Style choices that age women in their 40s

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

And here’s where you’re wrong. I never once did the bar scene, never dressed to accentuate my chest. And I certainly never body shamed anyone for having small boobs. In case you’re too dull to grasp it from my post, I envy the small breasted.

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Nobody is saying “large boobs look bad.” The point was that you might want to consider wearing minimizing bras instead of bras that emphasize or boost. That’s all.

I just wear regular full-coverage bras, and sporty/preppy tops (depending on what I am doing). Unfortunately, though, I have large boobs and am 50, and there's nothing that can be done about it that I am willing to do (not surgery).

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

Women. We really are our own worst enemy.

Yeah… b cup here…. You sound incredibly bitter. Maybe you should work on body acceptance.

I mean, I agree, but I also think it’s telling that this anger/bitterness is coming from someone who was obviously shamed for being flat chested when she was younger.

Like she’s being rude, but I imagine it’s coming from a place of hurt from being told for years that there was something wrong with HER body. So there might be a lesson in there for everyone.

This is quite literally a thread about middle aged ladies. So yes, let’s teach our daughters and sons not to body shame (which most of us likely do). But maybe we stop acting like wounded Bs in our 40s?

I guess one question I have is whether some of the women who are hurt by PP’s comments about large breasts ever poked fun at a woman for having small breasts? Like if you ever teased a classmate fur being “flat as a board” or made passive aggressive comments about how men prefer curvy women, then you contributed to this dynamic. Doesn’t make it right, but getting mad at someone for doing to you what you’ve done to them isn’t right either.

I am medium chested and have never engaged in negative body to another woman. (And wrote the comments you responded to). The comments were rude AF. You seem to think decades “payback” on strangers is ok. If you really are in your 30s/40s, you have growing up to do.

I don’t think payback is ok and I disagree with PP’s comments. And good for you if you’ve never criticized another woman’s body. But most women do engage in body shaming at some point.

I just found the PP’s comment about getting criticized and body shamed for being flat chested interesting. I think she’s lashing out in large part because she has been taught be others that her body is wrong, and that women with larger breasts are “correct”. If that’s what you’ve been told (by other women no less), is it at all surprising that she’d want to flip that script? It’s a defense mechanism.

NP here. Where did you grow up? Were you a cheer leader in flyover country or LA or something?

I grew up in DC going to an all girls school and I honestly do not think I have ever been in a convo with girls or women criticizing other women's bodies.I know I haven't. If others did, I didn't hear them. But my friends didn't suck. And they weren't superficial.

I think you've kept bad company.

I think you just may have so internalized these attitudes that you can’t see it. No way are you in your 30s or 40s and have never encountered women saying things like “oh that dress is just not flattering on her body type” or “Laura is looking soooo thin, do you think she has an eating disorder” or similar things.

Also, while I have heard this from other women my age (especially when we were younger), I’ve also heard my mom and her generation saying a lot more, and worse, about other women and themselves. I bet you most of the women on this board have to. My mom and her sisters were constantly talking about who was too thin and who was too fat and who couldn’t pull off that outfit when I was a kid. They still do it!

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

And here’s where you’re wrong. I never once did the bar scene, never dressed to accentuate my chest. And I certainly never body shamed anyone for having small boobs. In case you’re too dull to grasp it from my post, I envy the small breasted.

And small breasted women envy you. And sometimes when people envy others, they put them down.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

And here’s where you’re wrong. I never once did the bar scene, never dressed to accentuate my chest. And I certainly never body shamed anyone for having small boobs. In case you’re too dull to grasp it from my post, I envy the small breasted.

Also for the poster who is deeply jealous of women with larger breasts because men “paid more attention” I am sorry to tell you your problem is not your small breasts. I am the b cup poster from earlier and men paid me plentyyyyy of attention in my 20s. No reason for me to feel jealous and bitter towards my fuller breasted sisters. I think your problem is maybe you’re just not attractive or have a bad personality so got overlooked a lot. The problem isn’t the larger breasted women. It is YOU, full stop.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

And here’s where you’re wrong. I never once did the bar scene, never dressed to accentuate my chest. And I certainly never body shamed anyone for having small boobs. In case you’re too dull to grasp it from my post, I envy the small breasted.

And small breasted women envy you. And sometimes when people envy others, they put them down.

