Men in your 50s, do you find women in their 50s attractive?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."

LOL those 20 and 30 year olds aren't fooled. They don't think you're 32. If they approach you, it's to get a good laugh or to strike "Cougar" off their sexual bucket list.

Women make the same mistake too. Don't think they are trying to strike off their bucket list.

[Anonymous]

I'm 43, and thought I would never date a guy more than 15 years older than me, but two years ago, my friend set me up with a friend of hers that was 60, and honestly, we just really hit it off. He wasn't rich, and was average looking (balding, but fit), but he was really funny, nice, smart, a good listener, and had a ton of great stories. Ultimately the relationship ended because I moved to accept a promotion (probably part of the larger issue as to why I'm single at 43) but it just goes to show that you never know who you are going to connect with if you give it a chance.

[Anonymous]

I'm a 52 year old male and I don't care if a woman is 42 or 62. I'm interested in someone who is attractive, smart, fun, athletic, sane etc.etc and enjoys sex. The attributes I'm interested in severely narrow the playing field so the age range needs to be wide.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."

LOL those 20 and 30 year olds aren't fooled. They don't think you're 32. If they approach you, it's to get a good laugh or to strike "Cougar" off their sexual bucket list.

It's more basic than that. For any woman, no matter how old, fat, or ugly, there are many men out there who will hit that. They know you're in your 50s, they just don't care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."

You're delusional but if you're happy then that's OK!

Haha this is DCUM...every woman here "looks young for her age."

And her kids are happy and thriving after the divorce!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is truly nasty even for DCUM standards. Seething with bitterness.

It's pretty much right in line with DCUM nasty standards. and as usual, most of the nasty is coming from the women in this thread.

I have a great loving relationship with a woman 15 years younger than me. We have a lot of the same life experiences in common that are hard for others to understand if they haven't lived it. She isn't crazy or desperate and could easily date any number of men closer to her age, or even younger. She is attractive, fit, and not surprisingly, she gets a lot of offers.

If this weren't such a nasty place, maybe one or two woman might say, I'm happy for you both that you found each other and enjoy such a great relationship. But this isn't the place for that. Even those who say they are happily married, most of them, somehow feel very threatened by the idea of men dating younger. Some of the guys get it, but this is more of a a board for women to vent their unhappiness and bitterness and project it on to the men why feel are responsible for it.

I don't feel at all threatened by an older man dating a younger woman. I used to be attracted to older men, but that was when I was in my 20s. I'm in my late 40's now, and don't find 99% of 60 yr old men attractive at all.

I guess if you go by this board, a lot of women are bitter and angry at having to take on the primary duties for childcare/housechore AND work at the same time. And actually, stats show that this is indeed true - women are the primary caregivers, even for elderly parents. That's a lot of stress and pressure on women.Most of the posts in the relationship forum by women are about how their DHs don't pull their weight at home. They are married to man-babies. They wasted their youth on a man-baby, and now that their kids are grown, older men don't want them. That's probably where the bitterness comes in. Just a guess. I'm happily married to a man six years older than me who pulls his weight at home, and then some. And we do have sex regularly now that my stress level has gone down (not so when I was stressed out with work, kids, etc). Honestly, I don't think some of you men realize how stress on a women will kill her libido in a heart beat. But, I digress. This thread isn't about why your DWs won't have sex with you.

Nope. It's not "stress". And choreplay won't solve it.

As soon as you move in with a woman, the countdown clock to sexual boredom begins. You've usually got maybe 2-5 years. Do all the chores you want, her libido will go away anyway.

This PP is still in the 2-5 year excitement window. It's only a matter of time before she rediscovers her "stress" and stops having sex with her poor DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 52 year old male and I don't care if a woman is 42 or 62. I'm interested in someone who is attractive, smart, fun, athletic, sane etc.etc and enjoys sex. The attributes I'm interested in severely narrow the playing field so the age range needs to be wide.

Same for me. But as you move away from the 40s age range, finding all, or most of those things in a woman becomes a lot more difficult. Even just putting attractiveness aside, athletic and enjoys sex is a tough call for the 55 and older set.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."

No they don't. No woman in her 50s looks early 30s. Your body, fully dressed, may be indistinguishable from an early-30s version. Naked, it will not be the case. Your face will definitely not look early 30s. And that's normal. That's OK. And if you sound like you're in your early 30s, that I would find utterly unattractive.

Women in your 50s: your claim to attractiveness is not in how closely you resemble someone in their early 30s. It is how well you parlay your experience into wisdom and authority. Nothing looks more pathetic than an old little girl. At 50, you should be out of the princess realm and into the queen realm.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is truly nasty even for DCUM standards. Seething with bitterness.

It's pretty much right in line with DCUM nasty standards. and as usual, most of the nasty is coming from the women in this thread.

I have a great loving relationship with a woman 15 years younger than me. We have a lot of the same life experiences in common that are hard for others to understand if they haven't lived it. She isn't crazy or desperate and could easily date any number of men closer to her age, or even younger. She is attractive, fit, and not surprisingly, she gets a lot of offers.

