Husband had a baby with assistant update

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - she dropped the case 2 weeks before the court date. She wants my husband to pay for the the motion to drop. He is. She wants him to pay the balance on her attorney fees. Her husband will remain the legal parent and raise the child. This is what he wanted to do all along according to FB messages I was sent early on.

My son and daughter were told we are divorcing. My 15 year old son was told of the possibility of a half sibling (reality is, he heard the fighting and already knew). His response was , "I don't have a half sibling. That kid is nothing to me. ***** is my sister (if you don't remember, she is adopted)"

My soon to be ex's lawyer felt it was 50/50. The bottom line is the best interest of the child. My husband hasn't seen the child in 6 months and this man has raised the child for 2 1/2 years. The fact that they were not divorcing but she wanted to switch paternity might not have stood well with some judges.

Next court date is my divorce. This one will not be cancelled. We are seeing a counselor to help us help our kids and both kids are in counseling. My son is beyond furious with his dad.

For all you that will come critize, judge and call me a troll, move on to another post. I have done the best I could in a difficult situation. I am still trying to do the best I can. Yes, I did make mistakes due to extreme anger (Christmas decorations) but I am supporting my kids and want them to love and have a great relationship with their dad (even though I want to kill him). It has been a long two years and I just want to move on with my life with the least amount of damage to my children and myself.

Sounds like your son has as much hate in his heart as you do. Shocking.

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I guess OP no longer wants to be "step mommy"
OP is insane. In her op she suggested the ow whof was his 20 something yr old subordinate manipulated him with food. Smh

Never wanted to be step mommy. Comment was sent to infuriate her and it worked. I am divorcing and moving on. He can screw any subordinate he wants now.

[Anonymous]

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Of course adoption is not a disgrace, what a bizarre leap. This specific person was all set to pay support and have custody and now is like "well guess not." It's his kid!

He may be the bio-dad but he is not the dad. It's more than an act of biology to be dad. Sounds like the child has a dad in his life.

Who was all set to terminate paternity so his wife could get child support. Great stand in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Of course adoption is not a disgrace, what a bizarre leap. This specific person was all set to pay support and have custody and now is like "well guess not." It's his kid!

He may be the bio-dad but he is not the dad. It's more than an act of biology to be dad. Sounds like the child has a dad in his life.

Who was all set to terminate paternity so his wife could get child support. Great stand in there.

o


Yes. This OW and her husband seem to be out for money. Maybe in cahoots the whole time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Of course adoption is not a disgrace, what a bizarre leap. This specific person was all set to pay support and have custody and now is like "well guess not." It's his kid!

He may be the bio-dad but he is not the dad. It's more than an act of biology to be dad. Sounds like the child has a dad in his life.

Who was all set to terminate paternity so his wife could get child support. Great stand in there.

o


Yes. This OW and her husband seem to be out for money. Maybe in cahoots the whole time?

Well we already established that. Now she's evidently dropped it after being told it wouldn't go her way. But her husband is now the "father" although he was happy to give up paternity for $$$. And the real father, OP's husband, isn't going to be stepping in to be involved with his son. What a garbage person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - she dropped the case 2 weeks before the court date. She wants my husband to pay for the the motion to drop. He is. She wants him to pay the balance on her attorney fees. Her husband will remain the legal parent and raise the child. This is what he wanted to do all along according to FB messages I was sent early on.

My son and daughter were told we are divorcing. My 15 year old son was told of the possibility of a half sibling (reality is, he heard the fighting and already knew). His response was , "I don't have a half sibling. That kid is nothing to me. ***** is my sister (if you don't remember, she is adopted)"

My soon to be ex's lawyer felt it was 50/50. The bottom line is the best interest of the child. My husband hasn't seen the child in 6 months and this man has raised the child for 2 1/2 years. The fact that they were not divorcing but she wanted to switch paternity might not have stood well with some judges.

Next court date is my divorce. This one will not be cancelled. We are seeing a counselor to help us help our kids and both kids are in counseling. My son is beyond furious with his dad.

For all you that will come critize, judge and call me a troll, move on to another post. I have done the best I could in a difficult situation. I am still trying to do the best I can. Yes, I did make mistakes due to extreme anger (Christmas decorations) but I am supporting my kids and want them to love and have a great relationship with their dad (even though I want to kill him). It has been a long two years and I just want to move on with my life with the least amount of damage to my children and myself.

Sounds like your son has as much hate in his heart as you do. Shocking.

You are everything that is wrong with DCUM. I don't understand how you sleep at night with such an ugly, ugly soul.

That kid is human, three years from adulthood, and is right and justified in being ANGRY with his cheating, lying bastard of a father. It won't last forever, but he will have to work through his feelings of anger and disappointment that the man he looked up to let his family down in such a terrible way. The daughter too.

OP, I wish you and your children luck and hope you will find some happiness in the future.

This.