Smaller breasted woman here, and no, I do not envy her. I grew one cup size during pregnancy and I was so ready for those suckers to shrink back to normal size. Being larger seems uncomfortable and inconvenient. I am happy with mine, sorry to burst your bubble.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

Women. We really are our own worst enemy.

Yeah… b cup here…. You sound incredibly bitter. Maybe you should work on body acceptance.

I mean, I agree, but I also think it’s telling that this anger/bitterness is coming from someone who was obviously shamed for being flat chested when she was younger.

Like she’s being rude, but I imagine it’s coming from a place of hurt from being told for years that there was something wrong with HER body. So there might be a lesson in there for everyone.

This is quite literally a thread about middle aged ladies. So yes, let’s teach our daughters and sons not to body shame (which most of us likely do). But maybe we stop acting like wounded Bs in our 40s?

I guess one question I have is whether some of the women who are hurt by PP’s comments about large breasts ever poked fun at a woman for having small breasts? Like if you ever teased a classmate fur being “flat as a board” or made passive aggressive comments about how men prefer curvy women, then you contributed to this dynamic. Doesn’t make it right, but getting mad at someone for doing to you what you’ve done to them isn’t right either.

I am medium chested and have never engaged in negative body to another woman. (And wrote the comments you responded to). The comments were rude AF. You seem to think decades “payback” on strangers is ok. If you really are in your 30s/40s, you have growing up to do.

I don’t think payback is ok and I disagree with PP’s comments. And good for you if you’ve never criticized another woman’s body. But most women do engage in body shaming at some point.

I just found the PP’s comment about getting criticized and body shamed for being flat chested interesting. I think she’s lashing out in large part because she has been taught be others that her body is wrong, and that women with larger breasts are “correct”. If that’s what you’ve been told (by other women no less), is it at all surprising that she’d want to flip that script? It’s a defense mechanism.

NP here. Where did you grow up? Were you a cheer leader in flyover country or LA or something?

I grew up in DC going to an all girls school and I honestly do not think I have ever been in a convo with girls or women criticizing other women's bodies.I know I haven't. If others did, I didn't hear them. But my friends didn't suck. And they weren't superficial.

I think you've kept bad company.

I think you just may have so internalized these attitudes that you can’t see it. No way are you in your 30s or 40s and have never encountered women saying things like “oh that dress is just not flattering on her body type” or “Laura is looking soooo thin, do you think she has an eating disorder” or similar things.

Also, while I have heard this from other women my age (especially when we were younger), I’ve also heard my mom and her generation saying a lot more, and worse, about other women and themselves. I bet you most of the women on this board have to. My mom and her sisters were constantly talking about who was too thin and who was too fat and who couldn’t pull off that outfit when I was a kid. They still do it!

No. I am sorry that your mother and aunts are catty and vain, but that doesn’t mean the rest of us are. If I heard someone make a nasty comment judging another woman for being small or large chested, then I would avoid her. Stop projecting your issues on to us.

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Omg you guys shut about about the boobs, I need to learn which capris are okay.

Also how tf does one wear ankle jeans and not look bad?

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

And here’s where you’re wrong. I never once did the bar scene, never dressed to accentuate my chest. And I certainly never body shamed anyone for having small boobs. In case you’re too dull to grasp it from my post, I envy the small breasted.

Also for the poster who is deeply jealous of women with larger breasts because men “paid more attention” I am sorry to tell you your problem is not your small breasts. I am the b cup poster from earlier and men paid me plentyyyyy of attention in my 20s. No reason for me to feel jealous and bitter towards my fuller breasted sisters. I think your problem is maybe you’re just not attractive or have a bad personality so got overlooked a lot. The problem isn’t the larger breasted women. It is YOU, full stop.

If you think the comments about big boobs looking matronly on older women are mean and uncalled for, then this is also mean and uncalled for.

“You’re just ugly” is just more of the same BS.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

And here’s where you’re wrong. I never once did the bar scene, never dressed to accentuate my chest. And I certainly never body shamed anyone for having small boobs. In case you’re too dull to grasp it from my post, I envy the small breasted.

Also for the poster who is deeply jealous of women with larger breasts because men “paid more attention” I am sorry to tell you your problem is not your small breasts. I am the b cup poster from earlier and men paid me plentyyyyy of attention in my 20s. No reason for me to feel jealous and bitter towards my fuller breasted sisters. I think your problem is maybe you’re just not attractive or have a bad personality so got overlooked a lot. The problem isn’t the larger breasted women. It is YOU, full stop.

