Who Is Most Out Of Bounds Here?

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?

Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.

But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.

Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.

Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?

So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.

Zero sense? Are you stupid? The wife thinks that if you have something to say, say it to her face. Not make public statements about her marriage on a stupid social media post. Of course she's angry, she's been treated shockingly bad by her former friends AND her husband. She's the only victim here.

Are YOU stupid? OP didnt post anything nasty. OP posted a picture of her daughter and that seems to be it. How is she treating her former friend badly? By ignoring her nasty messages blaming her?

This is all happening on her page. She should have deleted it as soon as her fool husband posted it. But nope! Left it there for the world to see.

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?

Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.

But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.

Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.

Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?

So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.

Zero sense? Are you stupid? The wife thinks that if you have something to say, say it to her face. Not make public statements about her marriage on a stupid social media post. Of course she's angry, she's been treated shockingly bad by her former friends AND her husband. She's the only victim here.

Are YOU stupid? OP didnt post anything nasty. OP posted a picture of her daughter and that seems to be it. How is she treating her former friend badly? By ignoring her nasty messages blaming her?

This is all happening on her page. She should have deleted it as soon as her fool husband posted it. But nope! Left it there for the world to see.

I guess we have no idea if OP deleted the post at any point, since they havent returned. And are likely a troll anyways.

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?

Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.

But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.

Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.

Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?

So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.

You're delusional if you think the wife didn't have words with her DH. She can be angry at more than one person at a time.

Are you not reading my post? I'm not saying anything about the DH. I'm talking about OP. Who is not DH and who is not Dave.

Or maybe I misunderstood, and you are talking about wifes DH, aka Dave? I hope she did. But I still dont understand why you'd be mad at OP, literally a random third party not involved. And yet everyone is yelling at me talking about compassion? Right.

It her social media page. She allowed it and probably cheered her husband on.

So if people get into a fight on DCUM we all blame Jeff? I don't think that's how it works.

People fight, posts get reported and deleted. It's not a free for all. You do understand this is moderated right? OP didn't moderate and she should have. Like here.

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Anonymous wrote:Both were wrong. Your DH was WAY more wrong.

Agree with this. One guy called another guy’s daughter fat, not to her. One guy blew up the other guy’s marriage.

That guy blew up his own marriage. The wife should be running to get tested for STDS not blaming others.

So not only did she get cheated on but she deserves to be humiliated in front of the whole world for it? You are despicable.

Again, that is DAVES problem. DAVE is the one who cheated and broke his vows. He is despicable. He is the cheater, and he is the one who blew up his family. Stop apologizing and covering for cheaters. You sound like a cheater yourself.

CLASSIC DARVO, PP. Why do you feel the need to insult and attack posters here who have done nothing at all other than have a different opinion than you?

Excuse me? I was called evil, disgusting and a host of other things. Please, don't tell me that I'm "attacking" anyone while suggesting someone who covers up for cheaters may be a cheater themselves.

Yes you were, because you are all of those things. Don't play the victim now. You are being purposefully obtuse and refuse to see how it is NOT covering for a cheater to choose to not publically humiliate his wife and children. There was a to let her know if that was the intent, and this was not the platform for it.

But it's totally fine for Dave to humiliate a young girl with his comment AND his own family by cheating on them?

Seriously, stop covering for the cheater. Stop insulting me and trying to blame me for defending myself. You are insulting me for having a different opinion than you. Take a look in the mirror next time you bring out DARVO.

Oh poor little you...all while saying that Dave's children will build resilience from this and it was ok that they were humiliated.
And nowhere did I say that what DAve did was ok. Nowhere. Two separate issues.

That was me- and maybe they will long term. Why not hope they are resilient? The thing is parents can protect their kids from all of this by living a private life, not online. Not posting to pics except through texts or photo albums etc. So in my mind everyone is at fault, but clearly the most messed up is Dave, who wrote a disparaging post about a kid, Dave, who cheated on his wife. Dave is the constant in those. Dave.

