How to not “let yourself go”?

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The impact of alcohol on sleep is real. I track my sleep, 1 glass of wine and my deep sleep is reduced by about 75% and I feel that. I love wine. I only drink it on the weekends now and try to keep it to two glasses a night max.

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How do sleep trackers measure deep sleep? There are no electrodes on your head, right? What are they measuring?

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Anonymous wrote:So glad I left DC every single one of you is nuts

+1
spent the majority of my life in the DC-metro area

had no clue how much nicer people were OUTSIDE of that elitist bubble

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Like a 1000% nicer. I feel a huge sense of relief whenever I leave.

+3. Way nicer.

I'm from NYC. DC is provincial and much "nicer." I live in DC and get constant shit about what a backwater, not even a city, craphole this is. I don't get the elitist bubble thing at all, I'm a self selected rube for living in Dupont. Where are you all moving?

Nobody cares. Go start a new thread about the great places you live that aren’t here

+1

No one cares that you never left.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 37. I’ve let myself go. Here’s how it happened and you can see what you can avoid. I used to eat healthy and work out regularly.
I have 3 kids between the ages of 4 and 9 (I had them when I was 27, 30, 33). After each pregnancy I basically held on to 8 lbs that I never lost, so now I am up 25 lbs on my 2008 pre kids weight.
I work part time while the kids are in school but that doesn’t mean I have free time - it means I’m with kids, then working, then with kids.
I’m really tired. I don’t work out - I try to walk some but it’s not enough. I eat fast / easy to prep stuff and I have a sweet tooth.

Despite all this I could still theoretically put care into what I wear, wear contacts, blow dry my hair, wear make up and I would look at least 50% better but most of the time I can’t even muster that.

Other people do look better than me who work and have kids. They are just better people than me!! Or maybe I’m wasting too much time volunteering at kids activities and they’re saying no. Idk.

Gyms have childcare. Being with your kids is no excuse. And since you know being out of shape is making you more tired it’s really no favor to them.

Putting your kids in gym childcare is not the same thing as spending time with your kids enraged in their interests and activities.

Yes that’s why one generally only uses it for say 90 minutes 4-5 times a week to stay healthy and energetic. Or one can make mommy martyr excuses then complain about it. Different strokes!

Do you have children? I see my toddler about 4 hours a day during the week. How am i supposed to sacrifice 1,5 hrs a day of that family time that i spend with my child?
I don't have a weight problem, but I just don't understand what is it you recommend.

And then 20 years later these women come to the Family board and complain how the new DIL or SIL doesn't let their "child" communicate with you, mom. No, it is the child prioritizing someone or something else in their life because you prioritized something else when they were kids. Dunno.
I guess it is doable when kids are asleep, but then you sacrifice the sleep time.

It is absolutely ridiculous to suggest that there will be lifelong ramifications to the child-parent relationship because the parent made time to workout. Get real.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 37. I’ve let myself go. Here’s how it happened and you can see what you can avoid. I used to eat healthy and work out regularly.
I have 3 kids between the ages of 4 and 9 (I had them when I was 27, 30, 33). After each pregnancy I basically held on to 8 lbs that I never lost, so now I am up 25 lbs on my 2008 pre kids weight.
I work part time while the kids are in school but that doesn’t mean I have free time - it means I’m with kids, then working, then with kids.
I’m really tired. I don’t work out - I try to walk some but it’s not enough. I eat fast / easy to prep stuff and I have a sweet tooth.

Despite all this I could still theoretically put care into what I wear, wear contacts, blow dry my hair, wear make up and I would look at least 50% better but most of the time I can’t even muster that.

Other people do look better than me who work and have kids. They are just better people than me!! Or maybe I’m wasting too much time volunteering at kids activities and they’re saying no. Idk.

Gyms have childcare. Being with your kids is no excuse. And since you know being out of shape is making you more tired it’s really no favor to them.

Putting your kids in gym childcare is not the same thing as spending time with your kids enraged in their interests and activities.

Yes that’s why one generally only uses it for say 90 minutes 4-5 times a week to stay healthy and energetic. Or one can make mommy martyr excuses then complain about it. Different strokes!

