My son brought a friend on vacation
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And it's making it hard for me to enjoy myself. Hes 19 and there's no other way to put it, he's a glutton. Very overweight and hyper fixated on food to the extent it makes me lose my appetite to have to eat a table with him. (He literally smacked his hands together and rubbed them with glee at a pizza restaurant the other day.) He has eaten all the cookies we bought all by himself. This doesn't even stop at food- Yesterday we went down to the beach and I opened a brand new bottle of sunscreen- sprayed myself and the two younger kids, handed it to him, and he EMPTIED it. I still don't know how that's possible. If we go out to eat, he orders absolutely the most expensive thing on the menu (the market catch of the day which often doesn't even have a set price and is $35+).
All he does is perseverate on when he will eat next, how much he will get, will there be food where we are going. The theee boys are going golfing today and I can't imagine how he's going to go 4 hours without eating. He sits on the couch and doesn't offer to do anything like take out trash, carry a cooler down, do the dishes. He's a freeloader who is consuming like 4x the amount of resources and foods members of my own family are. He bitched yesterday about "having to eat cereal for breakfast" but of course won't walk himself anywhere to buy food with his own money if ours isn't up to his standards. God it is frustrating. |
Anonymous
| How do you think overweight people get that way? |
Anonymous
| Sorry OP, that sucks. His parents did a poor job raising him. |
Anonymous
| Your son didn’t invite him, you did. You are the one that allowed it, and is paying for it. Fault yourself and stop being so rude. It’s a vacation for him too. You don’t have to live the rest of your life with him. |
Anonymous
| You can't cure his gluttony in a week (and it isn't really your place), but I'll be damned if I'll let a kid get away with not pitching in. He may not offer to take out the trash or do dishes, but I sure will treat him like the rest of the family when it comes to chores. |
Anonymous
| How did your son meet him and what activities do they do together besides eat? |
Anonymous
| This is an adult. You need to tell him that he needs to. It food unless you agreed to pay his way on this vacation. Have you spoken to your son about this? He must be mortified. |
Anonymous
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Have inexpensive food available at your rental place - cereal, hot dogs/buns, spaghetti/sauce, chicken drumsticks, mac & cheese, eggs, lunch meat, bread, English muffins.
Tell the boys that you are eating breakfast in, they will be on their own for lunch (they can make something or use their own money to go out) and you will cook dinner in most nights with a couple of (not every!) planned group meals out at restaurants. If they need snacks you can give them 20 bucks, take them to the store and tell them to go in and they can decide what they would like to buy with the money. |
Anonymous
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The boys can be in charge of making dinner one or two nights. It takes almost zero culinary skills to make a pot of spaghetti, a salad and heat garlic bread in the oven.
If you need him to carry a cooler, vacuum sand, carry stuff up from the beach, tidy the kitchen or bathroom, etc - ASK him. |
Anonymous
| He has no home training. |
Anonymous
If Op is cooking for this kid, driving him around, taking him out to restaurants and silently cursing him when he doesn't realize that she has a problem doing all of this.....it is time to put an end to it. If he complains that Cheerios are for breakfast, oh well. Maybe he can make himself some toast instead. Don't be a martyr about it. Do and provide only what seems reasonable and agreeable to you. |
Anonymous
| Buffets are your friend, Op. When you take him out, hit the seafood buffets. |
Anonymous
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You invited him, you feed him. But it is fine to set limits on what he can order. Or remind him to use hints sparingly. Although apparently we are all suppose to be using more sunscreen. Maybe his parents taught him the whole 1 ounce per body part rule.
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Anonymous
| Surely you knew this kid was like this before you brought him on vacation? |
Anonymous
| Frat brother that you’ve never met before? |