My son brought a friend on vacation

[Anonymous]

Got down plates *

Oh and to the weirdo who thinks he's some cute little Lenny from Of Mice and Men gathering precious seashells. The hell? My kids had nets of seashells. He pawed through them and took all the really big beautiful ones. How is that sweet or touching? He's a freaking greedy freeloader in every way. Poaching seashells that kids gathered is so lame, he's a grown ass man.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.

Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.

Lady, you sound horrible. Lecturing the kid for using a plate instead of a bowl for spaghetti? Seriously? I too had mY son invite a kid who was a nightmare to our beach house, but I tried to get him in line and then encouraged my son to invite his other friends who are great

No. My son had plates. The friend lectured HIM on using a plate. I didn't lecture anybody which is why half the people in this thread are calling me an idiot
Pushover. The other half seem to think I should have been running an Eliza Doolittle Pygmalion course to educate him while we were there.

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Did the kid avoid eye contact when speaking?

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.

Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.

Lady, you sound horrible. Lecturing the kid for using a plate instead of a bowl for spaghetti? Seriously? I too had mY son invite a kid who was a nightmare to our beach house, but I tried to get him in line and then encouraged my son to invite his other friends who are great

No. My son had plates. The friend lectured HIM on using a plate. I didn't lecture anybody which is why half the people in this thread are calling me an idiot
Pushover. The other half seem to think I should have been running an Eliza Doolittle Pygmalion course to educate him while we were there.

You had a guest from hell. It happens to all of us at least one. I really am very sorry and sympathetic because it's the easiest way to ruin a vacation. I absolutely understand the need to vent. You didn't do anything wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Your son didn’t invite him, you did. You are the one that allowed it, and is paying for it. Fault yourself and stop being so rude. It’s a vacation for him too. You don’t have to live the rest of your life with him.

+1

Thank you, DCUM'er, for putting in words exactly what I was thinking.

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Anonymous wrote:Got down plates *

Oh and to the weirdo who thinks he's some cute little Lenny from Of Mice and Men gathering precious seashells. The hell? My kids had nets of seashells. He pawed through them and took all the really big beautiful ones. How is that sweet or touching? He's a freaking greedy freeloader in every way. Poaching seashells that kids gathered is so lame, he's a grown ass man.

Somewhere at sometime, someone will be posting something like this:

A guy I’m friendly, but not best friends, with invited me to go in his family vacation. I was a little nervous but figured it would be fun and my parents encouraged me to try something new. My friend’s mom gave me the stink eye every time I opened my mouth. It’s like I went from expecting to feel welcomed to feeling like a burden. I could do no right in her (stink) eyes. If we went out for the day for golf, I know she was secretly wondering how someone like me could golf for a day. She seemed annoyed about everything from shells to cookies to hush puppies. I was soooo glad to get home to my loving and accepting family. Judging others really sucks the life out of someone - my poor friend.

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I don't know if this has already been said, but I wonder if the OP would feel the same way if the friend was not fat.

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Anonymous wrote:Got down plates *

Oh and to the weirdo who thinks he's some cute little Lenny from Of Mice and Men gathering precious seashells. The hell? My kids had nets of seashells. He pawed through them and took all the really big beautiful ones. How is that sweet or touching? He's a freaking greedy freeloader in every way. Poaching seashells that kids gathered is so lame, he's a grown ass man.

Somewhere at sometime, someone will be posting something like this:

A guy I’m friendly, but not best friends, with invited me to go in his family vacation. I was a little nervous but figured it would be fun and my parents encouraged me to try something new. My friend’s mom gave me the stink eye every time I opened my mouth. It’s like I went from expecting to feel welcomed to feeling like a burden. I could do no right in her (stink) eyes. If we went out for the day for golf, I know she was secretly wondering how someone like me could golf for a day. She seemed annoyed about everything from shells to cookies to hush puppies. I was soooo glad to get home to my loving and accepting family. Judging others really sucks the life out of someone - my poor friend.

I’m jealous of all the people on this thread who just cannot wrap their heads around someone just being an unpleasant, selfish person. You must have had the good fortune to never meet someone like OP’s guest — trust me, they are out there.

[Anonymous]

OP - I’ve posted before defending you and I am still completely on your side especially after the Lenny from Of Mice and Men quote.

You are cracking me up! I feel your pain but am so laughing at this whole thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Got down plates *

Oh and to the weirdo who thinks he's some cute little Lenny from Of Mice and Men gathering precious seashells. The hell? My kids had nets of seashells. He pawed through them and took all the really big beautiful ones. How is that sweet or touching? He's a freaking greedy freeloader in every way. Poaching seashells that kids gathered is so lame, he's a grown ass man.