Do you have children? I see my toddler about 4 hours a day during the week. How am i supposed to sacrifice 1,5 hrs a day of that family time that i spend with my child?
I don't have a weight problem, but I just don't understand what is it you recommend.

And then 20 years later these women come to the Family board and complain how the new DIL or SIL doesn't let their "child" communicate with you, mom. No, it is the child prioritizing someone or something else in their life because you prioritized something else when they were kids. Dunno.
I guess it is doable when kids are asleep, but then you sacrifice the sleep time.

It is absolutely ridiculous to suggest that there will be lifelong ramifications to the child-parent relationship because the parent made time to workout. Get real.

Seriously. Four hours a day is plenty of time to play with the kids AND exercise. Perhaps you needtowork on your time management skill set.

[Anonymous]

^im a super tired sahm (bad stage of life right now), and I make time to work out. I do it at home. Usually before my kids wake up but sometimes when they’re next to me.

1. I used to do videos but, I will tell you my secret, I wrote down the list of exercises in my favorite 3-week routine (21 day fix.....). For each workout, i go down the list and do it myself. It’s better because I really focus on my form. I wrote down notes for the ones that are hard to remember / or important things I need to know about form.

2. If I can’t take 20-30m to do it before they wake, I do it next to them. Especially if they’re watching a show, I will watch it with them and ask them about them characters and lessons.

3. If 2yo sits on my while I’m doing crunches.... no big deal. It’s a list, maybe I can finish it up in 5 minutes, when he goes for a nap, or later in the day when dh gets home.


I mix it up and go running sometimes when dh is home.

So, to the pp way up there ^ it doesn’t take away from your kids. They are impressed that I can do 15 burpees in one minute, and they have helped me count if they’re paying attention. Or push-ups. Sometimes they jump next to me if I’m doing jumping jacks.

*i have two 2lb weights (cheap at Walmart) and a yoga mat. For the 21day fix yoga days, I just do YouTube Yoga with Adriene.

*i got the list idea from overhearing a dad to dad conversation about gym routines at ballet pickup. Realized I could convert my frustration with queuing up the tv, needing it to be super quiet in the morning, or negotiating with my kids tv time occasionally.... a list made perfect sense.

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Anonymous wrote:^im a super tired sahm (bad stage of life right now), and I make time to work out. I do it at home. Usually before my kids wake up but sometimes when they’re next to me.

1. I used to do videos but, I will tell you my secret, I wrote down the list of exercises in my favorite 3-week routine (21 day fix.....). For each workout, i go down the list and do it myself. It’s better because I really focus on my form. I wrote down notes for the ones that are hard to remember / or important things I need to know about form.

2. If I can’t take 20-30m to do it before they wake, I do it next to them. Especially if they’re watching a show, I will watch it with them and ask them about them characters and lessons.

3. If 2yo sits on my while I’m doing crunches.... no big deal. It’s a list, maybe I can finish it up in 5 minutes, when he goes for a nap, or later in the day when dh gets home.


I mix it up and go running sometimes when dh is home.

So, to the pp way up there ^ it doesn’t take away from your kids. They are impressed that I can do 15 burpees in one minute, and they have helped me count if they’re paying attention. Or push-ups. Sometimes they jump next to me if I’m doing jumping jacks.

*i have two 2lb weights (cheap at Walmart) and a yoga mat. For the 21day fix yoga days, I just do YouTube Yoga with Adriene.

*i got the list idea from overhearing a dad to dad conversation about gym routines at ballet pickup. Realized I could convert my frustration with queuing up the tv, needing it to be super quiet in the morning, or negotiating with my kids tv time occasionally.... a list made perfect sense.

There's something so calming and encouraging about your post. I'm literally starting a little exercising session right now, after reading it.
You have a great formula with this no fuss approach.

[Anonymous]

Biking to work has helped me tremendously. You really do need to take care of yourself, especially if married or partnered.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^im a super tired sahm (bad stage of life right now), and I make time to work out. I do it at home. Usually before my kids wake up but sometimes when they’re next to me.