+1. Amazing that PP is coming out swinging against a kid who doesn't like his shitty cheater of a dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - she dropped the case 2 weeks before the court date. She wants my husband to pay for the the motion to drop. He is. She wants him to pay the balance on her attorney fees. Her husband will remain the legal parent and raise the child. This is what he wanted to do all along according to FB messages I was sent early on.

My son and daughter were told we are divorcing. My 15 year old son was told of the possibility of a half sibling (reality is, he heard the fighting and already knew). His response was , "I don't have a half sibling. That kid is nothing to me. ***** is my sister (if you don't remember, she is adopted)"

My soon to be ex's lawyer felt it was 50/50. The bottom line is the best interest of the child. My husband hasn't seen the child in 6 months and this man has raised the child for 2 1/2 years. The fact that they were not divorcing but she wanted to switch paternity might not have stood well with some judges.

Next court date is my divorce. This one will not be cancelled. We are seeing a counselor to help us help our kids and both kids are in counseling. My son is beyond furious with his dad.

For all you that will come critize, judge and call me a troll, move on to another post. I have done the best I could in a difficult situation. I am still trying to do the best I can. Yes, I did make mistakes due to extreme anger (Christmas decorations) but I am supporting my kids and want them to love and have a great relationship with their dad (even though I want to kill him). It has been a long two years and I just want to move on with my life with the least amount of damage to my children and myself.

Sounds like your son has as much hate in his heart as you do. Shocking.

What an ugly person you must be. Did you cheat and have a baby outside of your marriage too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds really nasty to bring up sister's adoption.

If he were a good dad, he's sue for paternity and visitation. They can drop their child support motion but he does not have to drop his visitation/custody one.

OP here. What are you talking about? He said it meaning he loves her and DNA does not matter.

Clearly, he is not a good dad. He would not have had an affair with no condom if he had any respect for his kids at home.
He doesn't want to raise this other child.

He is not a good dad if he is walking away from his child, however his affair had nothing to do with his kids, but it did with your marriage. They are seperate issues. He should not have had an affair, condom or no condom but that is about you and your marriage not this child or your kids. He may not want to raise another child, but that child is in this world and deserves support from him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds really nasty to bring up sister's adoption.

If he were a good dad, he's sue for paternity and visitation. They can drop their child support motion but he does not have to drop his visitation/custody one.

OP here. What are you talking about? He said it meaning he loves her and DNA does not matter.

Clearly, he is not a good dad. He would not have had an affair with no condom if he had any respect for his kids at home.
He doesn't want to raise this other child.

He is not a good dad if he is walking away from his child, however his affair had nothing to do with his kids, but it did with your marriage. They are seperate issues. He should not have had an affair, condom or no condom but that is about you and your marriage not this child or your kids. He may not want to raise another child, but that child is in this world and deserves support from him.

This child does not deserve support from the biological dad. He is basically adopted. I am an adoptive parent also and want no support from the biological parents. I am the mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds really nasty to bring up sister's adoption.

If he were a good dad, he's sue for paternity and visitation. They can drop their child support motion but he does not have to drop his visitation/custody one.

OP here. What are you talking about? He said it meaning he loves her and DNA does not matter.

Clearly, he is not a good dad. He would not have had an affair with no condom if he had any respect for his kids at home.
He doesn't want to raise this other child.

He is not a good dad if he is walking away from his child, however his affair had nothing to do with his kids, but it did with your marriage. They are seperate issues. He should not have had an affair, condom or no condom but that is about you and your marriage not this child or your kids. He may not want to raise another child, but that child is in this world and deserves support from him.

Um, no.

I have a step father who has been my real father. I don't want anything to do with my bio dad. My step father walked me down the aisle and there foe every single milestone. Bio father does NOT automatically entitle you to access. I think given the pile of shit this man and whore created of their lives this now has had the best outcome possible, given the terrible situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds really nasty to bring up sister's adoption.

If he were a good dad, he's sue for paternity and visitation. They can drop their child support motion but he does not have to drop his visitation/custody one.

OP here. What are you talking about? He said it meaning he loves her and DNA does not matter.

Clearly, he is not a good dad. He would not have had an affair with no condom if he had any respect for his kids at home.
He doesn't want to raise this other child.

He is not a good dad if he is walking away from his child, however his affair had nothing to do with his kids, but it did with your marriage. They are seperate issues. He should not have had an affair, condom or no condom but that is about you and your marriage not this child or your kids. He may not want to raise another child, but that child is in this world and deserves support from him.

Um, no.

I have a step father who has been my real father. I don't want anything to do with my bio dad. My step father walked me down the aisle and there foe every single milestone. Bio father does NOT automatically entitle you to access. I think given the pile of shit this man and whore created of their lives this now has had the best outcome possible, given the terrible situation.

+++++++++++1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds really nasty to bring up sister's adoption.

If he were a good dad, he's sue for paternity and visitation. They can drop their child support motion but he does not have to drop his visitation/custody one.

OP here. What are you talking about? He said it meaning he loves her and DNA does not matter.

Clearly, he is not a good dad. He would not have had an affair with no condom if he had any respect for his kids at home.
He doesn't want to raise this other child.

