Was I wrong to skip MIL birthday dinner?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Calm down, boomer. I guess you've never seen anything except a trampoline park and an adult restaurant in your life. The MIL specifically didn't care if she saw DIL or her own son on her birthday, she wanted grandkids there to stare at her in awe. I know it's difficult for you to consider anyone else than yourself, but we have all moved on. And if you cannot come up with anything, you sit in the trampoline park and color for an hour!

lol I have young kids. You make zero sense so no use in responding to some bizarre rant suggesting I've never seen anything but restaurants and trampoline parks? What?

So why are you responding? You sure don't sound as someone who has young kids or raised any. It was you who suggested a trampoline park, as if it's the only option left. So you do you.

Why are you responding only to make no sense? Spare us the illiteracy. My in-laws and parents are elderly so meeting for meals is the obvious solution. Funny how we see lots of extended families doing the same thing. You don’t sound like a parent or even someone who has inlaws.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Calm down, boomer. I guess you've never seen anything except a trampoline park and an adult restaurant in your life. The MIL specifically didn't care if she saw DIL or her own son on her birthday, she wanted grandkids there to stare at her in awe. I know it's difficult for you to consider anyone else than yourself, but we have all moved on. And if you cannot come up with anything, you sit in the trampoline park and color for an hour!

lol I have young kids. You make zero sense so no use in responding to some bizarre rant suggesting I've never seen anything but restaurants and trampoline parks? What?

So why are you responding? You sure don't sound as someone who has young kids or raised any. It was you who suggested a trampoline park, as if it's the only option left. So you do you.

Why are you responding only to make no sense? Spare us the illiteracy. My in-laws and parents are elderly so meeting for meals is the obvious solution. Funny how we see lots of extended families doing the same thing. You don’t sound like a parent or even someone who has inlaws.

Interestingly I've never met my parents or ILs for meals in restaurants when my kids were little. What is obvious to you is not obvious to many others. It's much easier and interesting to do fun activities together outside restaurants than force little kids to "draw for an hour" in a cubicle. But then I do hikes for my own birthdays with everyone invited, so who am I to say

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Calm down, boomer. I guess you've never seen anything except a trampoline park and an adult restaurant in your life. The MIL specifically didn't care if she saw DIL or her own son on her birthday, she wanted grandkids there to stare at her in awe. I know it's difficult for you to consider anyone else than yourself, but we have all moved on. And if you cannot come up with anything, you sit in the trampoline park and color for an hour!

lol I have young kids. You make zero sense so no use in responding to some bizarre rant suggesting I've never seen anything but restaurants and trampoline parks? What?

So why are you responding? You sure don't sound as someone who has young kids or raised any. It was you who suggested a trampoline park, as if it's the only option left. So you do you.

Why are you responding only to make no sense? Spare us the illiteracy. My in-laws and parents are elderly so meeting for meals is the obvious solution. Funny how we see lots of extended families doing the same thing. You don’t sound like a parent or even someone who has inlaws.

Of course the elderly are meeting for meals with children, but they aren’t doing it at fancy restaurants that are not meant for children. And there are some restaurants not meant for children. Some in-between options are things like the local Mexican restaurant, a bar and grill-type restaurant, etc. Of course you won’t have your precious five star experience, but you can’t have everything. Having the grandkids present is a top priority? Eat at Olive Garden, not Olio E Più.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Calm down, boomer. I guess you've never seen anything except a trampoline park and an adult restaurant in your life. The MIL specifically didn't care if she saw DIL or her own son on her birthday, she wanted grandkids there to stare at her in awe. I know it's difficult for you to consider anyone else than yourself, but we have all moved on. And if you cannot come up with anything, you sit in the trampoline park and color for an hour!

lol I have young kids. You make zero sense so no use in responding to some bizarre rant suggesting I've never seen anything but restaurants and trampoline parks? What?

So why are you responding? You sure don't sound as someone who has young kids or raised any. It was you who suggested a trampoline park, as if it's the only option left. So you do you.

Why are you responding only to make no sense? Spare us the illiteracy. My in-laws and parents are elderly so meeting for meals is the obvious solution. Funny how we see lots of extended families doing the same thing. You don’t sound like a parent or even someone who has inlaws.

