Twin play date, one twin left out…

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP you can see the attitude. BY GOD DONT BRING YOUR KID!!!! A bit over the top but there it is. Non twin moms never get that twins have a bond and so on. They lash out. And so strident about the need to separate them. Nice isn’t it? Signed twin mom.

You must have missed all the twin moms posting telling op not to ask.

No, I was responding to the people saying "nobody said this". Well, they did.

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Anonymous wrote:The twin part is a red herring. This can be boiled down to "is it all right if I invite myself/my child to someone else's house/event?"

The answer will always be NO. The only very rare exception would be close friends and family who regularly have both children over at the same time. Definitely not acquaintances who know the second child exists and chose not to extend the invitation.

If you feel letting one child go to a playdate without the other child is too disruptive for your family, it is on YOU to say no thank you and decline altogether.

But, but, but, what about the BOND???"

I have never seen so many thirsty, jealous moms as when twins are brought up. Sorry you didn't win that lottery.

Oh, sweetie, you just keep telling yourself how "jealous" everyone else is and how you "won the lottery."



ROFL. Delusional.

Yeah sorry but I have two close friends with twins and seeing how miserable the early childhood years were for them I thank my lucky stars that I had singletons.

+1. I had fertility treatments and was so nervous that it might be twins both times. Huge sigh of relief that it was not. Obviously due to the high risk and surviving the early years. No thank you!

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP you can see the attitude. BY GOD DONT BRING YOUR KID!!!! A bit over the top but there it is. Non twin moms never get that twins have a bond and so on. They lash out. And so strident about the need to separate them. Nice isn’t it? Signed twin mom.

You must have missed all the twin moms posting telling op not to ask.

No, I was responding to the people saying "nobody said this". Well, they did.

Yes, that mom launched the first volley, but her tone was not similar to the other twin moms who replied of which I was one. I assumed she has some hurt she is dealing with.

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP you can see the attitude. BY GOD DONT BRING YOUR KID!!!! A bit over the top but there it is. Non twin moms never get that twins have a bond and so on. They lash out. And so strident about the need to separate them. Nice isn’t it? Signed twin mom.

You must have missed all the twin moms posting telling op not to ask.

No, I was responding to the people saying "nobody said this". Well, they did.

Yes, that mom launched the first volley, but her tone was not similar to the other twin moms who replied of which I was one. I assumed she has some hurt she is dealing with.

Yes, up until that response most people seemed to be in agreement, even twin moms.

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP you can see the attitude. BY GOD DONT BRING YOUR KID!!!! A bit over the top but there it is. Non twin moms never get that twins have a bond and so on. They lash out. And so strident about the need to separate them. Nice isn’t it? Signed twin mom.

You must have missed all the twin moms posting telling op not to ask.

No, I was responding to the people saying "nobody said this". Well, they did.

Yes, that mom launched the first volley, but her tone was not similar to the other twin moms who replied of which I was one. I assumed she has some hurt she is dealing with.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:OP Here, I didn't realize this thread got crazy after the first page lol. So here is the update:

After I posted here I re-read the mom message and realized that she had suggested I could join them as an option. So I offered to join them with the other twin so we can all get to know each other before I sent DD alone next time and it was well received.

Now everyone can calm down or call me names? DCUrbanmoms never disappoint lol

Wow OP, you are DENSE. The other mom suggested that YOU could join them. Not YOU AND YOUR SON. Be prepared for no more play dates offers. And I have twins!

NP you are a jerk. Who is supposed to watch the other kid? That's ridiculous.

Umm, many people have a spouse/partner who is capable of childcare.

Yeah maybe on the weekends, but I’m not sure many families have two parents, neither of whom needs to work on a weekday afternoon, both handling childcare separately to accommodate a kindergarten play date.

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Anonymous wrote:OP Here, I didn't realize this thread got crazy after the first page lol. So here is the update:

After I posted here I re-read the mom message and realized that she had suggested I could join them as an option. So I offered to join them with the other twin so we can all get to know each other before I sent DD alone next time and it was well received.

Now everyone can calm down or call me names? DCUrbanmoms never disappoint lol

Wow OP, you are DENSE. The other mom suggested that YOU could join them. Not YOU AND YOUR SON. Be prepared for no more play dates offers. And I have twins!

NP you are a jerk. Who is supposed to watch the other kid? That's ridiculous.

Umm, many people have a spouse/partner who is capable of childcare.

