Confessions

[Anonymous]

So what is it like? To be married to someone you dont want to be married to? I mean, my DH drives me crazy sometimes and isnt perfect and we hardly have sex BUT I dont want to divorce him by any stretch..
What do you guys talk about? Do you sleep in the same bed? Do you act like a happy couple in public? Trying to paint this pic...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why some moms had kids. You work 10 hour days and see your kids on the weekends only. Unless you absolutely HAVE to be working to survive then it seems sort of odd to have kids when your career 100% comes first. And I hate it when moms say they wouldnt work if they could afford not to. Then they send their kids to private schools and have nice cars/houses. If you gave up some of those things you COULD stay home. Just admit it that you dont like being a mom that much and move on.

Cant wait to see how these poor little kids end up now that so many of them are raised by West African nannies all day!!

You're a bitch and it sounds like you have some jealousy issues to deal with. I work, like my job and am still a great mom. My child is happy, well adjusted and social.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i have a cat phobia, and I feel embarassed when I see a cat and I freak out in front of people.
I am only 9 weeks preggers with #2 and I already gained 3 pounds, I keep eating and I feel fat and ugly.
I hate my co-worker, she thinks she is hot and she is not, she has big boobs and thats about i, she is a size 16 for god sake's. she is really competitive with me about everything, she might know more about the job than me because she has been there longer, but I am hotter and younger.

Sure you are, sweety. Even though you feel fat and ugly and you are an abnoxious freak who's affraid of cats and too insecure to admit you are jealous of your co-worker... You're still hotter and younger. Maybe rotten inside, but definitively hotter and younger.

you are right, I do feel like an abnoxious freak when I see a cat, it is something I have to deal with daily and it sucks, I have been to therapy and I still have this idiotic phobia.
I hate my co-worker because she is constantly trying to out-do me in everything, and what really got me not liking her anymore is when she said that my 20month old DS was short and he had pigeon toes and her 2.5 year old DD is and will be tall and skinny. She is always talking about how all these men stare at her and that everyone is jelous of her big boobs, she gets on my nerves, or maybe is just my hormones, I should just ignore her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why some moms had kids. You work 10 hour days and see your kids on the weekends only. Unless you absolutely HAVE to be working to survive then it seems sort of odd to have kids when your career 100% comes first. And I hate it when moms say they wouldnt work if they could afford not to. Then they send their kids to private schools and have nice cars/houses. If you gave up some of those things you COULD stay home. Just admit it that you dont like being a mom that much and move on.

Cant wait to see how these poor little kids end up now that so many of them are raised by West African nannies all day!!

You're a bitch and it sounds like you have some jealousy issues to deal with. I work, like my job and am still a great mom. My child is happy, well adjusted and social.

you should give your nanny/daycare a raise then because it aint you who is doing the bulk of the parenting!

[Anonymous]

What nanny? Go to bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What nanny? Go to bed.

Well, the original poster was questioning why women have kids if they are going to work all week and only see their kids on weekends. If that isn't you then why did you respond about your happy little kids and great job? If you don't have another caregiver providing the vast majority of your childcare then you are not the target of the original rant!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i have a cat phobia, and I feel embarassed when I see a cat and I freak out in front of people.
I am only 9 weeks preggers with #2 and I already gained 3 pounds, I keep eating and I feel fat and ugly.
I hate my co-worker, she thinks she is hot and she is not, she has big boobs and thats about i, she is a size 16 for god sake's. she is really competitive with me about everything, she might know more about the job than me because she has been there longer, but I am hotter and younger.

Sure you are, sweety. Even though you feel fat and ugly and you are an abnoxious freak who's affraid of cats and too insecure to admit you are jealous of your co-worker... You're still hotter and younger. Maybe rotten inside, but definitively hotter and younger.

you are right, I do feel like an abnoxious freak when I see a cat, it is something I have to deal with daily and it sucks, I have been to therapy and I still have this idiotic phobia.
I hate my co-worker because she is constantly trying to out-do me in everything, and what really got me not liking her anymore is when she said that my 20month old DS was short and he had pigeon toes and her 2.5 year old DD is and will be tall and skinny. She is always talking about how all these men stare at her and that everyone is jelous of her big boobs, she gets on my nerves, or maybe is just my hormones, I should just ignore her.

