My son brought a friend on vacation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - I’ve posted before defending you and I am still completely on your side especially after the Lenny from Of Mice and Men quote.

You are cracking me up! I feel your pain but am so laughing at this whole thing.

New poster. Same, same. ManBabyPig sounds terrible. It's ok to vent here, and OP is hilarious. Have any of you never met "black hole" people? You are lucky.

Agree 100%! I feel for you OP! Your son’s “friend” sounds like a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - I’ve posted before defending you and I am still completely on your side especially after the Lenny from Of Mice and Men quote.

You are cracking me up! I feel your pain but am so laughing at this whole thing.

New poster. Same, same. ManBabyPig sounds terrible. It's ok to vent here, and OP is hilarious. Have any of you never met "black hole" people? You are lucky.

I’d rather meet a black hole person than a complainer over stupid crap. Cookies? Shells? Hush puppies? Sunblock? Gmafb

The obnoxious kid was also complaining over stupid crap, so...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - I’ve posted before defending you and I am still completely on your side especially after the Lenny from Of Mice and Men quote.

You are cracking me up! I feel your pain but am so laughing at this whole thing.

New poster. Same, same. ManBabyPig sounds terrible. It's ok to vent here, and OP is hilarious. Have any of you never met "black hole" people? You are lucky.

I’d rather meet a black hole person than a complainer over stupid crap. Cookies? Shells? Hush puppies? Sunblock? Gmafb

The obnoxious kid was also complaining over stupid crap, so...

Operative word.

[Anonymous]

I really hope OP isn’t in this area because if she is then eventually the other kid’s parents will see this thread.

[Anonymous]

I haven't commented until now, but the OP just sounds mean and cruel. She insulted the people here offering advice, this forum, and the guest. I get it. You just wanted to vent. But don't you think your time on your vacation would have been better spent addressing the situation instead of posting and reading here?

At first I had sympathy for you, but none after reading your replies. And you had agency in this situation, and apparently did not take any of the really helpful suggestions. Did you just want to stay pissed off? Because it comes across that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Got down plates *

Oh and to the weirdo who thinks he's some cute little Lenny from Of Mice and Men gathering precious seashells. The hell? My kids had nets of seashells. He pawed through them and took all the really big beautiful ones. How is that sweet or touching? He's a freaking greedy freeloader in every way. Poaching seashells that kids gathered is so lame, he's a grown ass man.

Did you say anything so your girls would get their shells back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Got down plates *

Oh and to the weirdo who thinks he's some cute little Lenny from Of Mice and Men gathering precious seashells. The hell? My kids had nets of seashells. He pawed through them and took all the really big beautiful ones. How is that sweet or touching? He's a freaking greedy freeloader in every way. Poaching seashells that kids gathered is so lame, he's a grown ass man.

Did you say anything so your girls would get their shells back?

Surely not. Then she couldn't come here and bitch about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Got down plates *

Oh and to the weirdo who thinks he's some cute little Lenny from Of Mice and Men gathering precious seashells. The hell? My kids had nets of seashells. He pawed through them and took all the really big beautiful ones. How is that sweet or touching? He's a freaking greedy freeloader in every way. Poaching seashells that kids gathered is so lame, he's a grown ass man.

Did you say anything so your girls would get their shells back?

I'm guessing that maybe the kids offered to let him take a couple of them, so maybe OP couldn't say anything at that point. It's still poor form for him to pick through them and take the biggest nicest ones though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - I’ve posted before defending you and I am still completely on your side especially after the Lenny from Of Mice and Men quote.

You are cracking me up! I feel your pain but am so laughing at this whole thing.

New poster. Same, same. ManBabyPig sounds terrible. It's ok to vent here, and OP is hilarious. Have any of you never met "black hole" people? You are lucky.

I’d rather meet a black hole person than a complainer over stupid crap. Cookies? Shells? Hush puppies? Sunblock? Gmafb

The obnoxious kid was also complaining over stupid crap, so...

Operative word.

Great point! I should have said “adult”, because that’s what he is.

[Anonymous]

I dated a guy in college who was from an extremely wealthy family. When out to dinner he was used to ordering starters, entrees and dessert, at the very least. My parents were horrified, especially as he often ate only a bit of what he ordered. This was his "normal." Once I explained it he modified his behavior. When I was with his family I followed their lead. Give kids the benefit of the doubt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Got down plates *

Oh and to the weirdo who thinks he's some cute little Lenny from Of Mice and Men gathering precious seashells. The hell? My kids had nets of seashells. He pawed through them and took all the really big beautiful ones. How is that sweet or touching? He's a freaking greedy freeloader in every way. Poaching seashells that kids gathered is so lame, he's a grown ass man.

Did you say anything so your girls would get their shells back?

I'm guessing that maybe the kids offered to let him take a couple of them, so maybe OP couldn't say anything at that point. It's still poor form for him to pick through them and take the biggest nicest ones though.

Seriously! Can you imagine being a little girl who found some awesome nautilus shell, or sand dollar or shark tooth, and having your brother’s college-aged friend swoop in and take them for himself? What an ass.

[Anonymous]

I’m amazed that so many posters are acting like a 19 year old “adult” is the same as a 30-40 something adult. Like they turn 18 and instantly know what to do and how to act and everything is proper and perfect.

Wtf planet are you people from? I was a disaster at 19. I probably wouldn’t have done what OP described but in lots of other ways I was figuring out how to be an adult, making mistakes left and right. And whether he was 6, 19, or 59 you need to communicate expectations or STFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m amazed that so many posters are acting like a 19 year old “adult” is the same as a 30-40 something adult. Like they turn 18 and instantly know what to do and how to act and everything is proper and perfect.

Wtf planet are you people from? I was a disaster at 19. I probably wouldn’t have done what OP described but in lots of other ways I was figuring out how to be an adult, making mistakes left and right. And whether he was 6, 19, or 59 you need to communicate expectations or STFU.

Eh, if OP came here saying that she told her overweight guest that he needed to eat less, PPs would be having rage strokes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m amazed that so many posters are acting like a 19 year old “adult” is the same as a 30-40 something adult. Like they turn 18 and instantly know what to do and how to act and everything is proper and perfect.

Wtf planet are you people from? I was a disaster at 19. I probably wouldn’t have done what OP described but in lots of other ways I was figuring out how to be an adult, making mistakes left and right. And whether he was 6, 19, or 59 you need to communicate expectations or STFU.

Most people don't behave like a wild animal at 19. They're adults living away from home at college, they aren't 6 years old. I have a 4 year old who wouldn't pick through and take the nicest things for himself if someone offered to give him a couple, he would "leave some nice ones for them too". Because that's the way we raise our kids.

If you were raised by wolves, and you were a "disaster", then that's what you were. Don't normalize it. Most of us, even those who weren't parented all that well due to various issues, would not behave the way OP is describing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Got down plates *

Oh and to the weirdo who thinks he's some cute little Lenny from Of Mice and Men gathering precious seashells. The hell? My kids had nets of seashells. He pawed through them and took all the really big beautiful ones. How is that sweet or touching? He's a freaking greedy freeloader in every way. Poaching seashells that kids gathered is so lame, he's a grown ass man.

Did you say anything so your girls would get their shells back?

I'm guessing that maybe the kids offered to let him take a couple of them, so maybe OP couldn't say anything at that point. It's still poor form for him to pick through them and take the biggest nicest ones though.

Seriously! Can you imagine being a little girl who found some awesome nautilus shell, or sand dollar or shark tooth, and having your brother’s college-aged friend swoop in and take them for himself? What an ass.

And then to top it off, your mother knows about the whole thing and doesn’t say anything on your behalf.