Guy I'm dating says he needs time to "wrap things up" before we start our relatioship- what to do?

[Anonymous]

OP has disappeared from the thread. Any updates?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has disappeared from the thread. Any updates?

OP here. I broke it off with him.

I'm almost certain that he was lying about not having slept with the women. I also think the only reason he told me about the "coffee dates" was because we live in the same neighborhood only one block away from each other, and he knew I might run into him on one of these dates. I don't think he had any intention of ending it with them, and just wanted to buy time.

I also didn't appreciate that he told me I was being too sensitive (e.g, "overthinking it") and that I was "punishing" him, just by expressing that I felt uncomfortable with the situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP has disappeared from the thread. Any updates?

OP here. I broke it off with him.

I'm almost certain that he was lying about not having slept with the women. I also think the only reason he told me about the "coffee dates" was because we live in the same neighborhood only one block away from each other, and he knew I might run into him on one of these dates. I don't think he had any intention of ending it with them, and just wanted to buy time.

I also didn't appreciate that he told me I was being too sensitive (e.g, "overthinking it") and that I was "punishing" him, just by expressing that I felt uncomfortable with the situation.

DID YOU BREAK IT OFF IN PERSON?!?!?!?

What did he say in response?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP has disappeared from the thread. Any updates?

OP here. I broke it off with him.

I'm almost certain that he was lying about not having slept with the women. I also think the only reason he told me about the "coffee dates" was because we live in the same neighborhood only one block away from each other, and he knew I might run into him on one of these dates. I don't think he had any intention of ending it with them, and just wanted to buy time.

I also didn't appreciate that he told me I was being too sensitive (e.g, "overthinking it") and that I was "punishing" him, just by expressing that I felt uncomfortable with the situation.

DID YOU BREAK IT OFF IN PERSON?!?!?!?

What did he say in response?

OP: Ha! No, I did it over the phone, like a normal person. He wasn't happy and made a snide remark about I shouldn't assume things. That was two days ago. He has already texted me a link to a random sports article this morning, acting like nothing happened. I did not reply to the text.

[Anonymous]

Good for you, OP. I think you did the right thing. Your feelings should have been his priority the moment he said he wanted to be a committed relationship- NOT the the feelings of those other women.

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP -- something seemed off about that request to me too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP has disappeared from the thread. Any updates?

OP here. I broke it off with him.

I'm almost certain that he was lying about not having slept with the women. I also think the only reason he told me about the "coffee dates" was because we live in the same neighborhood only one block away from each other, and he knew I might run into him on one of these dates. I don't think he had any intention of ending it with them, and just wanted to buy time.

I also didn't appreciate that he told me I was being too sensitive (e.g, "overthinking it") and that I was "punishing" him, just by expressing that I felt uncomfortable with the situation.

Good for you. Half truths, sketch situation, and seeming to good to be true — often goes together.

[Anonymous]

He dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He dodged a bullet.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He dodged a bullet.

Posters saying this are naïve in thinking this was just a good guy with noble intentions. It was shady as hell.

[Anonymous]

Sorry you were used OP. Next time commitment before sex. Please also get STD tests

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He dodged a bullet.

Posters saying this are naïve in thinking this was just a good guy with noble intentions. It was shady as hell.

Shady af.

Op didn’t cry, whine, or fight with the guy. She asked her IRL friends and dcum for advice and did what she felt comfortable doing. No crazy drama between her and the guy or her and the other women.

op handled it maturely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP has disappeared from the thread. Any updates?

OP here. I broke it off with him.

I'm almost certain that he was lying about not having slept with the women. I also think the only reason he told me about the "coffee dates" was because we live in the same neighborhood only one block away from each other, and he knew I might run into him on one of these dates. I don't think he had any intention of ending it with them, and just wanted to buy time.

I also didn't appreciate that he told me I was being too sensitive (e.g, "overthinking it") and that I was "punishing" him, just by expressing that I felt uncomfortable with the situation.

Well played! You did good

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry you were used OP. Next time commitment before sex. Please also get STD tests

Op wasn't used. .

[Anonymous]

Smart, OP. Better things ahead.