Not the pp, but just wanted to say your follow up description of your co-worker makes me more sympathetic towards you. Try to tell the story more like that next time. Sounds like a frustrating situation to be in. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

I have house envy. We own a nice house worth about $1.2 million in a good area. If I count the "below grade" space (which they don't on real estate appraisals) it's about 3,800 square feet. We have rooms I barely go into.

But, I wish I had a big kitchen, and a nice guest room. I don't need the 7,000 sq ft $4 million house a friend just built, but when many people I know have kitchens they could play football in and are constantly buying bigger and bigger houses all the time (even in this market), it's hard not to be jealous.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure why I chose to live in DC. I never eat out at the cool hip places; we paid a lot for a smaller space; the public schools are uneven at best. Why didnt we move to the close-by Bethesda suburbs??? I feel like a loser for not being more excited by being a cool urban mama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no respect for SAHMs. I can barely disguise my disgust.

The majority look bored and checked out even though they think they are projecting the perfect happy SAHM imagine.

I don't feel bad for them when their husbands are asking what are they dong all day...I wonder the same thing. Their houses are a mess and their kids are not well behaved and the are mostly running around to moms groups and classes so they can avoid actually having one on one interaction with their child.

I don't feel bad when their husbands of 10+ years cheat or leave them. What do they expect? They spend 10 years going to mom's groups and PTAs and gossiping and worrying about mommy drama. Do you really think your husband gives a crap about that shit? They are bored senseless by it and see you a boring blob after a while of listening to you complain about it and couple that with the only other conversation you can come up with is the litany of activities you are enrolling junior in this year.

I can and do "do it all". Work as a successful professional, keep a nice house, cook meals, have a happy family, have well behaved children. If I can do it, I expect others to be able to do it.

Not sure what SAHMs you encounter but my house is clean, I cook great meals, my families happy and my children love having their mom around to raise them.

I'm guessing you're actually jealous you don't get to stay home and wish you didn't have to "do it all".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have house envy. We own a nice house worth about $1.2 million in a good area. If I count the "below grade" space (which they don't on real estate appraisals) it's about 3,800 square feet. We have rooms I barely go into.

But, I wish I had a big kitchen, and a nice guest room. I don't need the 7,000 sq ft $4 million house a friend just built, but when many people I know have kitchens they could play football in and are constantly buying bigger and bigger houses all the time (even in this market), it's hard not to be jealous.

step away from the computer. take a deep breath. count your blessings. (and I don't mean this in a bad way.)

love what you have, and cherish it.

[Anonymous]

If you read DCUM you quickly realize moms have two choices:

to SAHM and be uninteresting, bored, and growing stupider,

or to be WM and be money-hungry, unmaternal, and happy to have someone else raise her child.

What a great choice we are setting up for our daughters and future daughter-in-laws.

Great job ladies!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you read DCUM you quickly realize moms have two choices:

to SAHM and be uninteresting, bored, and growing stupider,

or to be WM and be money-hungry, unmaternal, and happy to have someone else raise her child.

What a great choice we are setting up for our daughters and future daughter-in-laws.

Great job ladies!

You hit the nail on the head. I was just thinking the same thoughts myself. Well summarized and well written.

We should all be so proud.

[Anonymous]

Our daughters will never be this stupid. I think the pendulum will swing in the opposite direction and they will be comfortable with the sacrifices they have to make when they choose to focus on family or career.

[Anonymous]

You should all read Judith Warner's Perfect Madness. It sheds real light on the SAHM vs WOHM debate because it identifies how we were ALL sold a bill of goods.