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?

Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.

But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.

Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.

Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?

So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.

You're delusional if you think the wife didn't have words with her DH. She can be angry at more than one person at a time.

Are you not reading my post? I'm not saying anything about the DH. I'm talking about OP. Who is not DH and who is not Dave.

Or maybe I misunderstood, and you are talking about wifes DH, aka Dave? I hope she did. But I still dont understand why you'd be mad at OP, literally a random third party not involved. And yet everyone is yelling at me talking about compassion? Right.

It her social media page. She allowed it and probably cheered her husband on.

So if people get into a fight on DCUM we all blame Jeff? I don't think that's how it works.

People fight, posts get reported and deleted. It's not a free for all. You do understand this is moderated right? OP didn't moderate and she should have. Like here.

So it's OPs fault for not moderating the adult males fighting? And that means she is "sabotaging" her friends marriage?

No. She just doesn't want to blame her husband and would rather blame anyone else. Like people on here apparently.

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Anonymous wrote:Both were wrong. Your DH was WAY more wrong.

Agree with this. One guy called another guy’s daughter fat, not to her. One guy blew up the other guy’s marriage.

That guy blew up his own marriage. The wife should be running to get tested for STDS not blaming others.

So not only did she get cheated on but she deserves to be humiliated in front of the whole world for it? You are despicable.

Again, that is DAVES problem. DAVE is the one who cheated and broke his vows. He is despicable. He is the cheater, and he is the one who blew up his family. Stop apologizing and covering for cheaters. You sound like a cheater yourself.

CLASSIC DARVO, PP. Why do you feel the need to insult and attack posters here who have done nothing at all other than have a different opinion than you?

Excuse me? I was called evil, disgusting and a host of other things. Please, don't tell me that I'm "attacking" anyone while suggesting someone who covers up for cheaters may be a cheater themselves.

Yes you were, because you are all of those things. Don't play the victim now. You are being purposefully obtuse and refuse to see how it is NOT covering for a cheater to choose to not publically humiliate his wife and children. There was a to let her know if that was the intent, and this was not the platform for it.

But it's totally fine for Dave to humiliate a young girl with his comment AND his own family by cheating on them?

Seriously, stop covering for the cheater. Stop insulting me and trying to blame me for defending myself. You are insulting me for having a different opinion than you. Take a look in the mirror next time you bring out DARVO.

Oh poor little you...all while saying that Dave's children will build resilience from this and it was ok that they were humiliated.
And nowhere did I say that what DAve did was ok. Nowhere. Two separate issues.

That was me- and maybe they will long term. Why not hope they are resilient? The thing is parents can protect their kids from all of this by living a private life, not online. Not posting to pics except through texts or photo albums etc. So in my mind everyone is at fault, but clearly the most messed up is Dave, who wrote a disparaging post about a kid, Dave, who cheated on his wife. Dave is the constant in those. Dave.

I guess OPs DD will build resilience too now that everyone knows she likes to eat. Most people enjoy eating. It's a badge of honor for some.

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?

Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.

But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.

Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.

Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?

So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.

You're delusional if you think the wife didn't have words with her DH. She can be angry at more than one person at a time.

Are you not reading my post? I'm not saying anything about the DH. I'm talking about OP. Who is not DH and who is not Dave.

Or maybe I misunderstood, and you are talking about wifes DH, aka Dave? I hope she did. But I still dont understand why you'd be mad at OP, literally a random third party not involved. And yet everyone is yelling at me talking about compassion? Right.

It her social media page. She allowed it and probably cheered her husband on.

So if people get into a fight on DCUM we all blame Jeff? I don't think that's how it works.

People fight, posts get reported and deleted. It's not a free for all. You do understand this is moderated right? OP didn't moderate and she should have. Like here.

So it's OPs fault for not moderating the adult males fighting? And that means she is "sabotaging" her friends marriage?