If this weren't such a nasty place, maybe one or two woman might say, I'm happy for you both that you found each other and enjoy such a great relationship. But this isn't the place for that. Even those who say they are happily married, most of them, somehow feel very threatened by the idea of men dating younger. Some of the guys get it, but this is more of a a board for women to vent their unhappiness and bitterness and project it on to the men why feel are responsible for it.

I don't feel at all threatened by an older man dating a younger woman. I used to be attracted to older men, but that was when I was in my 20s. I'm in my late 40's now, and don't find 99% of 60 yr old men attractive at all.

I guess if you go by this board, a lot of women are bitter and angry at having to take on the primary duties for childcare/housechore AND work at the same time. And actually, stats show that this is indeed true - women are the primary caregivers, even for elderly parents. That's a lot of stress and pressure on women.Most of the posts in the relationship forum by women are about how their DHs don't pull their weight at home. They are married to man-babies. They wasted their youth on a man-baby, and now that their kids are grown, older men don't want them. That's probably where the bitterness comes in. Just a guess. I'm happily married to a man six years older than me who pulls his weight at home, and then some. And we do have sex regularly now that my stress level has gone down (not so when I was stressed out with work, kids, etc). Honestly, I don't think some of you men realize how stress on a women will kill her libido in a heart beat. But, I digress. This thread isn't about why your DWs won't have sex with you.

Now turn this around and say what I did, that as a 61 YO man, I don't find most of the women in their 50s up to my age to be who I want to date for any number of reasons and not just attractiveness, so I date 40s. Is there any difference in what we are saying? That said, your post is one of the best, most sensible explanations in this whole thread in explaining the bitterness expressed and what may be behind it. You make some great points and I think you making them.

I've always been the kind of guy who pulls my own weight and I raised my kids on my own after my divorce (getting rid of a woman-child). I've also done the caregiver thing for an elderly parent so I can relate there as well. I don't date to look for a caregiver in later years, or someone who will allow me to be a man-baby now while she takes care me and feeds me. I'm not looking to marry or even live with someone. When she comes to my house for date night, I do the cooking and clean up and have the evening planned. Maybe those things are the attraction? I don't know and don't spend time thinking about what women see in me.

I know that in their late 40s is a time when many woman are through the child raising years and if divorced, long past taking care of a man-baby husband and looking for some real fun they may feel they missed for many years. Some men at that age may still be man-babies, looking to rebound with a replacement W who allows him to start all over again. That clearly isn't me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We're in our fifties. If I drop dead, I don't care if he finds himself a 30 or 40 year old, as long as she's a good person and kind to our kids.

In that case he really has something to look forward to!

Why would you say something so mean-spirited to someone with a sensible, positive attitude? You sound full of hate and fear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."

No they don't. No woman in her 50s looks early 30s. Your body, fully dressed, may be indistinguishable from an early-30s version. Naked, it will not be the case. Your face will definitely not look early 30s. And that's normal. That's OK. And if you sound like you're in your early 30s, that I would find utterly unattractive.

Women in your 50s: your claim to attractiveness is not in how closely you resemble someone in their early 30s. It is how well you parlay your experience into wisdom and authority. Nothing looks more pathetic than an old little girl. At 50, you should be out of the princess realm and into the queen realm.

What he said. It's a thing for young guys these days to hit on older woman. I can't explain it but it's definitely a thing. They aren't doing it because they mistake you for a 30 year old. They know what they are doing. No young man with any smarts will ever comment on a woman's age without subtracting at least 10 years from his best real guess, and another 10 if he's trying to bed her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:30 is the magic number for women. It's down hill (very slowly) from there. Once they hit 40 it's like a runaway truck flying down the mountain.

BAHAHAHA! I love when people say nonsense like this.

BTW the men I've known who date younger are usually gross in general: too much tanning bed, an immature "dude" attitude that doesn't suit, sex insecurities, or want to be hero worshipped because their egos are fragile.

Mature men worth their salt generally have no issue dating women 50+.

I’m a 61 YO man & I agree with you.
Harvey Weinstein is a perfect example.

Trump is another good example.

Perfect examples of what? Weinstein, and in a better world Trump, are not in trouble for dating younger women. They are in trouble for harassing women. Very different. Harassment is wrong, period. Age (of an adult) has nothing to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."

LOL those 20 and 30 year olds aren't fooled. They don't think you're 32. If they approach you, it's to get a good laugh or to strike "Cougar" off their sexual bucket list.

It's more basic than that. For any woman, no matter how old, fat, or ugly, there are many men out there who will hit that. They know you're in your 50s, they just don't care.

They'll hit it, but they won't stay with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

This is so true. Since I am threatened by the mature, confident women, I have to settle for young, tight women. Sometimes life is cruel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

This is so true. Since I am threatened by the mature, confident women, I have to settle for young, tight women. Sometimes life is cruel.

You realize we're all tight if you're not tiny, right?

Sometimes life is cruel.