Au Pair just asked for more money

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I cant believe in this day and age people think they can get away with what is essentially indentured servitude and paying someone $200 a week. Enjoy it while it lasts, sickos- and then get ready to pay up! NP, btw

Thats what the au pair gets. That is not what the host parent pays.

Yes, and agency model needs to be revised. Either way, you need to pay more than you are paying today.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dont think I've ever met someone who was so passionate about a subject while at the same time being so poorly informed. Posting relentlessly doesnt make what you're saying true.

Firstly, I know you think it’s the one lefty liberal who posts on all the boards all day and night long. Particularly the DL, mask wearing and fair wage. But that’s not true. There are many many posters on this board disgusted by your attitude and finding the same information. Secondly, you may think this law will not come to pass in DC but it will. So if everyone from the federal judges to the pre-Amy Supreme Court to DC Council to several law firms and non-profits are poorly informed so be it. The times they are a-changing.

The posts with the disgust all have fundamental facts about the program wrong. You ignore posts correcting these facts, so there is zero benefit to engaging with your zealous but ill informed posts.

What people are telling you is that just because agency sets a minimum it doesn’t absolve you morally or in terms of the future legislation to pay the bare minimum.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can somebody answer what au pairs get paid in the DC area? Better question, if you have an au pair what do you pay them per week?

It varies based on work duties and perks. Some au pairs work very few hours and have posh lives. They may receive a smaller stipend, but get weekends at the family home in Vail or Aspen. Other families need more hours and pay more. In general, au pairs in the area have many au pair friends and they all compare their compensation. If an au pair is unhappy, they will rematch. It's quite competitive.

Oh, yeah. All those DC burbs families with homes in Aspen that pay small stipend. Give me a break. We actually do winter in Aspen every year, have seen very few DMV families there and even fewer with au pairs, and have paid market nanny rates to every au pair ever as are our friends. I didn’t want to say anything before because I know how this sounds but this board is really beyond the pale. Young people on cultural exchange shouldn’t be paying for the lack of affordable childcare options in DMV.

Say what you will, but I literally saw a family posting this fall looking for a ski and surf buddy for their kids. The family splits time between DC, San Diego and Vail. They wanted an au pair who could surf and ski to essentially keep their teens from doing anything reckless.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can somebody answer what au pairs get paid in the DC area? Better question, if you have an au pair what do you pay them per week?

It varies based on work duties and perks. Some au pairs work very few hours and have posh lives. They may receive a smaller stipend, but get weekends at the family home in Vail or Aspen. Other families need more hours and pay more. In general, au pairs in the area have many au pair friends and they all compare their compensation. If an au pair is unhappy, they will rematch. It's quite competitive.

Oh, yeah. All those DC burbs families with homes in Aspen that pay small stipend. Give me a break. We actually do winter in Aspen every year, have seen very few DMV families there and even fewer with au pairs, and have paid market nanny rates to every au pair ever as are our friends. I didn’t want to say anything before because I know how this sounds but this board is really beyond the pale. Young people on cultural exchange shouldn’t be paying for the lack of affordable childcare options in DMV.

Say what you will, but I literally saw a family posting this fall looking for a ski and surf buddy for their kids. The family splits time between DC, San Diego and Vail. They wanted an au pair who could surf and ski to essentially keep their teens from doing anything reckless.

Of course. That’s not the question. I spent my entire childhood with ski instructors as glorified babysitters and my child is getting the same. The issue is whether the family is paying $4/hr. No? Precisely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can somebody answer what au pairs get paid in the DC area? Better question, if you have an au pair what do you pay them per week?

It varies based on work duties and perks. Some au pairs work very few hours and have posh lives. They may receive a smaller stipend, but get weekends at the family home in Vail or Aspen. Other families need more hours and pay more. In general, au pairs in the area have many au pair friends and they all compare their compensation. If an au pair is unhappy, they will rematch. It's quite competitive.

Oh, yeah. All those DC burbs families with homes in Aspen that pay small stipend. Give me a break. We actually do winter in Aspen every year, have seen very few DMV families there and even fewer with au pairs, and have paid market nanny rates to every au pair ever as are our friends. I didn’t want to say anything before because I know how this sounds but this board is really beyond the pale. Young people on cultural exchange shouldn’t be paying for the lack of affordable childcare options in DMV.

Say what you will, but I literally saw a family posting this fall looking for a ski and surf buddy for their kids. The family splits time between DC, San Diego and Vail. They wanted an au pair who could surf and ski to essentially keep their teens from doing anything reckless.

