He runs with her 5-6 days a week.

[Anonymous]

I am not going to comment on DH and OW. That should be done by a professional only. None of us here should be influencing someone's marriage via forum posts.
However, I will comment on OP:

-she sounds insecure and possessive in unhealthy way
-she seems bored with her life, doesn't have much to do
-she seems controlling (wants to box in people she sees as "hers")
-she is asking an anonymous forum and some friends for advice on the most intimate issues in her life - thus demonstrating a lack of logical thinking grounded in real life - this should be between her, DH, and a professional counselor only.

Regardless of this OW, OP could drive away her husband with these character flaws.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not going to comment on DH and OW. That should be done by a professional only. None of us here should be influencing someone's marriage via forum posts.
However, I will comment on OP:

-she sounds insecure and possessive in unhealthy way
-she seems bored with her life, doesn't have much to do
-she seems controlling (wants to box in people she sees as "hers")
-she is asking an anonymous forum and some friends for advice on the most intimate issues in her life - thus demonstrating a lack of logical thinking grounded in real life - this should be between her, DH, and a professional counselor only.

Regardless of this OW, OP could drive away her husband with these character flaws.

Meh, I disagree. I think posting on an anonymous forum is a healthy way to get some perspective if you've just had something shocking happen. She sounded confused and didn't know what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really curious to know about how the OW's DH reacted...

OP here. Received today. Copy/pasted below:

My e-mail:

If you haven’t already heard the story from XX, you should be aware of what went on between your wife and my husband.
There will be no more running and she needs to stay away from my family.

His e-mail response:

So much to unpack here, but it would be to little benefit, so no reason to get into the details. Bottom line, I regret the loss to know such great people such as yourselves, but certainly, we'll respect your wishes
Truly and sadly, farewell to you both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really curious to know about how the OW's DH reacted...

OP here. Received today. Copy/pasted below:

My e-mail:

If you haven’t already heard the story from XX, you should be aware of what went on between your wife and my husband.
There will be no more running and she needs to stay away from my family.

His e-mail response:

So much to unpack here, but it would be to little benefit, so no reason to get into the details. Bottom line, I regret the loss to know such great people such as yourselves, but certainly, we'll respect your wishes
Truly and sadly, farewell to you both.

Interesting response. He doesn’t seem too upset about their supposed actions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really curious to know about how the OW's DH reacted...

OP here. Received today. Copy/pasted below:

My e-mail:

If you haven’t already heard the story from XX, you should be aware of what went on between your wife and my husband.
There will be no more running and she needs to stay away from my family.

His e-mail response:

So much to unpack here, but it would be to little benefit, so no reason to get into the details. Bottom line, I regret the loss to know such great people such as yourselves, but certainly, we'll respect your wishes
Truly and sadly, farewell to you both.

Thanks for confirming you're a troll!

[Anonymous]

Neither you OP, not the OW deserve your husband.

Your husband sounds like an amazing guy.
The OW seems to have emotional needs that extend beyond her marriage, which lands her into a territory of a home wrecker.
You on the other hand sound extremely entitled and act like a spoiled brat; a typical drama queen.
So, yeah, neither of you deserve your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really curious to know about how the OW's DH reacted...

OP here. Received today. Copy/pasted below:

My e-mail:

If you haven’t already heard the story from XX, you should be aware of what went on between your wife and my husband.
There will be no more running and she needs to stay away from my family.

His e-mail response:

So much to unpack here, but it would be to little benefit, so no reason to get into the details. Bottom line, I regret the loss to know such great people such as yourselves, but certainly, we'll respect your wishes
Truly and sadly, farewell to you both.

Maybe they have an open marriage, and he knew about it.


Interesting response. He doesn’t seem too upset about their supposed actions.

[Anonymous]

I I were the DH I would be so angry at my wife going to other people's houses in the evening, sending emails around, and stirring the pot.
The marriage is not a police state, even if he was guilty of anything.
Someone who stirs the pot so much cannot be emotionally balanced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really curious to know about how the OW's DH reacted...

OP here. Received today. Copy/pasted below:

My e-mail:

If you haven’t already heard the story from XX, you should be aware of what went on between your wife and my husband.
There will be no more running and she needs to stay away from my family.

His e-mail response:

So much to unpack here, but it would be to little benefit, so no reason to get into the details. Bottom line, I regret the loss to know such great people such as yourselves, but certainly, we'll respect your wishes
Truly and sadly, farewell to you both.

What do you expect him to do about this? He's not his wife's keeper. Tend to your own husband, who it seems you blame much less than the other woman. But of course it's easier to paint her as a conniving trollop than to admit you've harbored a duplicitous liar in your household all this time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really curious to know about how the OW's DH reacted...

OP here. Received today. Copy/pasted below:

My e-mail:

If you haven’t already heard the story from XX, you should be aware of what went on between your wife and my husband.
There will be no more running and she needs to stay away from my family.

His e-mail response:

So much to unpack here, but it would be to little benefit, so no reason to get into the details. Bottom line, I regret the loss to know such great people such as yourselves, but certainly, we'll respect your wishes
Truly and sadly, farewell to you both.

What do you expect him to do about this? He's not his wife's keeper. Tend to your own husband, who it seems you blame much less than the other woman. But of course it's easier to paint her as a conniving trollop than to admit you've harbored a duplicitous liar in your household all this time.

Puh-lease. He has been snowed by his wife. Whatever she told him probably didn't include the kiss and touching. And you can bet that she was practically an innocent bystander in her version, too.

OP, you did the right thing. No contact from this point on with them for either of you.

[Anonymous]

So, OP... are you running in the mornings now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with pp. 09:18 etc is/are trolls. No counselor would suggested going to someone's house at night to have it out.

TROLL post!

Or text the OW husband. It always amazes me the things CUM chooses to believe.

The counselor didn't suggest going to OW's house - a friend did. And the counselor might well have said to text the OW DH. That other betrayed spouse is your best bet for making sure the affair is over. And make no mistake, it was an affair.

Almost EXACTLY what I went through a decade ago. Seriously. These things do unfold like this.

OP, please take good care of yourself.

OP literally said in her post at 11/08/2017 09:18 that her counselor was the one who told her to go to the house.

[Anonymous]

Its quite weird that she would actually email the OW's husband...how would she know his email?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Start running with him.

+1

+2

This.

I think what bothers me the most is that he is choosing to wake up so early to spend time with someone else. If you are not a runner, maybe you can think of another way for both of you to work out together.

[Anonymous]

Anyone else think that her husband will still sneak around and see side piece/running queen at work related events? I do.

They didn't have long hugs, they had long romps. I bet.