If you think the comments about big boobs looking matronly on older women are mean and uncalled for, then this is also mean and uncalled for.

“You’re just ugly” is just more of the same BS.

I said what I said. I think for women who didn’t get a lot of male attention when young, there is a certain turning point when they realize that experience is never going to happy for them and they become mean and bitter. Because we live in a patriarchy where we are taught to prize male attention. Instead of being mad about that, these unfortunates lash at younger women for what they’re wearing, women with certain body type or who behave a certain way.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

And here’s where you’re wrong. I never once did the bar scene, never dressed to accentuate my chest. And I certainly never body shamed anyone for having small boobs. In case you’re too dull to grasp it from my post, I envy the small breasted.

Also for the poster who is deeply jealous of women with larger breasts because men “paid more attention” I am sorry to tell you your problem is not your small breasts. I am the b cup poster from earlier and men paid me plentyyyyy of attention in my 20s. No reason for me to feel jealous and bitter towards my fuller breasted sisters. I think your problem is maybe you’re just not attractive or have a bad personality so got overlooked a lot. The problem isn’t the larger breasted women. It is YOU, full stop.

Omg, lady. Do you not see what you just did?

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

And here’s where you’re wrong. I never once did the bar scene, never dressed to accentuate my chest. And I certainly never body shamed anyone for having small boobs. In case you’re too dull to grasp it from my post, I envy the small breasted.

Also for the poster who is deeply jealous of women with larger breasts because men “paid more attention” I am sorry to tell you your problem is not your small breasts. I am the b cup poster from earlier and men paid me plentyyyyy of attention in my 20s. No reason for me to feel jealous and bitter towards my fuller breasted sisters. I think your problem is maybe you’re just not attractive or have a bad personality so got overlooked a lot. The problem isn’t the larger breasted women. It is YOU, full stop.

If you think the comments about big boobs looking matronly on older women are mean and uncalled for, then this is also mean and uncalled for.

“You’re just ugly” is just more of the same BS.

I said what I said. I think for women who didn’t get a lot of male attention when young, there is a certain turning point when they realize that experience is never going to happy for them and they become mean and bitter. Because we live in a patriarchy where we are taught to prize male attention. Instead of being mad about that, these unfortunates lash at younger women for what they’re wearing, women with certain body type or who behave a certain way.

Since you gloated about getting male attention and put these women down, that just makes you mean. Really really mean.

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#1 thing is not dying your hair.
#2 is probably wearing ugly shoes.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

And here’s where you’re wrong. I never once did the bar scene, never dressed to accentuate my chest. And I certainly never body shamed anyone for having small boobs. In case you’re too dull to grasp it from my post, I envy the small breasted.

Also for the poster who is deeply jealous of women with larger breasts because men “paid more attention” I am sorry to tell you your problem is not your small breasts. I am the b cup poster from earlier and men paid me plentyyyyy of attention in my 20s. No reason for me to feel jealous and bitter towards my fuller breasted sisters. I think your problem is maybe you’re just not attractive or have a bad personality so got overlooked a lot. The problem isn’t the larger breasted women. It is YOU, full stop.

If you think the comments about big boobs looking matronly on older women are mean and uncalled for, then this is also mean and uncalled for.

“You’re just ugly” is just more of the same BS.

I said what I said. I think for women who didn’t get a lot of male attention when young, there is a certain turning point when they realize that experience is never going to happy for them and they become mean and bitter. Because we live in a patriarchy where we are taught to prize male attention. Instead of being mad about that, these unfortunates lash at younger women for what they’re wearing, women with certain body type or who behave a certain way.

Since you gloated about getting male attention and put these women down, that just makes you mean. Really really mean.

Ok, why do you think the first poster is so mad about larger breasted women “using them to get attention.” Also is it me, but the only place I’ve ever heard the phrase tits up is the show marvelous mrs maisel, which was set in a very different time?

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I agree that really big boobs on women are more aging over 40. It’s just gravity. I’m at a family function right now and my cousins with big boobs look older than same age people with small or even just average-sized chests. It changes your body shape and dictates how you dress to some degree. And yes, it all means more matronly.

Someone posted pics of Helen Mirren upthread to prove an older woman with big breasts can look youthful and hot. That’s how you know it’s true— Helen Mirren is the exception that proves the rule. She makes wrinkles and gray hair and a womanly older body look good.

There’s only one Helen Mirren.