Teens need an au pair?

WTF????

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can somebody answer what au pairs get paid in the DC area? Better question, if you have an au pair what do you pay them per week?

It varies based on work duties and perks. Some au pairs work very few hours and have posh lives. They may receive a smaller stipend, but get weekends at the family home in Vail or Aspen. Other families need more hours and pay more. In general, au pairs in the area have many au pair friends and they all compare their compensation. If an au pair is unhappy, they will rematch. It's quite competitive.

Oh, yeah. All those DC burbs families with homes in Aspen that pay small stipend. Give me a break. We actually do winter in Aspen every year, have seen very few DMV families there and even fewer with au pairs, and have paid market nanny rates to every au pair ever as are our friends. I didn’t want to say anything before because I know how this sounds but this board is really beyond the pale. Young people on cultural exchange shouldn’t be paying for the lack of affordable childcare options in DMV.

Say what you will, but I literally saw a family posting this fall looking for a ski and surf buddy for their kids. The family splits time between DC, San Diego and Vail. They wanted an au pair who could surf and ski to essentially keep their teens from doing anything reckless.

Teens need an au pair?

WTF????

They may well at 13, 14, and 15 depending on the school commute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can somebody answer what au pairs get paid in the DC area? Better question, if you have an au pair what do you pay them per week?

It varies based on work duties and perks. Some au pairs work very few hours and have posh lives. They may receive a smaller stipend, but get weekends at the family home in Vail or Aspen. Other families need more hours and pay more. In general, au pairs in the area have many au pair friends and they all compare their compensation. If an au pair is unhappy, they will rematch. It's quite competitive.

Oh, yeah. All those DC burbs families with homes in Aspen that pay small stipend. Give me a break. We actually do winter in Aspen every year, have seen very few DMV families there and even fewer with au pairs, and have paid market nanny rates to every au pair ever as are our friends. I didn’t want to say anything before because I know how this sounds but this board is really beyond the pale. Young people on cultural exchange shouldn’t be paying for the lack of affordable childcare options in DMV.

About half of the biglaw partners with second homes in places like Aspen that I personally know had au pairs (the other half nannies). I have no idea if they pay above market to their au pairs or not.

[Anonymous]

Somebody better tell OP’s au pair! It’s a win win: she gets a better gig and poor OP is rescued from extortion. And rightly so since the OP already of her own free will pays the whole 0.11 cents per hour extra

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can somebody answer what au pairs get paid in the DC area? Better question, if you have an au pair what do you pay them per week?

It varies based on work duties and perks. Some au pairs work very few hours and have posh lives. They may receive a smaller stipend, but get weekends at the family home in Vail or Aspen. Other families need more hours and pay more. In general, au pairs in the area have many au pair friends and they all compare their compensation. If an au pair is unhappy, they will rematch. It's quite competitive.

Oh, yeah. All those DC burbs families with homes in Aspen that pay small stipend. Give me a break. We actually do winter in Aspen every year, have seen very few DMV families there and even fewer with au pairs, and have paid market nanny rates to every au pair ever as are our friends. I didn’t want to say anything before because I know how this sounds but this board is really beyond the pale. Young people on cultural exchange shouldn’t be paying for the lack of affordable childcare options in DMV.

About half of the biglaw partners with second homes in places like Aspen that I personally know had au pairs (the other half nannies). I have no idea if they pay above market to their au pairs or not.

Biglaw partner here paying minimum wage plus education stipend plus perks and have a very well paid cleaner too. The au pair is not washing my knickers in Aspen in the Ajax mountain driven snow for $4.35/hr. Just because we earn well doesn’t mean we get to be pitiful humans. In fact, it’s the exact opposite.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can somebody answer what au pairs get paid in the DC area? Better question, if you have an au pair what do you pay them per week?

It varies based on work duties and perks. Some au pairs work very few hours and have posh lives. They may receive a smaller stipend, but get weekends at the family home in Vail or Aspen. Other families need more hours and pay more. In general, au pairs in the area have many au pair friends and they all compare their compensation. If an au pair is unhappy, they will rematch. It's quite competitive.

Oh, yeah. All those DC burbs families with homes in Aspen that pay small stipend. Give me a break. We actually do winter in Aspen every year, have seen very few DMV families there and even fewer with au pairs, and have paid market nanny rates to every au pair ever as are our friends. I didn’t want to say anything before because I know how this sounds but this board is really beyond the pale. Young people on cultural exchange shouldn’t be paying for the lack of affordable childcare options in DMV.

