I had a 5 year affair with a gorgeous woman who’s 17 years younger (and I’m not rich) - AMA

[Anonymous]

Haven't read all the responses and no desire to do so, but one thing to remember:

What's "gorgeous" to a 50 year old man is different than what's gorgeous to men her own age. Meaning, when you are 50, any average looking 30 year old is hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haven't read all the responses and no desire to do so, but one thing to remember:

What's "gorgeous" to a 50 year old man is different than what's gorgeous to men her own age. Meaning, when you are 50, any average looking 30 year old is hot.

Yes, let's continue to tear down a woman because of her looks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lame AMA, but it’s absolutely possible younger women these days still want older men. I’m 44 and a happily married man. Our nanny is a hot, athletic Gen-Zer that has made it clear shes attracted to me. Its kind of nice to feel wanted sexually and a dark side of me wants to explore. Thankfully for me, I have a built-in show stopper: I do not use condoms (nor does DW use birth control). At least for me, that makes the decision to not sleep around pretty easy.

Whew, I thought for a second there that because you lack a conscience or integrity that you might cheat on your wife and take advantage of a low-paid, much younger domestic helper who is entrusted to care for and presumably has bonded with your children. But thankfully you hate the inconvenience or feeling of wearing condoms, so wife and nanny are safe. “Integrity” prevails after all!

Sure if that makes you feel better. I’m an imperfect human. You win.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lame AMA, but it’s absolutely possible younger women these days still want older men. I’m 44 and a happily married man. Our nanny is a hot, athletic Gen-Zer that has made it clear shes attracted to me. Its kind of nice to feel wanted sexually and a dark side of me wants to explore. Thankfully for me, I have a built-in show stopper: I do not use condoms (nor does DW use birth control). At least for me, that makes the decision to not sleep around pretty easy.

How has she made it clear?
Men tend to think women in customer service are attracted to them because they're friendly. And they're almost always just doing their jobs as they're supposed to. Every woman has multiple cringe-worthy stories of men who thought they were interested.

+1

Dollars to donuts your nanny thinks you are gross and old, and is just doing her job by being nice to you.

For my sake I hope you are 100% right. Temptation is a b*tch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who ended it?

She initiated the relationship and ended it (I think). We still talk but haven’t seen each other since Covid outbreak.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who ended it?

She initiated the relationship and ended it (I think). We still talk but haven’t seen each other since Covid outbreak.

It’s not like the first few months of quarantine where people didn’t go anywhere. People generally are out and about. If she wanted to see you, she would. Sounds like it’s over.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who ended it?

She initiated the relationship and ended it (I think). We still talk but haven’t seen each other since Covid outbreak.

It’s not like the first few months of quarantine where people didn’t go anywhere. People generally are out and about. If she wanted to see you, she would. Sounds like it’s over.

Covid provided a very good excuse for many that were planning to end a relationship for some time to get out, particularly those that have a hard time with confrontation or fear an AP would blow something up if they ended it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You said “had” an affair with a gorgeous woman. Sounds like she broke it off with you. Why?

A gorgeous bowling bowl midget .

I'm no fan of this woman but you seem awfully hung up on her height. 5'0'' is a few inches shorter than average. It's really not worthy of mention, let alone vitriol. You know that She can also have curves without being fat, especially if she's young.

+1. that poster has clearly some issues. people come in all kinds of heights and there is nothing wrong with being 5' (I can tell by experience ) Judy Garland was 4' 11", among actresses who are 5' are Hayden Panettiere, Jada Pinckett Smith. Lady Gaga is only 5'1", as Vanessa Hudgens

Shakira and Dolly Parton both 4'11"

Yes, think Shakira body and exotic middle eastern looks

High five OP for scoring your short exotic side piece. These descriptions smack of fetishism. Your wife likely is white. White and average size is for marriage; unusual features and exotic race, that’s for - well, you know, bragging and objectification.

“White and average size is for marriage” ??? Holy f@ck

It's disgusting but tons of men feel that way. Every woman who isn't white and stick thin knows this.

I'll let DH know that he can brag about being married to me

-short nonwhite female

[Anonymous]

+1000. Own it PP!!

[Anonymous]

Wait, OP hasn’t seen this woman in over a year? Why is he even posting this? He doesn’t like or respect her, but yet he misses - what exactly? The thrill of a corporate-subsidized clandestine affair gravy train that unfortunately came to a screeching halt “due to covid”? Chalk that up to another casualty of the pandemic!! He says he doesn’t know why she doesn’t want to see him. It’s because OP has absolutely nothing to offer! Take away the company-paid-for hotel and meals and there’s nothing left here but a hot mess lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, OP hasn’t seen this woman in over a year? Why is he even posting this? He doesn’t like or respect her, but yet he misses - what exactly? The thrill of a corporate-subsidized clandestine affair gravy train that unfortunately came to a screeching halt “due to covid”? Chalk that up to another casualty of the pandemic!! He says he doesn’t know why she doesn’t want to see him. It’s because OP has absolutely nothing to offer! Take away the company-paid-for hotel and meals and there’s nothing left here but a hot mess lol.

"I had a cheesy cheap affair with a much younger woman with emotional issues who did a not very subtle fade-out on me a year ago. AMA!"

[Anonymous]

LOL Op you are delusional. A woman willing to date a married man is NO prize.

Quite the opposite!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL Op you are delusional. A woman willing to date a married man is NO prize.

Quite the opposite!

I disagree, I met my wife when I was 30 and she was 23. She pursued me heavily and we began an affair. Best thing that ever happened to me. I went from a very meh marriage to living my best life, going on 10 years now. She's wonderful

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL Op you are delusional. A woman willing to date a married man is NO prize.

Quite the opposite!

I disagree, I met my wife when I was 30 and she was 23. She pursued me heavily and we began an affair. Best thing that ever happened to me. I went from a very meh marriage to living my best life, going on 10 years now. She's wonderful

Her boyfriend thinks so too!!

[Anonymous]

All the makings of a classic DCUM thread. It involves a man cheating, so that means the OW gets attacked for her height, looks, body shape, job, self-esteem, etc.

There's no way anyone will believe that a regular, decent-looking woman may date a married man older than her. It's unfathomable that the woman hasn't found an ideal partner her age, and that the older man may be worth dating.

Just ignore the threads we see where a woman in her 30s posts how she's still single and alone and can't find a suitable mate. Also ignore threads where people come out against fat-shaming, body-shaming of women, ,etc.