Men in your 50s, do you find women in their 50s attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is truly nasty even for DCUM standards. Seething with bitterness.

It's pretty much right in line with DCUM nasty standards. and as usual, most of the nasty is coming from the women in this thread.

I have a great loving relationship with a woman 15 years younger than me. We have a lot of the same life experiences in common that are hard for others to understand if they haven't lived it. She isn't crazy or desperate and could easily date any number of men closer to her age, or even younger. She is attractive, fit, and not surprisingly, she gets a lot of offers.

If this weren't such a nasty place, maybe one or two woman might say, I'm happy for you both that you found each other and enjoy such a great relationship. But this isn't the place for that. Even those who say they are happily married, most of them, somehow feel very threatened by the idea of men dating younger. Some of the guys get it, but this is more of a a board for women to vent their unhappiness and bitterness and project it on to the men why feel are responsible for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Short answer to original question is not very often. Some attraction is related to attitude, and confidence, and older women have that more than younger women. But younger women have tighter, leaner, firmer bodies. Just a fact... [/quote


Most people, men and women, even in their 20s and 30s are not fit but fat - just not attractive - as has been discussed over and over on DCUM. Overweight and/or obese is the norm in the USA but young and fat is preferable to old and fat.

[Anonymous]

I'm 64 and my DH is 66. If something were to happen to me I'd be happy if my DH found someone 50-55. He comes from great gene pool, has a tremendous amount of energy and is very young at heart. I look around at my age group and many just seem to act old let alone look old. If he chased after someone 40-45 I'd come back from the dead and kill him!

[Anonymous]

We're in our fifties. If I drop dead, I don't care if he finds himself a 30 or 40 year old, as long as she's a good person and kind to our kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

What do you mean by "Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her."? If a man is not attracted to her, she shrugs them off? That sounds pretty bitchy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're in our fifties. If I drop dead, I don't care if he finds himself a 30 or 40 year old, as long as she's a good person and kind to our kids.

In that case he really has something to look forward to!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't find Katie or Gillian exceptionally attractive. Well-maintained but no more.

One nice thing about the aging process is that ugly people get to have the last laugh. Whatever natural beauty existed when you were young is irrelevant when you are in your 50s. After a certain age, looks are mostly about being "well-maintained." In fact, "rugged" faces tend to age better than "pretty" faces. Someone who was plain when they were young can be the Belle of the Ball when they are older (the over 50s ball) simply because their better-looking peers have mostly hit the wall by then.

THis is true. I am 54 and have no wrinkles yet, or grey, so now I am winning!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is truly nasty even for DCUM standards. Seething with bitterness.

It's pretty much right in line with DCUM nasty standards. and as usual, most of the nasty is coming from the women in this thread.

I have a great loving relationship with a woman 15 years younger than me. We have a lot of the same life experiences in common that are hard for others to understand if they haven't lived it. She isn't crazy or desperate and could easily date any number of men closer to her age, or even younger. She is attractive, fit, and not surprisingly, she gets a lot of offers.

If this weren't such a nasty place, maybe one or two woman might say, I'm happy for you both that you found each other and enjoy such a great relationship. But this isn't the place for that. Even those who say they are happily married, most of them, somehow feel very threatened by the idea of men dating younger. Some of the guys get it, but this is more of a a board for women to vent their unhappiness and bitterness and project it on to the men why feel are responsible for it.

I don't feel at all threatened by an older man dating a younger woman. I used to be attracted to older men, but that was when I was in my 20s. I'm in my late 40's now, and don't find 99% of 60 yr old men attractive at all.

I guess if you go by this board, a lot of women are bitter and angry at having to take on the primary duties for childcare/housechore AND work at the same time. And actually, stats show that this is indeed true - women are the primary caregivers, even for elderly parents. That's a lot of stress and pressure on women.Most of the posts in the relationship forum by women are about how their DHs don't pull their weight at home. They are married to man-babies. They wasted their youth on a man-baby, and now that their kids are grown, older men don't want them. That's probably where the bitterness comes in. Just a guess. I'm happily married to a man six years older than me who pulls his weight at home, and then some. And we do have sex regularly now that my stress level has gone down (not so when I was stressed out with work, kids, etc). Honestly, I don't think some of you men realize how stress on a women will kill her libido in a heart beat. But, I digress. This thread isn't about why your DWs won't have sex with you.

[Anonymous]

I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

40 year old woman here and I was just thinking the same thing. 61 is too old for me. My limit would be about 53, but preferably 40-45.

I am 47 female, and I would not date a 60+ year old unless he looked much younger, around 50 (maybe). My DH is in his early 50's, but looks a bit younger. He's got a bit of a belly but other than that is in pretty good shape. I am a size 4 and am about the same weight as when I got married in my early 30's.

The only way a 60+ yr old man can get a 40 yr old woman is:

1. he has lots and lots of money
2. he is very fit and looks much younger than 60
3. the woman is very very desperate

I am a 54 yo widow, and I wouldn't want to date someone in their 60s!

[Anonymous]

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I'll concede that .01% of women in their 40's would date a 61 yr old man without any of those reasons, but more than likely, that man has to be extra special. Again, as you noted, there are a dearth of eligible older people to date, on both sides. So when women have to expand that age pool, it's because they are getting desperate. It is a lot easier for older men because physical attributes aren't *as* important to women as they are to men. Plus it just seems there are more eligible women than men.

Do you realize how many times you contradicted yourself? If it were only 01% or even just 5%, I'd have probably given up on that age range. I'll venture to guess that it's closer to 10%-15%. But use any number you want because, unless you are a man who is actively looking to date younger women, you have no basis for your numbers except what you want to believe. With all due respect, you have no idea what you are talking about. I respect your opinion that maybe you wouldn't date an older man, but you can't expand that to project it on all women, no matter how hard it is for you to believe.

You're right that in this area of the country, the eligible women to men ratio is among the highest, if not the highest in the country. Lucky us. At the same time, the women I've dated, like attractive women anywhere, are certainly not desperate to find a man. Any one of them could find a date with her pick of plenty of interested men her age or younger, any night of the week.

I'm starting to think that I must be a real catch, if only I could figure out why. I'm not tall, particularly fit (but not a fat slob), my face does pass for much younger, but I'm not wealthy at all. I don't promise marriage and I'm done making babies. Could it be that I'm just the kind of guy that some young women like to date? Is it possible that I'm just that charming? Because as for desperate or crazy, my crazy filter has developed and strengthened over many years of dating. They no longer get through, believe me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."

You're delusional but if you're happy then that's OK!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."

You're delusional but if you're happy then that's OK!

Haha this is DCUM...every woman here "looks young for her age."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."

You're delusional but if you're happy then that's OK!

No not delusional. Happens all the time with men and women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."

LOL those 20 and 30 year olds aren't fooled. They don't think you're 32. If they approach you, it's to get a good laugh or to strike "Cougar" off their sexual bucket list.