He runs with her 5-6 days a week.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your husband has been scared straight. Surprised he confessed. If he was like most men, he would have denied, denied, denied. I also think he sounds naive and almost boyscoutish. Most men would have slept with her by now.

Counselling, ramp up your sex life, but take him back. If this is the biggest mistake he makes in his marriage, you have a good one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your husband has been scared straight. Surprised he confessed. If he was like most men, he would have denied, denied, denied. I also think he sounds naive and almost boyscoutish. Most men would have slept with her by now.

Counselling, ramp up your sex life, but take him back. If this is the biggest mistake he makes in his marriage, you have a good one.

OP's DH is lying. He screwed that other chick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi ladies. I'm looking for a little perspective. My husband has been waking up at 5:30am in the morning to run with another (cute blond) woman for the last few months. Sometimes they have a third guy buddy that joins them but it seems like only 20% of the time.

She is a woman he has worked with for a few years together on some freelance projects a few times a month. She knows me, I know her. Not well, but we're friendly. FYI, I'm also fit/trim but running is not my thing especially at their distances (5 - 12 miles regularly).

He's lost about 15 - 20 pounds with all this running, which I think is awesome and he is feeling great and looking great. He is a committed father and really loving husband and I don't think there is any reason to think that anything has happened between him and this woman, yet. However, it seems a bit extreme that he gets up this early 5-6 days, every week to run with her. She's been married four years, no kids. Probably won't have any. I think she's in her late thirties. My husband is in his late forties.

I've talked to him about my insecurities and he's more than loving and reassuring that there is nothing going on. He has said in conversation that he thought she was pretty. She texts him regularly about their running and then there is the occasional, “Happy Birthday, gorgeous!” or “Great run, great weather, great company”. It's hard not to see this stuff when he leaves his phone laying around the kitchen and yes, I pay extra attention when I see her name pop up.

Even though we've had numerous discussions about her and the running, it's still unsettling. Is this setting a stage for an affair? Or am I being paranoid?

I vote for paranoid. He didn't lose 20 pounds banging her every morning. They're actually running.

[Anonymous]

5-6 times a week is way too much. She calls him gorgeous? She needs to step back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Big red flags. Do not be a doormat and ignore your instinct. This is a big "HELL NO." I agree with PP that she is making a move on your DH. Be proactive. Cut this b*tch out of both of your lives, I would say.

Perspective:

If I were this man and my DW made this demand, I'd divorce her. Even if I had no intention of banging running partner. This possessive shit is bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Big red flags. Do not be a doormat and ignore your instinct. This is a big "HELL NO." I agree with PP that she is making a move on your DH. Be proactive. Cut this b*tch out of both of your lives, I would say.

Perspective:

If I were this man and my DW made this demand, I'd divorce her. Even if I had no intention of banging running partner. This possessive shit is bullshit.

Perspective:

If you're casually leaping to "I'd divorce her", you will never be in a long term unfailed marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with pp. 09:18 etc is/are trolls. No counselor would suggested going to someone's house at night to have it out.

TROLL post!

Or text the OW husband. It always amazes me the things CUM chooses to believe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with pp. 09:18 etc is/are trolls. No counselor would suggested going to someone's house at night to have it out.

TROLL post!

Or text the OW husband. It always amazes me the things CUM chooses to believe.

But it's fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry but they did more than kiss.

They just got their stories straight before you confronted.

THIS. He had time to text her what to say before OP confronted her. There's no way after these lingering hugs, that they decided to run together 5 to 6 times a week and have it be nothing.

+2. Also, she's not going to admit they did more than hugging with her husband listening from the next room.

+3. In fact, that she admitted that much with her DH in earshot tells me there is A LOT more.

You'll just have to wait for OP's next installment. I'm sure the OW will be pregnant or something dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have married Mike Pence instead.

[Anonymous]

So, your DH's running buddy is available? Can I get her number?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with pp. 09:18 etc is/are trolls. No counselor would suggested going to someone's house at night to have it out.

TROLL post!

Or text the OW husband. It always amazes me the things CUM chooses to believe.

The counselor didn't suggest going to OW's house - a friend did. And the counselor might well have said to text the OW DH. That other betrayed spouse is your best bet for making sure the affair is over. And make no mistake, it was an affair.

Almost EXACTLY what I went through a decade ago. Seriously. These things do unfold like this.

OP, please take good care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

I've been through something similar and can't believe how gullible I was. In the words of Neko Case, "It was so clear to me that it was almost invisible". It can be right in front of your face but if you don't want to see it, you don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been through something similar and can't believe how gullible I was. In the words of Neko Case, "It was so clear to me that it was almost invisible". It can be right in front of your face but if you don't want to see it, you don't.

Did he make up a "close but not all the way" excuse, like we got here?

[Anonymous]

I don't want to go into details but basically was a family friend that I eventually realized from the way they acted when they were together that something was up. After finding evidence, he finally confessed that he was in love with her but claimed that nothing physical happened because she wasn't interested in a married man. I'll never know for sure but the emotional connection and constant lying was the worst betrayal. I said either her or me and he did choose me. No contact at all since and he is a changed man.