Husband had a baby with assistant update

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - she dropped the case 2 weeks before the court date. She wants my husband to pay for the the motion to drop. He is. She wants him to pay the balance on her attorney fees. Her husband will remain the legal parent and raise the child. This is what he wanted to do all along according to FB messages I was sent early on.

My son and daughter were told we are divorcing. My 15 year old son was told of the possibility of a half sibling (reality is, he heard the fighting and already knew). His response was , "I don't have a half sibling. That kid is nothing to me. ***** is my sister (if you don't remember, she is adopted)"

My soon to be ex's lawyer felt it was 50/50. The bottom line is the best interest of the child. My husband hasn't seen the child in 6 months and this man has raised the child for 2 1/2 years. The fact that they were not divorcing but she wanted to switch paternity might not have stood well with some judges.

Next court date is my divorce. This one will not be cancelled. We are seeing a counselor to help us help our kids and both kids are in counseling. My son is beyond furious with his dad.

For all you that will come critize, judge and call me a troll, move on to another post. I have done the best I could in a difficult situation. I am still trying to do the best I can. Yes, I did make mistakes due to extreme anger (Christmas decorations) but I am supporting my kids and want them to love and have a great relationship with their dad (even though I want to kill him). It has been a long two years and I just want to move on with my life with the least amount of damage to my children and myself.

Sounds like your son has as much hate in his heart as you do. Shocking.

Huh! What a rotten person you are. I would imagine my teens would be incredibly angry at my husband or myself in this situation. Go away sad, lonely person.

[Anonymous]

Your son sounds really nasty to bring up sister's adoption.

If he were a good dad, he's sue for paternity and visitation. They can drop their child support motion but he does not have to drop his visitation/custody one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds really nasty to bring up sister's adoption.

If he were a good dad, he's sue for paternity and visitation. They can drop their child support motion but he does not have to drop his visitation/custody one.

OP here. What are you talking about? He said it meaning he loves her and DNA does not matter.

Clearly, he is not a good dad. He would not have had an affair with no condom if he had any respect for his kids at home.
He doesn't want to raise this other child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your son sounds really nasty to bring up sister's adoption.

If he were a good dad, he's sue for paternity and visitation. They can drop their child support motion but he does not have to drop his visitation/custody one.

I don't think OP's son brought up his sister's adoption- I think OP herself reminded us in parentheses that her daughter is adopted but that her son thinks of her as his sister, not the child he is actually biologically related to.

OP, I wish you and your children the best. I have a daughter whom I adopted and who was the child of an affair. I love her so much and she is cherished by all in my family. She has three half-siblings and while i hope one day, they might like to meet her, I would not blame them if they do not. What might make a difference in her story is that neither of her birth parents divorced their spouses so she can't be blamed for the breakup of any marriage.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

So even though he was asking 50/50 custody originally he now wants nothing to do with the kid and won't help raise him or be part of his life? Ugh. Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So even though he was asking 50/50 custody originally he now wants nothing to do with the kid and won't help raise him or be part of his life? Ugh. Gross.

Not OP but this sounds in the best interest of the child. He is in an intact family. No different than an adoption. Plus, in the best interest of OP's children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So even though he was asking 50/50 custody originally he now wants nothing to do with the kid and won't help raise him or be part of his life? Ugh. Gross.

Not OP but this sounds in the best interest of the child. He is in an intact family. No different than an adoption. Plus, in the best interest of OP's children.

There's just something so vile to me about having a child out there that you have nothing to do with by choice. And that IS his son's half sibling even if technically not the daughter's because of adoption. I would have been disgusted with him anyway for all of this but just not having anything to do with the child he fathered would really beat all. What a disgrace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So even though he was asking 50/50 custody originally he now wants nothing to do with the kid and won't help raise him or be part of his life? Ugh. Gross.

Not OP but this sounds in the best interest of the child. He is in an intact family. No different than an adoption. Plus, in the best interest of OP's children.

There's just something so vile to me about having a child out there that you have nothing to do with by choice. And that IS his son's half sibling even if technically not the daughter's because of adoption. I would have been disgusted with him anyway for all of this but just not having anything to do with the child he fathered would really beat all. What a disgrace.

Why? Is adoption a disgrace? When a woman gives up a baby for adoption we talk about how brave she is. I think it is disgusting to leave a single mother if you have a child with her, but this child appears to have a father that wants to raise him. A man has no reproductive rights. A woman is never forced to be a mother. She has options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So even though he was asking 50/50 custody originally he now wants nothing to do with the kid and won't help raise him or be part of his life? Ugh. Gross.

Not OP but this sounds in the best interest of the child. He is in an intact family. No different than an adoption. Plus, in the best interest of OP's children.