Yeah maybe on the weekends, but I’m not sure many families have two parents, neither of whom needs to work on a weekday afternoon, both handling childcare separately to accommodate a kindergarten play date.

A kindergarten play date shouldn't involve the parents of both kids like a toddler play date. Drop the twin off who was invited and do whatever you would otherwise do if you have both kids and now only have one. This is what people who have multiple kids have to do every day, not sure why the twin situation makes it that different. It's not free babysitting for all the kids if only one is invited.

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Anonymous wrote:OP Here, I didn't realize this thread got crazy after the first page lol. So here is the update:

After I posted here I re-read the mom message and realized that she had suggested I could join them as an option. So I offered to join them with the other twin so we can all get to know each other before I sent DD alone next time and it was well received.

Now everyone can calm down or call me names? DCUrbanmoms never disappoint lol

Wow OP, you are DENSE. The other mom suggested that YOU could join them. Not YOU AND YOUR SON. Be prepared for no more play dates offers. And I have twins!

NP you are a jerk. Who is supposed to watch the other kid? That's ridiculous.

Umm, many people have a spouse/partner who is capable of childcare.

Yeah maybe on the weekends, but I’m not sure many families have two parents, neither of whom needs to work on a weekday afternoon, both handling childcare separately to accommodate a kindergarten play date.

A kindergarten play date shouldn't involve the parents of both kids like a toddler play date. Drop the twin off who was invited and do whatever you would otherwise do if you have both kids and now only have one. This is what people who have multiple kids have to do every day, not sure why the twin situation makes it that different. It's not free babysitting for all the kids if only one is invited.

So people really just drop their Kindergartener at someone else house they met once during school pickup? Really? I guess I am not comfortable with that. I will need to know the family before dropping my 5 y o unattended. But I guess it is just me.

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Anonymous wrote:After reading this thread, I’m kind of afraid to talk to moms of twins! You guys are insane!

Sorry, but I read all the venom as coming from the singleton moms.

Same here. And it’s mostly lazy. Yes having two total only over is very easy. Free babysitting.

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP you can see the attitude. BY GOD DONT BRING YOUR KID!!!! A bit over the top but there it is. Non twin moms never get that twins have a bond and so on. They lash out. And so strident about the need to separate them. Nice isn’t it? Signed twin mom.

You must have missed all the twin moms posting telling op not to ask.

No, I was responding to the people saying "nobody said this". Well, they did.

Oh sweetie you combed through 15 pages to find one glancing reference to a bond. They are 5 years old. Geez.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, would be rude to ask and this is the age where they should be developing separate friendships anyway.

+1

This is the first volley. Right on the first page.

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I think pushing together twins age 4-5 with twin dynamic twins age 10-13 is comparing apples to oranges. After ES most twins have separate friends. It happens naturally. But when they are younger it’s different.

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP you can see the attitude. BY GOD DONT BRING YOUR KID!!!! A bit over the top but there it is. Non twin moms never get that twins have a bond and so on. They lash out. And so strident about the need to separate them. Nice isn’t it? Signed twin mom.

You must have missed all the twin moms posting telling op not to ask.

No, I was responding to the people saying "nobody said this". Well, they did.

Oh sweetie you combed through 15 pages to find one glancing reference to a bond. They are 5 years old. Geez.

Huh?! This comment was on the second page!

I made a comment that I’d be willing to host both twins sometimes but not every time. Apparently that meant my kid is a brat and I’m trying to tell twin moms how to raise their kids. I truly hope some of you guys are high/drunk because this is next level insanity!

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Anonymous wrote:I think pushing together twins age 4-5 with twin dynamic twins age 10-13 is comparing apples to oranges. After ES most twins have separate friends. It happens naturally. But when they are younger it’s different.

And in this case, the host knew they were twins and invited only one. They invited only one because only one of the twins is friends with the girl. This is where twins need to have separate play dates. They’re not always going to have the same friends. And it starts in kindergarten for most.

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP you can see the attitude. BY GOD DONT BRING YOUR KID!!!! A bit over the top but there it is. Non twin moms never get that twins have a bond and so on. They lash out. And so strident about the need to separate them. Nice isn’t it? Signed twin mom.

You must have missed all the twin moms posting telling op not to ask.

No, I was responding to the people saying "nobody said this". Well, they did.

Oh sweetie you combed through 15 pages to find one glancing reference to a bond. They are 5 years old. Geez.

Bless your heart, darling. Embarrassed that the thing you said never happened did happen? It was right there, guess you didn't read the thread before posting.