He is not a good dad if he is walking away from his child, however his affair had nothing to do with his kids, but it did with your marriage. They are seperate issues. He should not have had an affair, condom or no condom but that is about you and your marriage not this child or your kids. He may not want to raise another child, but that child is in this world and deserves support from him.

This child does not deserve support from the biological dad. He is basically adopted. I am an adoptive parent also and want no support from the biological parents. I am the mom.

This child is not adoption as there has been no adoption. As an adoptive parent, parental right have no been terminated. This is not an equal situation (yes we adopted and my husband has biological kids as well). There is obviously a lot more to this story we will never know.

If stepdad was a good dad he would adopt the child and financially provide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds really nasty to bring up sister's adoption.

If he were a good dad, he's sue for paternity and visitation. They can drop their child support motion but he does not have to drop his visitation/custody one.

OP here. What are you talking about? He said it meaning he loves her and DNA does not matter.

Clearly, he is not a good dad. He would not have had an affair with no condom if he had any respect for his kids at home.
He doesn't want to raise this other child.

He is not a good dad if he is walking away from his child, however his affair had nothing to do with his kids, but it did with your marriage. They are seperate issues. He should not have had an affair, condom or no condom but that is about you and your marriage not this child or your kids. He may not want to raise another child, but that child is in this world and deserves support from him.

This child does not deserve support from the biological dad. He is basically adopted. I am an adoptive parent also and want no support from the biological parents. I am the mom.

This child is not adoption as there has been no adoption. As an adoptive parent, parental right have no been terminated. This is not an equal situation (yes we adopted and my husband has biological kids as well). There is obviously a lot more to this story we will never know.

If stepdad was a good dad he would adopt the child and financially provide.

From what I understand, the OW's husband is listed as the father on the birth certificate. Ergo, he is the father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds really nasty to bring up sister's adoption.

If he were a good dad, he's sue for paternity and visitation. They can drop their child support motion but he does not have to drop his visitation/custody one.

OP here. What are you talking about? He said it meaning he loves her and DNA does not matter.

Clearly, he is not a good dad. He would not have had an affair with no condom if he had any respect for his kids at home.
He doesn't want to raise this other child.

He is not a good dad if he is walking away from his child, however his affair had nothing to do with his kids, but it did with your marriage. They are seperate issues. He should not have had an affair, condom or no condom but that is about you and your marriage not this child or your kids. He may not want to raise another child, but that child is in this world and deserves support from him.

This child does not deserve support from the biological dad. He is basically adopted. I am an adoptive parent also and want no support from the biological parents. I am the mom.

This child is not adoption as there has been no adoption. As an adoptive parent, parental right have no been terminated. This is not an equal situation (yes we adopted and my husband has biological kids as well). There is obviously a lot more to this story we will never know.

If stepdad was a good dad he would adopt the child and financially provide.

He is the legal father. He does not have to adopt. A child born within a marriage is automatically the father.

[Anonymous]

Let's just make this clear. This is the internet and OP could be a complete fraud. It certainly smells fishy, as others have said. I have seen some egregious examples of cat fishing and it is entirely possible that this is an elaborate example of it. I've seen people (all women in my case) fake miscarriages for years in order to garnish false sympathy from other moms. In that case the woman wasn't even married, was never pregnant, and did other creepy *** sh** like steal pictures to use as her own and pay websites for info on other moms. I've heard of people faking cancers for years, using their knowledge as oncology nurses, only to one day go too far and be discovered by their sympathizers. There are some truly f'ed up people out there and OP, I hope to god you are not one of them. I haven't seen some of you other posts.

If what you say is true, then I wish you the best. That sort of sh** fest is not anything I'd wish on anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's just make this clear. This is the internet and OP could be a complete fraud. It certainly smells fishy, as others have said. I have seen some egregious examples of cat fishing and it is entirely possible that this is an elaborate example of it. I've seen people (all women in my case) fake miscarriages for years in order to garnish false sympathy from other moms. In that case the woman wasn't even married, was never pregnant, and did other creepy *** sh** like steal pictures to use as her own and pay websites for info on other moms. I've heard of people faking cancers for years, using their knowledge as oncology nurses, only to one day go too far and be discovered by their sympathizers. There are some truly f'ed up people out there and OP, I hope to god you are not one of them. I haven't seen some of you other posts.

If what you say is true, then I wish you the best. That sort of sh** fest is not anything I'd wish on anyone.

I have called BS on her a few times but Jeff said she is posting from Michigan and isn't a known troll to him so even though so many things don't add up (like how she wasn't telling her kids about the divorce because they were blissfully unaware and still leading happy lives except now it turns out the son knew all along from overhearing fighting and somehow conned his parents into thinking he was happy and life was same as usual) I'm now choosing to respond to the updates as if they're true. I have doubts especially given how she had one huge thread deleted but not others, but I'm just going along with the story now. The update makes me think her husband is truly a piece of shit whereas before I just thought he was a confused human who made a bad mistake and was doing his best to rectify it.