I'm An Unmarried Mother of 4 Living w/my Male Partner, We DoNot Want To Marry. Ask Me Anything.
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Anonymous
| Go. |
Anonymous
| Why not get married? |
Anonymous
| do you ever worry that he will leave you? You would then just be another statistic. |
Anonymous
| is he the father of all 4. |
Anonymous
Yes, he is. |
Anonymous
| Are you religious? |
Anonymous
We both grew up in family situations where multiple divorces came into play. My mother is on her 3rd marriage. His father was married 4 times, his mother 2 times. I think this stuck with him more than it did with me, but we both agreed that we'd rather put money into a house than a wedding. From there were had a child. There was never a strong desire to marry, everything felt right, and still does. |
Anonymous
Do you think he worries that I might leave him? I think it goes both ways. We went the legal way and have papers drawn up for the children, the house, life insurance. If he did leave me (or vice versa) my life would not change much. I also would be spared the divorce process and the extreme cost. One thing we did want to do is have all of our "wants" legally put into writing and made known. We went to a lawyer and had this done. While he could leave me and change his mind, I could do the same to him. It's no different to me than the risk you take when you do get married. You risk your spouse leaving you. |
Anonymous
Yes, we are. |
Anonymous
| Do you have body piercings? |
Anonymous
| What is your race and ethnicity? |
Anonymous
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I'm not the OP but I wondered how long until the race question would come up.
*prays* please don't be black. |
Anonymous
| Do you have joint bank accounts and own your home jointly? |
Anonymous
| Why would you be so reckless and stupid. There are certain protections for married couples that domestic couples don't have. Plus, it's a lot easier for either of you to split because it's not like you are married. |
Anonymous
| Did you come under any pressure from family to get married? If so, how did you respond? |