No. She just doesn't want to blame her husband and would rather blame anyone else. Like people on here apparently.

Normal people would delete that mess ASAP. But no, it hung out there for awhile and even the wife saw it. Some friend OP is!

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OMG, this is awesome!

You never, ever, ever comment on somebody's body. And you sure as hell don't make a snarky public comment about a kid being overweight. What an ahole!

This dude chose to make that comment. And he also chose to cheat on his wife. And now he has to face the consequences of that choice - awww, poor baby!

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Anonymous wrote:Your husband was the most out of bounds. By far.

Original insult was mild and could be chalked up to stupidity or neurodivergence.

Your husband's insult was 1) maybe not even true? 2) Way WAY over the top 3) shows that he's never going to take the high road 4)also shows that he is a very bad role model for your daughter on how to react to perceived insults.

I agree, and would add that your husband seems to think that any curviness or, OMG, fatness, is something to be ashamed about.

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If OP ever thought of Dave's wife as her friend, why would she let that comment linger? Wouldn't you feel so incredibly awful for your friend? Also, did OP keep this secret all along as well? I can't imagine feeling anything but sadness for my friend and I wouldn't do anything to make things worse for her like leave this awful comment up for everyone to see.

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?

Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.

But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.

Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.

Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?

So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.

You're delusional if you think the wife didn't have words with her DH. She can be angry at more than one person at a time.

Are you not reading my post? I'm not saying anything about the DH. I'm talking about OP. Who is not DH and who is not Dave.

Or maybe I misunderstood, and you are talking about wifes DH, aka Dave? I hope she did. But I still dont understand why you'd be mad at OP, literally a random third party not involved. And yet everyone is yelling at me talking about compassion? Right.

It her social media page. She allowed it and probably cheered her husband on.

So if people get into a fight on DCUM we all blame Jeff? I don't think that's how it works.

People fight, posts get reported and deleted. It's not a free for all. You do understand this is moderated right? OP didn't moderate and she should have. Like here.

So it's OPs fault for not moderating the adult males fighting? And that means she is "sabotaging" her friends marriage?

No. She just doesn't want to blame her husband and would rather blame anyone else. Like people on here apparently.

Normal people would delete that mess ASAP. But no, it hung out there for awhile and even the wife saw it. Some friend OP is!

She may not have seen it right away. Not all of us are addicted to facebook and on 24/7. Even if it was deleted after 5 mins someone could have easily screenshot it and shared it around.

Either way, I think it's ridiculous that wife is blaming OP simply because it was her post this all went down on. She needs to focus on her shitty cheating husband. He is the only one to blame. He is the only one sabotaging the marriage. No one else can sabotage it if the two parties are on the same page. Dave was not.

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?

Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.

But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.

Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.

Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?

So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.

You're delusional if you think the wife didn't have words with her DH. She can be angry at more than one person at a time.

Are you not reading my post? I'm not saying anything about the DH. I'm talking about OP. Who is not DH and who is not Dave.

Or maybe I misunderstood, and you are talking about wifes DH, aka Dave? I hope she did. But I still dont understand why you'd be mad at OP, literally a random third party not involved. And yet everyone is yelling at me talking about compassion? Right.

It her social media page. She allowed it and probably cheered her husband on.

So if people get into a fight on DCUM we all blame Jeff? I don't think that's how it works.

People fight, posts get reported and deleted. It's not a free for all. You do understand this is moderated right? OP didn't moderate and she should have. Like here.

So it's OPs fault for not moderating the adult males fighting? And that means she is "sabotaging" her friends marriage?

No. She just doesn't want to blame her husband and would rather blame anyone else. Like people on here apparently.

Normal people would delete that mess ASAP. But no, it hung out there for awhile and even the wife saw it. Some friend OP is!

She may not have seen it right away. Not all of us are addicted to facebook and on 24/7. Even if it was deleted after 5 mins someone could have easily screenshot it and shared it around.