Of course the elderly are meeting for meals with children, but they aren’t doing it at fancy restaurants that are not meant for children. And there are some restaurants not meant for children. Some in-between options are things like the local Mexican restaurant, a bar and grill-type restaurant, etc. Of course you won’t have your precious five star experience, but you can’t have everything. Having the grandkids present is a top priority? Eat at Olive Garden, not Olio E Più.

How ill behaved are your kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Calm down, boomer. I guess you've never seen anything except a trampoline park and an adult restaurant in your life. The MIL specifically didn't care if she saw DIL or her own son on her birthday, she wanted grandkids there to stare at her in awe. I know it's difficult for you to consider anyone else than yourself, but we have all moved on. And if you cannot come up with anything, you sit in the trampoline park and color for an hour!

lol I have young kids. You make zero sense so no use in responding to some bizarre rant suggesting I've never seen anything but restaurants and trampoline parks? What?

So why are you responding? You sure don't sound as someone who has young kids or raised any. It was you who suggested a trampoline park, as if it's the only option left. So you do you.

Why are you responding only to make no sense? Spare us the illiteracy. My in-laws and parents are elderly so meeting for meals is the obvious solution. Funny how we see lots of extended families doing the same thing. You don’t sound like a parent or even someone who has inlaws.

Interestingly I've never met my parents or ILs for meals in restaurants when my kids were little. What is obvious to you is not obvious to many others. It's much easier and interesting to do fun activities together outside restaurants than force little kids to "draw for an hour" in a cubicle. But then I do hikes for my own birthdays with everyone invited, so who am I to say

Op has elementary school kids they aren’t babies or toddlers.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean how hard would it have been to take 90 minutes to do this. Its a Friday, not a school day, and you had the rest of the weekend to "recover".

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Someday you, OP, will be the MIL who is a grandparent. Wanting to see your grandkids. Imagine when they stand you up after a dentist appt. Can see her view too, selfish.

OP will likely give more than 24h notice then. It's not difficult.

Ideally they will not have to tell their own kid that their birthday is coming up.

Do you mean DIL? OP is the DIL and her MILs birthday is not her responsibility.

Yes, it is AS a decent person.

Nope. Just because one has a vagina doesn't make them responsible for their husbands parents' issues. Stop with this sexist nonsense.

You do realize some people enjoy spending time with their families, right?

This isn't OPs family, and she didn't want to attend. Her body having a vagina doesn't make it any different.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Oh please, MIL did not care if DIL attended, she is upset her grandchildren weren't there. Nothing about DIL.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Calm down, boomer. I guess you've never seen anything except a trampoline park and an adult restaurant in your life. The MIL specifically didn't care if she saw DIL or her own son on her birthday, she wanted grandkids there to stare at her in awe. I know it's difficult for you to consider anyone else than yourself, but we have all moved on. And if you cannot come up with anything, you sit in the trampoline park and color for an hour!

lol I have young kids. You make zero sense so no use in responding to some bizarre rant suggesting I've never seen anything but restaurants and trampoline parks? What?

So why are you responding? You sure don't sound as someone who has young kids or raised any. It was you who suggested a trampoline park, as if it's the only option left. So you do you.

Why are you responding only to make no sense? Spare us the illiteracy. My in-laws and parents are elderly so meeting for meals is the obvious solution. Funny how we see lots of extended families doing the same thing. You don’t sound like a parent or even someone who has inlaws.

Interestingly I've never met my parents or ILs for meals in restaurants when my kids were little. What is obvious to you is not obvious to many others. It's much easier and interesting to do fun activities together outside restaurants than force little kids to "draw for an hour" in a cubicle. But then I do hikes for my own birthdays with everyone invited, so who am I to say

My ILs did not understand the "no restaurants for a while" while kids were little. They would continually try to invite everyone out to a fancy restaurant where we all knew the children would not sit still, would not like the food and would not enjoy it. We basically did home-only parties for years, and they were so resentful of it! They literally did not consider the parents or children AT ALL and only wanted what they wanted. So frustrating.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Did you forget your reading glasses grandma?

"MIL is now extremely upset that she didn’t get to see her grandchildren on her birthday, and that it ruined her dinner."

Maybe try reading the post before making up your own narrative.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean how hard would it have been to take 90 minutes to do this. Its a Friday, not a school day, and you had the rest of the weekend to "recover".