You sound like a terrible person OP. You could have controlled the situation much better by just being a decent adult and telling the friend your rules. Instead you came here and spewed anger and disgust at a 19 year old who you never took the time to tell that your weren't ok with his behavior. When my kids' friends come on vacation with me, I don't consider them freeloaders because I assume that we'll pay for everything if my kid invites a friend. I'd actually feel awkward taking money from someone who's still in their teens or hasn't graduated from college. I also would not take money from their family. I'd also be adult enough to feel comfortable setting boundaries for someone who is on vacation with our family. Maybe you don't want to micromanage your guest, but I'm pretty sure politely setting forth some basic rules would have had better results than saying nothing and then posting a bunch of hateful things about a 19 year old. Societally (supported by brain development research) a 19 year old is not a grown ass man, but you are a grown ass woman who sounds hateful, mean spirited.

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Anonymous wrote:Got down plates *

Oh and to the weirdo who thinks he's some cute little Lenny from Of Mice and Men gathering precious seashells. The hell? My kids had nets of seashells. He pawed through them and took all the really big beautiful ones. How is that sweet or touching? He's a freaking greedy freeloader in every way. Poaching seashells that kids gathered is so lame, he's a grown ass man.

Somewhere at sometime, someone will be posting something like this:

A guy I’m friendly, but not best friends, with invited me to go in his family vacation. I was a little nervous but figured it would be fun and my parents encouraged me to try something new. My friend’s mom gave me the stink eye every time I opened my mouth. It’s like I went from expecting to feel welcomed to feeling like a burden. I could do no right in her (stink) eyes. If we went out for the day for golf, I know she was secretly wondering how someone like me could golf for a day. She seemed annoyed about everything from shells to cookies to hush puppies. I was soooo glad to get home to my loving and accepting family. Judging others really sucks the life out of someone - my poor friend.

I’m jealous of all the people on this thread who just cannot wrap their heads around someone just being an unpleasant, selfish person. You must have had the good fortune to never meet someone like OP’s guest — trust me, they are out there.

No,dear, I know many selfish people. That’s not the point. The point is this kid was an invited guest of her family. The fact that he was a selfish or annoying guest is too bad. He was still her guest.

[Anonymous]

You sound like an insufferable bit**, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Got down plates *

Oh and to the weirdo who thinks he's some cute little Lenny from Of Mice and Men gathering precious seashells. The hell? My kids had nets of seashells. He pawed through them and took all the really big beautiful ones. How is that sweet or touching? He's a freaking greedy freeloader in every way. Poaching seashells that kids gathered is so lame, he's a grown ass man.

Somewhere at sometime, someone will be posting something like this:

A guy I’m friendly, but not best friends, with invited me to go in his family vacation. I was a little nervous but figured it would be fun and my parents encouraged me to try something new. My friend’s mom gave me the stink eye every time I opened my mouth. It’s like I went from expecting to feel welcomed to feeling like a burden. I could do no right in her (stink) eyes. If we went out for the day for golf, I know she was secretly wondering how someone like me could golf for a day. She seemed annoyed about everything from shells to cookies to hush puppies. I was soooo glad to get home to my loving and accepting family. Judging others really sucks the life out of someone - my poor friend.

I’m jealous of all the people on this thread who just cannot wrap their heads around someone just being an unpleasant, selfish person. You must have had the good fortune to never meet someone like OP’s guest — trust me, they are out there.

No,dear, I know many selfish people. That’s not the point. The point is this kid was an invited guest of her family. The fact that he was a selfish or annoying guest is too bad. He was still her guest.

And? OP accommodated her guest. You can’t also decree that she not privately be annoyed by an annoying person.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - I’ve posted before defending you and I am still completely on your side especially after the Lenny from Of Mice and Men quote.

You are cracking me up! I feel your pain but am so laughing at this whole thing.

New poster. Same, same. ManBabyPig sounds terrible. It's ok to vent here, and OP is hilarious. Have any of you never met "black hole" people? You are lucky.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - I’ve posted before defending you and I am still completely on your side especially after the Lenny from Of Mice and Men quote.

You are cracking me up! I feel your pain but am so laughing at this whole thing.

New poster. Same, same. ManBabyPig sounds terrible. It's ok to vent here, and OP is hilarious. Have any of you never met "black hole" people? You are lucky.

I’d rather meet a black hole person than a complainer over stupid crap. Cookies? Shells? Hush puppies? Sunblock? Gmafb