Husband had a baby with assistant update

[Anonymous]

My divorce will be final November 4th. We are still living together and managing to co-parent okay. The assistant has sued my husband for child support. He recieved paperwork that lists him and her husband as co-defendants in May. Court date is August 11th. She is suing to take away her husbands paternity and make my soon to be ex-husband the legal father. She also wants the birth certificate changed. She has to prove that this is in the child's best interest. We are in Michigan and she must meet 4 parameters to take away her husbands paternity. I thought that her husband would not willingly give up his parental rights but he has now said that he wants to be "the step parent". Mu husband has hired a very aggressive attorney from a large firm. They are perplexed by this situation. They have never had a case where the man and wife stay married and raise the child together but the husband gives up all parental rights. My husband makes more money and will have to pay child support. A lot of child support. I have access to all correspondence from the two attorneys so no longer feel in the dark.

I know many think I am a troll but I am not. Wish I was. I recieved so many positive, supportive comments that it negated the mean people.

I am marching on, loving my kids and leaning on my crazy, amazing friends. Two years of hell have made me realize how very lucky I really am.

[Anonymous]

I hope you have your child support in place first. Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

Op, great to hear from you. Thanks for the update and glad to hear the continued confident and strong you. Stay strong, the darker road is behind you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope you have your child support in place first. Good luck to you.

i

I do. Thank you. He is paying way more to us than the court would demand considering that child support is a formula based on income differentiation. Guilt is a powerful emotion. Unfortunately, if she gets what she wants including back child support, my husband will have a difficult time meeting both obligations (she makes around 11-12 dollars an hour).

Basically, to pay us and her (and her husband), he will be living with his mom in a two bedroom crummy condo for the next 20 years. My concern is where are my kids going to stay when they are with him, especially if he has this other child 10 days a month.

[Anonymous]

He should have kept his wandering dick in his draws. Now he gets to be poor.

Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should have kept his wandering dick in his draws. Now he gets to be poor.

Good luck to you.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should have kept his wandering dick in his draws. Now he gets to be poor.

Good luck to you.

This.

Thank you. OP here. For sure. Now I protect my kids from being poor. That is the problem. He makes the majority of the income=me and the kids poor. I WiLL not let that happen for them . Big shit sandwich to swallow is that he pays mistress and her husbands mortgage while we can no longer contribute to our kids college fund.


Moral of the story is Keep you dick in your pants of strap on a Condom.

[Anonymous]

Op, you cannot give up your rights as a father without an adoption. If they are asking for an adoption, and get it, he would not have to pay child support. Make sure there is a paternity test. They will not reduce your child support and take it from the remaining amount. She can ask for all he wants but it is up to the judge.

[Anonymous]

What an odd way to approach things. I guess they want to make sure your soon to be ex doesn't just walk away?

What a situation you are in. I'm glad your child support is in place. Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, you cannot give up your rights as a father without an adoption. If they are asking for an adoption, and get it, he would not have to pay child support. Make sure there is a paternity test. They will not reduce your child support and take it from the remaining amount. She can ask for all he wants but it is up to the judge.

Exactly. How in the world is she able to double dip? It's like she is trying to achieve the best of both worlds by having two fathers. One for the emotional support and one for the financial. Crazy

[Anonymous]

OP, did your husband ever get a paternity test done?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you have your child support in place first. Good luck to you.

i

I do. Thank you. He is paying way more to us than the court would demand considering that child support is a formula based on income differentiation. Guilt is a powerful emotion. Unfortunately, if she gets what she wants including back child support, my husband will have a difficult time meeting both obligations (she makes around 11-12 dollars an hour).

Basically, to pay us and her (and her husband), he will be living with his mom in a two bedroom crummy condo for the next 20 years. My concern is where are my kids going to stay when they are with him, especially if he has this other child 10 days a month.

That is not much incentive to keep working at a high stress job. What happens if he decides to change to a much lower paying job?

[Anonymous]

Why do you have access to both attorney's communications? Disengage! This is his circus and his monkeys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you have your child support in place first. Good luck to you.

i

I do. Thank you. He is paying way more to us than the court would demand considering that child support is a formula based on income differentiation. Guilt is a powerful emotion. Unfortunately, if she gets what she wants including back child support, my husband will have a difficult time meeting both obligations (she makes around 11-12 dollars an hour).

How could she get back child support when the child was living with her and her husband as if he was theirs, and the husband is named on the birth certificate? That seems like an easy thing for your husband to fight. At the very least, the back child support wouldn't go back to the beginning of the child's life, but possibly some later date. Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

I wish you and your child well. Yes, even with child support you will face a lot of challenges going forward, but at least you can do it on your own without the asshole. And I do hope he feels completely impoverished ... a small dose of justice that doesn't always happen. Good luck to you.