the morning. I'd have already been up for an hour at that point.

Are you some unemployed alcoholic? Why is 7 am so hard for you? Have you ever seen I66 or I95 at 7 am? The world is awake, buffoon.

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Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

No. I won't. Because this wasnt sent 'late at night'. It was sent at 7 o'clock in the morning. I'd have already been up for an hour at that point.

Are you some unemployed alcoholic? Why is 7 am so hard for you? Have you ever seen I66 or I95 at 7 am? The world is awake, buffoon.

6:51 a.m. on a Saturday morning is not 7 a.m. It’s the weekend, it’s a rare chance to sleep in. STFU.

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Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

No. I won't. Because this wasnt sent 'late at night'. It was sent at 7 o'clock in the morning. I'd have already been up for an hour at that point.

Are you some unemployed alcoholic? Why is 7 am so hard for you? Have you ever seen I66 or I95 at 7 am? The world is awake, buffoon.

6:51 a.m. on a Saturday morning is not 7 a.m. It’s the weekend, it’s a rare chance to sleep in. STFU.

Like I said- you must be an unemployed alcoholic. Or maybe just a garden variety loser. Or both!

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

But you’re the one asking other people to modify their behavior to benefit you. I would never expect someone to know which time zone I’m in and adhere to my schedule for texts because the world does not revolve around me. And it’s great that our phones now provide settings so that I have total control over notifications and don’t need to rely on others.

Are you too stupid to think that OPs SIL does not know what time zone she is in.

People travel and don’t always keep the same schedule. I would never expect anyone to give me a detailed itinerary every week nor would I look at it before texting. The responsibility to manage alerts is on the person receiving texts.

The responsibility is on you to not text at inappropriate hours. You aren’t special.

Every hour is inappropriate for someone. I expect people to text me when it’s convenient for them, whether that’s 3am or 3pm. I’ll respond when it’s convenient for me.

This. It's the responsibility of an individual to manage their phone - not remember the specific "ok to text" schedule of everyone.

The people complaining also probably don't have jobs that require silencing notifications much of the time.

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Anonymous wrote:Thats what my SIL responded with when I sent a note inquiring about her availability for my DS's HS graduation party. I sent it at 6:51 AM today.

My feeling is if you don't want alerts going off, then you silence your phone or set up Do Not Disturb. It's not like I was banging on her door. She has always been snotty so this is par for the course but I also sent it to others

Just gut checking myself here- there aren't time limits for texting, right?

Isn't it up to the receipient to control their own quiet time?

1) I think there are time limits for texting if you care to be considerate. You don’t know if someone has silenced notifications or not so you should assume they have not and be courteous to only text between 8am-8pm.
2) yes, ideally people should silence text notifications if they don’t want to be bothered by texts. But maybe your SIL forgot to silence texts or doesn’t know how to or perhaps even just the light from her phone woke her up? Even if she has texts silenced it’s possible her phone lights up when she gets a text and that woke her? Anyway, I still think since your text wasn’t urgent, you should have waited at least til after 8 to send it.

Not everyone’s window is 8am-8pm. Mine would be 12pm-12am. Isn’t it great that everyone can set their preferred hours for alerts on their phone? No need to worry if your text is too early or too late because the recipient has 100% control over when they’re notified to read it.

That is great but also: don’t text people between 8pm-8am is generally (for majority of people) a good rule.

Sounds like a rule fore retired people?

DP. I wake up at 4am. I'm busy at work by 7:30am. Because I have a job, I can't text you while I'm working. So generally 6am-7am is my response text time, from the evening before. I don't expect you to be awake and respond, but I DO expect you to put settings on your own phone.

How about this - you deal with what works well for you, and respect that some people's "convenient" time is different. And learn to manage your phone.

I honestly can't believe some people are so narcissistic that they expect everyone to remember when is a "good" time to contact them, specifically.

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Anonymous wrote:Thats what my SIL responded with when I sent a note inquiring about her availability for my DS's HS graduation party. I sent it at 6:51 AM today.

My feeling is if you don't want alerts going off, then you silence your phone or set up Do Not Disturb. It's not like I was banging on her door. She has always been snotty so this is par for the course but I also sent it to others

Just gut checking myself here- there aren't time limits for texting, right?

Isn't it up to the receipient to control their own quiet time?

1) I think there are time limits for texting if you care to be considerate. You don’t know if someone has silenced notifications or not so you should assume they have not and be courteous to only text between 8am-8pm.
2) yes, ideally people should silence text notifications if they don’t want to be bothered by texts. But maybe your SIL forgot to silence texts or doesn’t know how to or perhaps even just the light from her phone woke her up? Even if she has texts silenced it’s possible her phone lights up when she gets a text and that woke her? Anyway, I still think since your text wasn’t urgent, you should have waited at least til after 8 to send it.

Not everyone’s window is 8am-8pm. Mine would be 12pm-12am. Isn’t it great that everyone can set their preferred hours for alerts on their phone? No need to worry if your text is too early or too late because the recipient has 100% control over when they’re notified to read it.

That is great but also: don’t text people between 8pm-8am is generally (for majority of people) a good rule.

You're pulling this "good rule for most people" out of your ass.

Do you have a job?

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NP. You can send texts anytime. People can silence their notifications. If not, that is their problem, not yours. When people are like your SIL to me, I assume they like direct communication so I am direct right back to them: “Don’t text me so early.” “Oh! Do you not have your notifications silenced? Sorry, I assume everyone does by now. Feel free to silence notifications for me. You can then get back to me anytime at your own convenience - no worries!”