There's just something so vile to me about having a child out there that you have nothing to do with by choice. And that IS his son's half sibling even if technically not the daughter's because of adoption. I would have been disgusted with him anyway for all of this but just not having anything to do with the child he fathered would really beat all. What a disgrace.

Why? Is adoption a disgrace? When a woman gives up a baby for adoption we talk about how brave she is. I think it is disgusting to leave a single mother if you have a child with her, but this child appears to have a father that wants to raise him. A man has no reproductive rights. A woman is never forced to be a mother. She has options.

Of course adoption is not a disgrace, what a bizarre leap. This specific person was all set to pay support and have custody and now is like "well guess not." It's his kid!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - she dropped the case 2 weeks before the court date. She wants my husband to pay for the the motion to drop. He is. She wants him to pay the balance on her attorney fees. Her husband will remain the legal parent and raise the child. This is what he wanted to do all along according to FB messages I was sent early on.

My son and daughter were told we are divorcing. My 15 year old son was told of the possibility of a half sibling (reality is, he heard the fighting and already knew). His response was , "I don't have a half sibling. That kid is nothing to me. ***** is my sister (if you don't remember, she is adopted)"

My soon to be ex's lawyer felt it was 50/50. The bottom line is the best interest of the child. My husband hasn't seen the child in 6 months and this man has raised the child for 2 1/2 years. The fact that they were not divorcing but she wanted to switch paternity might not have stood well with some judges.

Next court date is my divorce. This one will not be cancelled. We are seeing a counselor to help us help our kids and both kids are in counseling. My son is beyond furious with his dad.

For all you that will come critize, judge and call me a troll, move on to another post. I have done the best I could in a difficult situation. I am still trying to do the best I can. Yes, I did make mistakes due to extreme anger (Christmas decorations) but I am supporting my kids and want them to love and have a great relationship with their dad (even though I want to kill him). It has been a long two years and I just want to move on with my life with the least amount of damage to my children and myself.

Sounds like your son has as much hate in his heart as you do. Shocking.

You are everything that is wrong with DCUM. I don't understand how you sleep at night with such an ugly, ugly soul.

That kid is human, three years from adulthood, and is right and justified in being ANGRY with his cheating, lying bastard of a father. It won't last forever, but he will have to work through his feelings of anger and disappointment that the man he looked up to let his family down in such a terrible way. The daughter too.

OP, I wish you and your children luck and hope you will find some happiness in the future.

[Anonymous]

Of course adoption is not a disgrace, what a bizarre leap. This specific person was all set to pay support and have custody and now is like "well guess not." It's his kid!

He may be the bio-dad but he is not the dad. It's more than an act of biology to be dad. Sounds like the child has a dad in his life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - she dropped the case 2 weeks before the court date. She wants my husband to pay for the the motion to drop. He is. She wants him to pay the balance on her attorney fees. Her husband will remain the legal parent and raise the child. This is what he wanted to do all along according to FB messages I was sent early on.

My son and daughter were told we are divorcing. My 15 year old son was told of the possibility of a half sibling (reality is, he heard the fighting and already knew). His response was , "I don't have a half sibling. That kid is nothing to me. ***** is my sister (if you don't remember, she is adopted)"

My soon to be ex's lawyer felt it was 50/50. The bottom line is the best interest of the child. My husband hasn't seen the child in 6 months and this man has raised the child for 2 1/2 years. The fact that they were not divorcing but she wanted to switch paternity might not have stood well with some judges.

Next court date is my divorce. This one will not be cancelled. We are seeing a counselor to help us help our kids and both kids are in counseling. My son is beyond furious with his dad.

For all you that will come critize, judge and call me a troll, move on to another post. I have done the best I could in a difficult situation. I am still trying to do the best I can. Yes, I did make mistakes due to extreme anger (Christmas decorations) but I am supporting my kids and want them to love and have a great relationship with their dad (even though I want to kill him). It has been a long two years and I just want to move on with my life with the least amount of damage to my children and myself.

Sounds like your son has as much hate in his heart as you do. Shocking.

You are everything that is wrong with DCUM. I don't understand how you sleep at night with such an ugly, ugly soul.

That kid is human, three years from adulthood, and is right and justified in being ANGRY with his cheating, lying bastard of a father. It won't last forever, but he will have to work through his feelings of anger and disappointment that the man he looked up to let his family down in such a terrible way. The daughter too.

OP, I wish you and your children luck and hope you will find some happiness in the future.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - she dropped the case 2 weeks before the court date. She wants my husband to pay for the the motion to drop. He is. She wants him to pay the balance on her attorney fees. Her husband will remain the legal parent and raise the child. This is what he wanted to do all along according to FB messages I was sent early on.

