Mother of 2 from VERY prominent Richmond family arrested by FBI for child p@rn, exploitation, etc

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Anonymous wrote:How do so many people on this board know this woman?

That is not disturbing to anyone?

I don’t know her, but we have mutual friends on Facebook. A lot of people around here went to UVA.

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Anonymous wrote:My personal belief is that "evil" is born of trauma. Not excusing evil acts but making sense of them. Sometimes it's an idea you can follow such as ... kid grew up being deprived and abused in multiple ways, grows up to be impulsive and angry, commits escalating crimes from thefts to carjackings, for example. It's not an excuse but you can see how it happened.

This one, we have no template for it. She's not like any other abuser I ever read about.

Lots and lots of evil people come from great homes with no trauma. The columbine murderers, Bernie Madoff, Sam Bankman fried, that guy who murdered a family in Connecticut (but not before raping a daughter-- maybe 10 or 11-- in front of the mom).

Most people who grew up with trauma do not go on to commit crimes.

I don't believe trauma is an excuse at all. And I grew up with trauma. It doesn't make you do anything. If anything, it makes it clear why you shouldn't.

It’s clear that you failed statistics class.

You didn't offer any statistics. You offered a commonly held belief that is not well supported by any current research (esp re pedophilia).

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Anonymous wrote:I know her, her brother and her ex-husband.

Is her arrest common knowledge? Or is this all hush hush?

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Anonymous wrote:My personal belief is that "evil" is born of trauma. Not excusing evil acts but making sense of them. Sometimes it's an idea you can follow such as ... kid grew up being deprived and abused in multiple ways, grows up to be impulsive and angry, commits escalating crimes from thefts to carjackings, for example. It's not an excuse but you can see how it happened.

This one, we have no template for it. She's not like any other abuser I ever read about.

Lots and lots of evil people come from great homes with no trauma. The columbine murderers, Bernie Madoff, Sam Bankman fried, that guy who murdered a family in Connecticut (but not before raping a daughter-- maybe 10 or 11-- in front of the mom).

Most people who grew up with trauma do not go on to commit crimes.

I don't believe trauma is an excuse at all. And I grew up with trauma. It doesn't make you do anything. If anything, it makes it clear why you shouldn't.

I have said , emphatically, that I do not believe it is an excuse. You don't know what happened to Columbine murderers, Madoff, or the others. If the trauma was not in the childhood, could have been in their genes. Generational trauma. And if it wasn't by their parents, it was by people in their parents community. Why do people resist the idea of trauma? Trauma is part of a pattern. It excuses no one. It does explain how we all need not to hurt one another, though.

Psychopaths/sociopaths might be different, but I bet it's rooted in trauma. Psychopathy makes changes you can see in the brain. A child is born like that, sins of previous ancestors visited upon the child, who if growing up with no empathy and love, will definitely make ruin for others. There is a story about a law abiding doctor who found out his brain images look the same as dangerous psychopaths, and he believes he himself is a psychopath but just raised particularly well, so he's productive/ noncriminal despite it.

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Anonymous wrote:My personal belief is that "evil" is born of trauma. Not excusing evil acts but making sense of them. Sometimes it's an idea you can follow such as ... kid grew up being deprived and abused in multiple ways, grows up to be impulsive and angry, commits escalating crimes from thefts to carjackings, for example. It's not an excuse but you can see how it happened.

This one, we have no template for it. She's not like any other abuser I ever read about.

Yeah, not in all cases but in a majority it seems that women who are involved in horrific sexual abuse are coerced or threatened by men or they have a financial motivation (a woman who pimps her daughter for money). And those aren't excuses, but explanations beyond just evil.

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Anonymous wrote:You should be able to go to your PCP or psychiatrist & say “I have a desire to harm children” or “I have pedophilic urges” and receive treatment for the mental health issue that it is.

There is no actual treatment for these things. There’s not a magical pill to cure people of things like pedophilia or wanting to harm children. I saw a speaker online during Covid who was a convicted pedophile and he described it as an attraction in the way of how adults with sexual preferences can have a preference for age, hair color, etc.. in a fellow adult and there’s nothing to stop them from being attracted to a person with those features when they feel that attraction. He was explaining how pedophiles re-offend because like other adults that attraction doesn’t just go away with jail time. He was pro-castration fwiw. It never made sense to me until he explained this in a way that makes sense why they re-offend and are always a danger. Your attraction to men with dark hair won’t go away just because you’re jailed for ten years or twenty. When you get out you’ll still be attracted to them. Over time people’s preferences can change but it’s by chance.

That makes me feel sorry for that convicted man—he was probably born that way, and there’s nothing he can do about it.

