If adults kids don’t have kids what’s the point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

The point of living is life, your life. Having kids was a part of your life. Havjng grandkids will not be, disappoint happens sometimes. That said, I don't get all the PPs who say you're wrong for wanting grandkids so badly. I want them too, but I realize that may or may not happen. My plan is to base who gets an inheritance on which of my kids have kids. And leave nothing to those who choose to remain childfree.

Are you saying you’re going to use a potential inheritance to manipulate your kids into having children?

[Anonymous]

I actually think putting money into a properly managed trust for future generations makes sense. The living don’t need it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

The point of living is life, your life. Having kids was a part of your life. Havjng grandkids will not be, disappoint happens sometimes. That said, I don't get all the PPs who say you're wrong for wanting grandkids so badly. I want them too, but I realize that may or may not happen. My plan is to base who gets an inheritance on which of my kids have kids. And leave nothing to those who choose to remain childfree.

Are you saying you’re going to use a potential inheritance to manipulate your kids into having children?

+1. Good way to destroy your children's relationships with you and each other.

[Anonymous]

I am Gen X and never wanted children. Personal choice. Judge away. But I am now REALLY happy with this decision when I see what is happening with this planet. All of your "ancestral homes" are going to burn to the ground someday soon given this climate. And guess what? Young people don't don't want your old houses, your old shit, and your brown furniture. I am sorry. They just don't! They don't want your books, either (which is sad to me).

THE POINT, OP - IS TO LIVE YOUR LIFE HOWEVER YOU SEE FIT!

[Anonymous]

I kinda secretly hope my kids don't have kids.

[Anonymous]

Having kids is a life-changing responsibility as you ought to know. Expecting your kids to do to take on such responsibility and sacrifice a good bit of their freedom just so you can see your genes passed down is pretty selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am Gen X and never wanted children. Personal choice. Judge away. But I am now REALLY happy with this decision when I see what is happening with this planet. All of your "ancestral homes" are going to burn to the ground someday soon given this climate. And guess what? Young people don't don't want your old houses, your old shit, and your brown furniture. I am sorry. They just don't! They don't want your books, either (which is sad to me).

THE POINT, OP - IS TO LIVE YOUR LIFE HOWEVER YOU SEE FIT!

Did you know Ben Franklin has 2,000 living descendants? You will have zero.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

The point of living is life, your life. Having kids was a part of your life. Havjng grandkids will not be, disappoint happens sometimes. That said, I don't get all the PPs who say you're wrong for wanting grandkids so badly. I want them too, but I realize that may or may not happen. My plan is to base who gets an inheritance on which of my kids have kids. And leave nothing to those who choose to remain childfree.

Are you saying you’re going to use a potential inheritance to manipulate your kids into having children?

+1. Good way to destroy your children's relationships with you and each other.

They don’t know yet. But bigger picture, the ones that have kids need the money more.

[Anonymous]

One of my high school friends just lost his second child...both children he had are now dead and he is only in his 60s. Not everyone's children actually survive to have children OP, much less have grandchildren.

PSA: Please encourage your adult kids to stay away from motorcycles. And drugs. Both have killed more of my friends kids than I can count.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am Gen X and never wanted children. Personal choice. Judge away. But I am now REALLY happy with this decision when I see what is happening with this planet. All of your "ancestral homes" are going to burn to the ground someday soon given this climate. And guess what? Young people don't don't want your old houses, your old shit, and your brown furniture. I am sorry. They just don't! They don't want your books, either (which is sad to me).

THE POINT, OP - IS TO LIVE YOUR LIFE HOWEVER YOU SEE FIT!

Did you know Ben Franklin has 2,000 living descendants? You will have zero.

Do you really think I will give a flying fu€< when I’m dead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

The point of living is life, your life. Having kids was a part of your life. Havjng grandkids will not be, disappoint happens sometimes. That said, I don't get all the PPs who say you're wrong for wanting grandkids so badly. I want them too, but I realize that may or may not happen. My plan is to base who gets an inheritance on which of my kids have kids. And leave nothing to those who choose to remain childfree.

Are you saying you’re going to use a potential inheritance to manipulate your kids into having children?

+1. Good way to destroy your children's relationships with you and each other.

Ugh, trying to control your kids’ reproductive choices with money. That’s awful. And yes, it will negatively affect the sibling relationships. Would you consider giving a certain amount to each grandchild for college, then split whatever remains with all your kids?

[Anonymous]

I had my children young, 20 and 24 and always thought that I would be a young grandparent. They are now 42 (daughter) and 37 (son) and neither want children. I'm not happy about it but have never said anything to them, it's their choice. Having children is not easy (I enjoyed it immensely and still do) and I respect their decision. I would never pressure them to have children, they will certainly inherit any money that I have left, and I love them both no matter what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am Gen X and never wanted children. Personal choice. Judge away. But I am now REALLY happy with this decision when I see what is happening with this planet. All of your "ancestral homes" are going to burn to the ground someday soon given this climate. And guess what? Young people don't don't want your old houses, your old shit, and your brown furniture. I am sorry. They just don't! They don't want your books, either (which is sad to me).

THE POINT, OP - IS TO LIVE YOUR LIFE HOWEVER YOU SEE FIT!

Did you know Ben Franklin has 2,000 living descendants? You will have zero.

LOL. Who TF cares about that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am Gen X and never wanted children. Personal choice. Judge away. But I am now REALLY happy with this decision when I see what is happening with this planet. All of your "ancestral homes" are going to burn to the ground someday soon given this climate. And guess what? Young people don't don't want your old houses, your old shit, and your brown furniture. I am sorry. They just don't! They don't want your books, either (which is sad to me).

THE POINT, OP - IS TO LIVE YOUR LIFE HOWEVER YOU SEE FIT!

Did you know Ben Franklin has 2,000 living descendants? You will have zero.

Ben Franklin also participated in drafting the Declaration of Independence, invented many things, was an important diplomat and author, and was a member of both the Continental Congress and the Constitutional Convention. He could have zero descendants and have an astounding legacy.

What have you done worthwhile? Anything?

If your only claim to a worthwhile life is reproduction, you're pathetic. Dogs do that much. Do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

The point of living is life, your life. Having kids was a part of your life. Havjng grandkids will not be, disappoint happens sometimes. That said, I don't get all the PPs who say you're wrong for wanting grandkids so badly. I want them too, but I realize that may or may not happen. My plan is to base who gets an inheritance on which of my kids have kids. And leave nothing to those who choose to remain childfree.

Are you saying you’re going to use a potential inheritance to manipulate your kids into having children?

+1. Good way to destroy your children's relationships with you and each other.

Yeaaaah, my grandma did something similar and my dad and his siblings are still estranged from it. She passed in 1988.

Either divide the money equally or give it all to someone/something outside of the family. Don't play the game of a % based on offspring.