1. I used to do videos but, I will tell you my secret, I wrote down the list of exercises in my favorite 3-week routine (21 day fix.....). For each workout, i go down the list and do it myself. It’s better because I really focus on my form. I wrote down notes for the ones that are hard to remember / or important things I need to know about form.

2. If I can’t take 20-30m to do it before they wake, I do it next to them. Especially if they’re watching a show, I will watch it with them and ask them about them characters and lessons.

3. If 2yo sits on my while I’m doing crunches.... no big deal. It’s a list, maybe I can finish it up in 5 minutes, when he goes for a nap, or later in the day when dh gets home.


I mix it up and go running sometimes when dh is home.

So, to the pp way up there ^ it doesn’t take away from your kids. They are impressed that I can do 15 burpees in one minute, and they have helped me count if they’re paying attention. Or push-ups. Sometimes they jump next to me if I’m doing jumping jacks.

*i have two 2lb weights (cheap at Walmart) and a yoga mat. For the 21day fix yoga days, I just do YouTube Yoga with Adriene.

*i got the list idea from overhearing a dad to dad conversation about gym routines at ballet pickup. Realized I could convert my frustration with queuing up the tv, needing it to be super quiet in the morning, or negotiating with my kids tv time occasionally.... a list made perfect sense.

There's something so calming and encouraging about your post. I'm literally starting a little exercising session right now, after reading it.
You have a great formula with this no fuss approach.

I agree. Pp seamlessly integrates exercise into the day. She's even teaching the kids (counting, self care, etc) during. Talk about multitasking, lol! I love the list idea!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Biking to work has helped me tremendously. You really do need to take care of yourself, especially if married or partnered.

because?

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are the same age as yours.

You just have to prioritize however you want. Looking good is a priority to me. I’m not a gym rat and dont like an overly toned look (kelly ripa) so I retain about 10 extra lbs. but I think you need that as you age. I have my beauty routine at 10 minutes. I dress well. I maintain my hair long as I like it that way-layered curls so little upkeep.

I DO need to do more cardio and weights for endurance but I have not prioritized it as I pass for skinny. Also I travel a lot for work and hate working out in hotel gyms as a female traveling alone. In the next couple months I’m planning to add in an hour a day now that I’ll be home a little more. When I’m ready to prioritize I will.

You pass for skinny only in your assessment, which, I believe, is flawed.

5'2" and 110 lbs and I'm a fatass? OK! Not sure why you felt the need to be offensive but it's an anon board; please watch what you write/try not to give someone an eating disorder.

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Anonymous wrote:Biking to work has helped me tremendously. You really do need to take care of yourself, especially if married or partnered.

because?

It's easy to sacrifice self care in a relationship. When you are single, no one questions it.

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5'2" and 110 lbs and I'm a fatass? OK! Not sure why you felt the need to be offensive but it's an anon board; please watch what you write/try not to give someone an eating disorder.

NP. I wouldn’t say you’re a “fatass” (such a vulgar term) but I’m 5’8” and 110 and I am slender but nowhere near emaciated. I can only imagine I would look a bit thick at this weight half a foot shorter.

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5'2" and 110 lbs and I'm a fatass? OK! Not sure why you felt the need to be offensive but it's an anon board; please watch what you write/try not to give someone an eating disorder.

NP. I wouldn’t say you’re a “fatass” (such a vulgar term) but I’m 5’8” and 110 and I am slender but nowhere near emaciated. I can only imagine I would look a bit thick at this weight half a foot shorter.

You're way too skinny. Stop trying to be a 15 year old catwalk model and eat a solid meal for once.

[Anonymous]

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5'2" and 110 lbs and I'm a fatass? OK! Not sure why you felt the need to be offensive but it's an anon board; please watch what you write/try not to give someone an eating disorder.

NP. I wouldn’t say you’re a “fatass” (such a vulgar term) but I’m 5’8” and 110 and I am slender but nowhere near emaciated. I can only imagine I would look a bit thick at this weight half a foot shorter.

Whoa - that's some really disordered thinking.