Nah, I call bullsh*t. They may not be able to help who they are attracted to, but they can certainly not *rape* children. just like we expect anyone else to contain their sexual desires unless in a consensual relationship.

+ I’m attracted to tall guys with beards. Doesn’t mean I have to try to sleep with them all. Most adults keep their urges to themselves.

Some men (maybe women?) rape drunk/unconscious/comatose/disabled adult people, and some would never. Just because you're attracted, doesn't mean one takes action on it. What makes them think a child is fair game? So effed up.

On another note, I have noticed big increase in reports of adult women abusing children, mostly teacher-student, which used to be SO shocking, and now it's becoming regular. In my own high school in the 90s, there were at least 3 different male teachers who had relations with underage girls, and one female teacher who was doing it with a male student from age 14 or such. That's rape.

Many boys/men did not traditionally come forward. One reason is bc they are conditioned to think they are supposed to want it as a male. I know 2 men abused by women when they were young teens. Both, although different circumstances, when they tried to tell someone
…basically got high fives. 😞 they had so much unresolved shame.

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Anonymous wrote:How do so many people on this board know this woman?

That is not disturbing to anyone?

Did you read the first paragraph of the OP?

UVA and RVA mean nothing to most of us. You know that, right?

You just stumbled onto this thread because you're one of those True Crime internet sleuth types. But the fact is, this is a website that started as and still focuses on DC. Which is ... close to Richmond.

I live in DC, I have three solid girlfriends from Richmond, and all three knew one or both of their VERY PROMINENT families. Two attended the same private girls' school (the other, Collegiate).

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder how prevalent this is. It's as horrifying to me as hearing there is a serial killer parent in my area (maybe this is scarier as it involves children). My kids have sleepovers at least monthly but are at an age they know and could tell me if something weird was going on in terms of abuse or inappropriate photography. When kids spend the night here it's usually more than one and they are not engaging with parents much beyond getting fed or told to put electronics away for the night.

Um, I was molested at a sleepover at age 12 by my friends older brother and never told anyone until I was an adult. Even if I had told someone, it would’ve been after it had already happened so the damage was already done. And I come from a close knit family and normally talk to my parents and siblings about all kinds of things. But this is something I suppressed and didn’t discuss for years. And this happened at my good friend’s house my parents knew her family well and I hung out there often.

So at what age did you tell someone?

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Anonymous wrote: BTW, Big Brothers/Big Sisters says she worked as an event co-ordinator and never had contact with kids.

She worked directly with kids at BBBS. The quote in the article by the Executive Director is inaccurate. I knew her when she worked there; she started in youth programs and then moved to corporate partnerships.

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I am so sickened about this whole thing. I know her children. They are amazing and wonderful. How their mother can do this to them, and ruin their lives, is just unfathomable. I know they will get therapy, and they will get lots of love and support. However, this will never go away in their minds. I am a victim sexual, emotionl, and physical abuse, that happened over a period of 18 years. I have had loads of help, but the pain is always there. I am a survivor. I do all I can to be the best version of myself. I am sure her girls will too. However, their lives are forever marred. My family too was very prominent. It happens. My perpetrator was our long time nanny. The abuse was swept under the rug. My parents loved me, but they also did not want to see what was really happening, because they had a position to maintain. Yeah, some days are harder than others, but I am a good person. I protect children, so no child ever has to go through what I went through. My heart bleeds for these two girls. I will forever pray for them. If anyone who knows the family personally can tell them that Ms. Kasha loves them, and am always here to listen. Bless them and love them always, and please protect them.

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Anonymous wrote: BTW, Big Brothers/Big Sisters says she worked as an event co-ordinator and never had contact with kids.

She worked directly with kids at BBBS. The quote in the article by the Executive Director is inaccurate. I knew her when she worked there; she started in youth programs and then moved to corporate partnerships.

Yikes.

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Wow. This woman is exactly like Ghislaine Maxwell. What is it with wealthy, privileged society ladies r*ping kids?? Sick. I went to UVA over a decade ago but otherwise don't have any connections to the area. Never heard of this woman but the fact that I didn't hear of this until DCUM announced it is...telling.

Let's not let this pedo woman escape public disgrace just because her family is trying to buy off the Press. Hope this goes viral on social media.

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Very unusual that her Facebook page is still up- S few people posted messages to her saying “sicko”, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I slept with her at W&L in 97.

Our condolences. Might want to pour some holy water down there

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. This woman is exactly like Ghislaine Maxwell. What is it with wealthy, privileged society ladies r*ping kids?? Sick. I went to UVA over a decade ago but otherwise don't have any connections to the area. Never heard of this woman but the fact that I didn't hear of this until DCUM announced it is...telling.

Let's not let this pedo woman escape public disgrace just because her family is trying to buy off the Press. Hope this goes viral on social media.

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