Say what you will, but I literally saw a family posting this fall looking for a ski and surf buddy for their kids. The family splits time between DC, San Diego and Vail. They wanted an au pair who could surf and ski to essentially keep their teens from doing anything reckless.

Teens need an au pair?

WTF????

They may well at 13, 14, and 15 depending on the school commute.

Yes, I know a local au pair who works 10 hours a week driving a 15 yo back and forth to her competitive gymnastics lessons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can somebody answer what au pairs get paid in the DC area? Better question, if you have an au pair what do you pay them per week?

It varies based on work duties and perks. Some au pairs work very few hours and have posh lives. They may receive a smaller stipend, but get weekends at the family home in Vail or Aspen. Other families need more hours and pay more. In general, au pairs in the area have many au pair friends and they all compare their compensation. If an au pair is unhappy, they will rematch. It's quite competitive.

Oh, yeah. All those DC burbs families with homes in Aspen that pay small stipend. Give me a break. We actually do winter in Aspen every year, have seen very few DMV families there and even fewer with au pairs, and have paid market nanny rates to every au pair ever as are our friends. I didn’t want to say anything before because I know how this sounds but this board is really beyond the pale. Young people on cultural exchange shouldn’t be paying for the lack of affordable childcare options in DMV.

Say what you will, but I literally saw a family posting this fall looking for a ski and surf buddy for their kids. The family splits time between DC, San Diego and Vail. They wanted an au pair who could surf and ski to essentially keep their teens from doing anything reckless.

Teens need an au pair?

WTF????

They may well at 13, 14, and 15 depending on the school commute.

Yes, I know a local au pair who works 10 hours a week driving a 15 yo back and forth to her competitive gymnastics lessons.

Yes. That’s more like what the program is meant to be. Not a domestic servant. How is this such a shock
to our fellow DMV moms with concerning human trafficker tendencies?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can somebody answer what au pairs get paid in the DC area? Better question, if you have an au pair what do you pay them per week?

It varies based on work duties and perks. Some au pairs work very few hours and have posh lives. They may receive a smaller stipend, but get weekends at the family home in Vail or Aspen. Other families need more hours and pay more. In general, au pairs in the area have many au pair friends and they all compare their compensation. If an au pair is unhappy, they will rematch. It's quite competitive.

Oh, yeah. All those DC burbs families with homes in Aspen that pay small stipend. Give me a break. We actually do winter in Aspen every year, have seen very few DMV families there and even fewer with au pairs, and have paid market nanny rates to every au pair ever as are our friends. I didn’t want to say anything before because I know how this sounds but this board is really beyond the pale. Young people on cultural exchange shouldn’t be paying for the lack of affordable childcare options in DMV.

About half of the biglaw partners with second homes in places like Aspen that I personally know had au pairs (the other half nannies). I have no idea if they pay above market to their au pairs or not.

Biglaw partner here paying minimum wage plus education stipend plus perks and have a very well paid cleaner too. The au pair is not washing my knickers in Aspen in the Ajax mountain driven snow for $4.35/hr. Just because we earn well doesn’t mean we get to be pitiful humans. In fact, it’s the exact opposite.

That's all very lovely, and I too pay over stipend ($10/hr in MD), but my point was simply that yes, very wealthy DC-area families have au pairs, and even you paying minimum wage are still paying a fairly small stipend.

[Anonymous]

Agreed. Which is precisely the point missed by the OP & Co. Who kicked off a massive thread using the word extortion to avoid paying more than $4.46 per hour! They are willing to pay more in fact IF the au pair would do more work (patently prohibited under the State Dpt rules). What is not prohibited is the au pair negotiating for more. Yet. There’s a cabal of moms disparaging the au pair and literally writing scripts on how to intimidate the au pair into NOT being able to negotiate which is HER RIGHT. That is what’s so awful.

[Anonymous]

It's sad that people are trying to destroy this program which has worked well for all involved for so long under the guise of social justice. Reminds me of the tipping bill that failed in DC, which would have hurt a lot of servers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's sad that people are trying to destroy this program which has worked well for all involved for so long under the guise of social justice. Reminds me of the tipping bill that failed in DC, which would have hurt a lot of servers.

And who meanwhile are happy to send their kids to daycares where workers get paid only a fraction more without any of the other benefits.