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Someday you, OP, will be the MIL who is a grandparent. Wanting to see your grandkids. Imagine when they stand you up after a dentist appt. Can see her view too, selfish.

OP will likely give more than 24h notice then. It's not difficult.

Ideally they will not have to tell their own kid that their birthday is coming up.

Do you mean DIL? OP is the DIL and her MILs birthday is not her responsibility.

Yes, it is AS a decent person.

Nope. Just because one has a vagina doesn't make them responsible for their husbands parents' issues. Stop with this sexist nonsense.

You do realize some people enjoy spending time with their families, right?

This isn't OPs family, and she didn't want to attend. Her body having a vagina doesn't make it any different.

Not her family? Okay

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Did you forget your reading glasses grandma?

"MIL is now extremely upset that she didn’t get to see her grandchildren on her birthday, and that it ruined her dinner."

Maybe try reading the post before making up your own narrative.

And? She knew op was bringing them and not her son. Doesn’t sounds like she didn’t want to see her. Wouldn’t she have rescheduled?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Did you forget your reading glasses grandma?

"MIL is now extremely upset that she didn’t get to see her grandchildren on her birthday, and that it ruined her dinner."

Maybe try reading the post before making up your own narrative.

And? She knew op was bringing them and not her son. Doesn’t sounds like she didn’t want to see her. Wouldn’t she have rescheduled?

A flying dragon could have brought her grandchildren to the restaurant and she would be happier than seeing DIL. Stop being delusional.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Did you forget your reading glasses grandma?

"MIL is now extremely upset that she didn’t get to see her grandchildren on her birthday, and that it ruined her dinner."

Maybe try reading the post before making up your own narrative.

And? She knew op was bringing them and not her son. Doesn’t sounds like she didn’t want to see her. Wouldn’t she have rescheduled?

Why would she reschedule? She didn't give any notice in the first place, just expected everyone to adjust their plans to whatever she wants. She is the birthday girl after all!!!!11!!

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Did you forget your reading glasses grandma?

"MIL is now extremely upset that she didn’t get to see her grandchildren on her birthday, and that it ruined her dinner."

Maybe try reading the post before making up your own narrative.

And? She knew op was bringing them and not her son. Doesn’t sounds like she didn’t want to see her. Wouldn’t she have rescheduled?

Why would she reschedule? She didn't give any notice in the first place, just expected everyone to adjust their plans to whatever she wants. She is the birthday girl after all!!!!11!!

Are you ok?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do kids need to see grandparents on their birthdays in a restaurant? Sitting in restaurants is for adults. Normal grandparents want to see their own kids and their spouses too, not just the grandkids, and pick a place that suits families with young kids. The whole premise of this event, having to see grandkids without their parents in a restaurant is weird.

What are you talking about? Should they meet at the trampoline park? These kids really old enough to sit at a restaurant, color on the menu and see their grandparents for about an hour. And the mother, a parent, would be there. Goes to show that the MIL thinks highly of her DIL that she'd like to see her too if her son can't make it. Isn't that what the breeders are so worried about that they are just an incubator?

Calm down, boomer. I guess you've never seen anything except a trampoline park and an adult restaurant in your life. The MIL specifically didn't care if she saw DIL or her own son on her birthday, she wanted grandkids there to stare at her in awe. I know it's difficult for you to consider anyone else than yourself, but we have all moved on. And if you cannot come up with anything, you sit in the trampoline park and color for an hour!

lol I have young kids. You make zero sense so no use in responding to some bizarre rant suggesting I've never seen anything but restaurants and trampoline parks? What?

So why are you responding? You sure don't sound as someone who has young kids or raised any. It was you who suggested a trampoline park, as if it's the only option left. So you do you.

Why are you responding only to make no sense? Spare us the illiteracy. My in-laws and parents are elderly so meeting for meals is the obvious solution. Funny how we see lots of extended families doing the same thing. You don’t sound like a parent or even someone who has inlaws.

Of course the elderly are meeting for meals with children, but they aren’t doing it at fancy restaurants that are not meant for children. And there are some restaurants not meant for children. Some in-between options are things like the local Mexican restaurant, a bar and grill-type restaurant, etc. Of course you won’t have your precious five star experience, but you can’t have everything. Having the grandkids present is a top priority? Eat at Olive Garden, not Olio E Più.

How ill behaved are your kids?

Whether a child can behave doesn’t change whether a space is designed for them.