Was I wrong to skip MIL birthday dinner?

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Anonymous wrote:I mean how hard would it have been to take 90 minutes to do this. Its a Friday, not a school day, and you had the rest of the weekend to "recover".

How hard would it have been for her HUSBAND to go? Come on.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Calm down, boomer. I guess you've never seen anything except a trampoline park and an adult restaurant in your life. The MIL specifically didn't care if she saw DIL or her own son on her birthday, she wanted grandkids there to stare at her in awe. I know it's difficult for you to consider anyone else than yourself, but we have all moved on. And if you cannot come up with anything, you sit in the trampoline park and color for an hour!

lol I have young kids. You make zero sense so no use in responding to some bizarre rant suggesting I've never seen anything but restaurants and trampoline parks? What?

So why are you responding? You sure don't sound as someone who has young kids or raised any. It was you who suggested a trampoline park, as if it's the only option left. So you do you.

Why are you responding only to make no sense? Spare us the illiteracy. My in-laws and parents are elderly so meeting for meals is the obvious solution. Funny how we see lots of extended families doing the same thing. You don’t sound like a parent or even someone who has inlaws.

Of course the elderly are meeting for meals with children, but they aren’t doing it at fancy restaurants that are not meant for children. And there are some restaurants not meant for children. Some in-between options are things like the local Mexican restaurant, a bar and grill-type restaurant, etc. Of course you won’t have your precious five star experience, but you can’t have everything. Having the grandkids present is a top priority? Eat at Olive Garden, not Olio E Più.

How ill behaved are your kids?

Whether a child can behave doesn’t change whether a space is designed for them.

Kids can and do eat in restaurants all the time. Just not yours i guess.

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Anonymous wrote:Yesterday was my MIL’s birthday. Until late the night before, there were no plans involving us.
My husband was scheduled to work in the office and has about an hour commute. I had the day off. Our kids had an appointments at 5pm that I scheduled months ago (I didn’t realize at the time it was a no-school day and earlier appointments were possible).

Late the night before, MIL called DH to say she’d made a 6pm dinner reservation for herself and FIL and invited DH, me, and our two kids to join. DH explained his work schedule and the dentist conflict and told her we’d have to play it by ear. She seemed fine with that.

Around the time I took the kids to the dentist, DH texted that he wouldn’t make it, something came up at work. He said he’d tell his mom and it was up to me if I wanted to go. Given the timing, I decided not to rush the kids from the dentist to dinner alone. I’m cordial with my ILs but not close, and I didn’t feel great about showing up solo with two kids while my husband was absent.

I called MIL to explain that between the dentist and DH’s work conflict, we wouldn’t make it and that DH would plan something soon so we could celebrate her birthday together, to enjoy her dinner with FIL.

MIL is now extremely upset that she didn’t get to see her grandchildren on her birthday, and that it ruined her dinner. FIL is also upset in general and says MIL couldn’t even enjoy her birthday because of this. Was I out of line for not going without my husband?

Yup! u r an ahole. And I am neither a MIL nor a grandma.

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Women including your mil, including myself, need to make plans and have a life.
Don’t rely on other people. Seriously. Mil was probably looking forward to it all day as her favorite part of the day.
Women need to make good parts of a day or birthday happen for themselves

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You can't manage two school-aged kids at a restaurant without their father?

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Your husband should have called his own mother profusely apologizing for ditching her for his work. Not laid it on you as your responsibility.

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OP here. I can’t believe people are still posting here. The birthday was over a month ago. In that time we’ve celebrated MIL and gone to dinner another time. All is well, things are fine now. Thanks for all the help, but it’s over now!