Either way, I think it's ridiculous that wife is blaming OP simply because it was her post this all went down on. She needs to focus on her shitty cheating husband. He is the only one to blame. He is the only one sabotaging the marriage. No one else can sabotage it if the two parties are on the same page. Dave was not.

Right, she probably didn't see it right away. It was probably there for a long while. But why not kick someone when she's down, right? All b/c her husband made a bad joke.

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?

Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.

But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.

Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.

We ARE blaming the cheater but we have compassion for the person he cheated on JFC!!!

But your not blaming Dave for hurting her.

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?

Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.

But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.

Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.

Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?

So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.

You're delusional if you think the wife didn't have words with her DH. She can be angry at more than one person at a time.

Are you not reading my post? I'm not saying anything about the DH. I'm talking about OP. Who is not DH and who is not Dave.

Or maybe I misunderstood, and you are talking about wifes DH, aka Dave? I hope she did. But I still dont understand why you'd be mad at OP, literally a random third party not involved. And yet everyone is yelling at me talking about compassion? Right.

It her social media page. She allowed it and probably cheered her husband on.

So if people get into a fight on DCUM we all blame Jeff? I don't think that's how it works.

People fight, posts get reported and deleted. It's not a free for all. You do understand this is moderated right? OP didn't moderate and she should have. Like here.

So it's OPs fault for not moderating the adult males fighting? And that means she is "sabotaging" her friends marriage?

No. She just doesn't want to blame her husband and would rather blame anyone else. Like people on here apparently.

Normal people would delete that mess ASAP. But no, it hung out there for awhile and even the wife saw it. Some friend OP is!

She may not have seen it right away. Not all of us are addicted to facebook and on 24/7. Even if it was deleted after 5 mins someone could have easily screenshot it and shared it around.

Either way, I think it's ridiculous that wife is blaming OP simply because it was her post this all went down on. She needs to focus on her shitty cheating husband. He is the only one to blame. He is the only one sabotaging the marriage. No one else can sabotage it if the two parties are on the same page. Dave was not.

Right, she probably didn't see it right away. It was probably there for a long while. But why not kick someone when she's down, right? All b/c her husband made a bad joke.

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?

Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.

But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.

Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.

Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?

So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.

You're delusional if you think the wife didn't have words with her DH. She can be angry at more than one person at a time.

Are you not reading my post? I'm not saying anything about the DH. I'm talking about OP. Who is not DH and who is not Dave.

Or maybe I misunderstood, and you are talking about wifes DH, aka Dave? I hope she did. But I still dont understand why you'd be mad at OP, literally a random third party not involved. And yet everyone is yelling at me talking about compassion? Right.

It her social media page. She allowed it and probably cheered her husband on.

So if people get into a fight on DCUM we all blame Jeff? I don't think that's how it works.

People fight, posts get reported and deleted. It's not a free for all. You do understand this is moderated right? OP didn't moderate and she should have. Like here.

So it's OPs fault for not moderating the adult males fighting? And that means she is "sabotaging" her friends marriage?

No. She just doesn't want to blame her husband and would rather blame anyone else. Like people on here apparently.

Normal people would delete that mess ASAP. But no, it hung out there for awhile and even the wife saw it. Some friend OP is!

She may not have seen it right away. Not all of us are addicted to facebook and on 24/7. Even if it was deleted after 5 mins someone could have easily screenshot it and shared it around.

Either way, I think it's ridiculous that wife is blaming OP simply because it was her post this all went down on. She needs to focus on her shitty cheating husband. He is the only one to blame. He is the only one sabotaging the marriage. No one else can sabotage it if the two parties are on the same page. Dave was not.

Right, she probably didn't see it right away. It was probably there for a long while. But why not kick someone when she's down, right? All b/c her husband made a bad joke.

Nobody kicked her.

Did OP say he cheated on his fat obnoxious wife? No