My son and daughter were told we are divorcing. My 15 year old son was told of the possibility of a half sibling (reality is, he heard the fighting and already knew). His response was , "I don't have a half sibling. That kid is nothing to me. ***** is my sister (if you don't remember, she is adopted)"

My soon to be ex's lawyer felt it was 50/50. The bottom line is the best interest of the child. My husband hasn't seen the child in 6 months and this man has raised the child for 2 1/2 years. The fact that they were not divorcing but she wanted to switch paternity might not have stood well with some judges.

Next court date is my divorce. This one will not be cancelled. We are seeing a counselor to help us help our kids and both kids are in counseling. My son is beyond furious with his dad.

For all you that will come critize, judge and call me a troll, move on to another post. I have done the best I could in a difficult situation. I am still trying to do the best I can. Yes, I did make mistakes due to extreme anger (Christmas decorations) but I am supporting my kids and want them to love and have a great relationship with their dad (even though I want to kill him). It has been a long two years and I just want to move on with my life with the least amount of damage to my children and myself.

Sounds like your son has as much hate in his heart as you do. Shocking.

+1
I guess OP no longer wants to be "step mommy"
OP is insane. In her op she suggested the ow whof was his 20 something yr old subordinate manipulated him with food. Smh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - she dropped the case 2 weeks before the court date. She wants my husband to pay for the the motion to drop. He is. She wants him to pay the balance on her attorney fees. Her husband will remain the legal parent and raise the child. This is what he wanted to do all along according to FB messages I was sent early on.

My son and daughter were told we are divorcing. My 15 year old son was told of the possibility of a half sibling (reality is, he heard the fighting and already knew). His response was , "I don't have a half sibling. That kid is nothing to me. ***** is my sister (if you don't remember, she is adopted)"

My soon to be ex's lawyer felt it was 50/50. The bottom line is the best interest of the child. My husband hasn't seen the child in 6 months and this man has raised the child for 2 1/2 years. The fact that they were not divorcing but she wanted to switch paternity might not have stood well with some judges.

Next court date is my divorce. This one will not be cancelled. We are seeing a counselor to help us help our kids and both kids are in counseling. My son is beyond furious with his dad.

For all you that will come critize, judge and call me a troll, move on to another post. I have done the best I could in a difficult situation. I am still trying to do the best I can. Yes, I did make mistakes due to extreme anger (Christmas decorations) but I am supporting my kids and want them to love and have a great relationship with their dad (even though I want to kill him). It has been a long two years and I just want to move on with my life with the least amount of damage to my children and myself.

Sounds like your son has as much hate in his heart as you do. Shocking.

You are everything that is wrong with DCUM. I don't understand how you sleep at night with such an ugly, ugly soul.

That kid is human, three years from adulthood, and is right and justified in being ANGRY with his cheating, lying bastard of a father. It won't last forever, but he will have to work through his feelings of anger and disappointment that the man he looked up to let his family down in such a terrible way. The daughter too.

OP, I wish you and your children luck and hope you will find some happiness in the future.

Thank you so much. Both my kids had their dad on a pedestal, so the betrayal has hurt them very much. They are both in counseling so hopefully that will help them deal with the situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - she dropped the case 2 weeks before the court date. She wants my husband to pay for the the motion to drop. He is. She wants him to pay the balance on her attorney fees. Her husband will remain the legal parent and raise the child. This is what he wanted to do all along according to FB messages I was sent early on.

My son and daughter were told we are divorcing. My 15 year old son was told of the possibility of a half sibling (reality is, he heard the fighting and already knew). His response was , "I don't have a half sibling. That kid is nothing to me. ***** is my sister (if you don't remember, she is adopted)"

My soon to be ex's lawyer felt it was 50/50. The bottom line is the best interest of the child. My husband hasn't seen the child in 6 months and this man has raised the child for 2 1/2 years. The fact that they were not divorcing but she wanted to switch paternity might not have stood well with some judges.

Next court date is my divorce. This one will not be cancelled. We are seeing a counselor to help us help our kids and both kids are in counseling. My son is beyond furious with his dad.

For all you that will come critize, judge and call me a troll, move on to another post. I have done the best I could in a difficult situation. I am still trying to do the best I can. Yes, I did make mistakes due to extreme anger (Christmas decorations) but I am supporting my kids and want them to love and have a great relationship with their dad (even though I want to kill him). It has been a long two years and I just want to move on with my life with the least amount of damage to my children and myself.

Sounds like your son has as much hate in his heart as you do. Shocking.

+1
I guess OP no longer wants to be "step mommy"
OP is insane. In her op she suggested the ow whof was his 20 something yr old subordinate manipulated him with food. Smh