what's your biggest regret in life?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being born, though obviously not my choice.

y'ouch!

This is mine too. It sometimes enrages me to think about it. Why that 1 sperm and that 1 egg had to make me. Pisses me off to no end. I wish my parents could have had a kid , just not me.

This is a huge reason why I just can't have kids. I would feel so awful making someone be alive, it's so awful.

Does this outlook make you more likely to do risky things or have suicidal tendencies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That my middle sister genuinely hates me and my little sister and it seems as though nothing we can do will change this.

be realistic with yourselves as to what part you both played in this. people just don't wake up one day hating their loved ones, absent some mental illness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I regret playing it safe as much as I did.

+1. I used to be quite the dreamer, but my parents were all about being practical. I don't blame them, but sometimes I wonder what if.

agree completely.

[Anonymous]

Wow, where to start. I guarantee I am the biggest failure on DCUM. I have so many regrets.

I regret that I was lazy and self-destructive and never worked hard to get good grades. I'm as intelligent and far better-read than the 4.0 GPA holders I know, but because of my laziness and lack of time management skills and motivation and discipline (oh, and zero self-esteem and self-destructive instincts) I:

- graduated high school with a 3.0 and went to a shitty local state school that I still regret attending.
- graduated college with a 3.1 and went to a mid-level law school
- graduated law school with a 2.9 (always one point lower - that amuses me) and somehow got a job.

And now as a lawyer I'm applying myself for the first time and am bitter and shocked to see how good I am at what I do. I could have gone to Ivies if I had worked this hard when I was younger. I REALLY regret it. Like it or not, people in DC judge you by the schools you went to.

I also regret not losing weight while I was still young enough to enjoy being pretty. That goes back to the same laziness I had in all areas of my life.

I regret getting so deep into credit card debt as a student.

I regret that I was nearly evicted from my apartment because I couldn't make rent.

I regret that I almost never had any romantic success with the opposite sex because I had no confidence in myself.

I'm a failure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, where to start. I guarantee I am the biggest failure on DCUM. I have so many regrets.

I regret that I was lazy and self-destructive and never worked hard to get good grades. I'm as intelligent and far better-read than the 4.0 GPA holders I know, but because of my laziness and lack of time management skills and motivation and discipline (oh, and zero self-esteem and self-destructive instincts) I:

- graduated high school with a 3.0 and went to a shitty local state school that I still regret attending.
- graduated college with a 3.1 and went to a mid-level law school
- graduated law school with a 2.9 (always one point lower - that amuses me) and somehow got a job.

And now as a lawyer I'm applying myself for the first time and am bitter and shocked to see how good I am at what I do. I could have gone to Ivies if I had worked this hard when I was younger. I REALLY regret it. Like it or not, people in DC judge you by the schools you went to.

I also regret not losing weight while I was still young enough to enjoy being pretty. That goes back to the same laziness I had in all areas of my life.

I regret getting so deep into credit card debt as a student.

I regret that I was nearly evicted from my apartment because I couldn't make rent.

I regret that I almost never had any romantic success with the opposite sex because I had no confidence in myself.

I'm a failure.

You are being too hard on yourself. You may have not lived up to your potential but you went to college and law school and got a job after law school. Be good to yourself and learn from your past and vow to try your hardest from here on out.

[Anonymous]

Leaving San Diego for DC

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My biggest regret is that one homosexual experience I had. I still think about it... Makes me think I might be gay.

You are not gay. If you were there would have been more than one.

Being gay is ok too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not being able to give my virginity to my husband

This just sounds creepy and ultra religious.

+1

I never would have dated a virgin.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My absolute biggest regret is my total and absolute failure as a mother to my oldest son. I have failed him by all of my standards. I push him too hard. I'm too demanding. I'm too critical. I have continually failed to meet him where his is academically emotionally, physically--his entire life. I regret that he has me for a mother. He deserves a better, kinder, more forgiving, more accepting mother. I am trying every day to be a better mom to him--but every year, as I look back I feel I have gotten worse and worse. He is only 12. I have tried therapy on and off for years. I will again. I am almost wild with grief that there are only 3 weeks left of summer and then we are back to our eternal battle ground issue: school.

I'm a high strung Type A person and I tend towards being a high strung parent. Taking an anti-depressant/antii-anxiety medication helps me be a more relaxed person and a more relaxed parent. I'm on a low dose of Zoloft and it makes me a better mom.

PP, say you are sorry, move on.

Get a tutor! p.l.e.a.s.e, you got three weeks to work on the tutor.

[Anonymous]

Being a total chickenshit with girls when I was young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being born, though obviously not my choice.

y'ouch!

This is mine too. It sometimes enrages me to think about it. Why that 1 sperm and that 1 egg had to make me. Pisses me off to no end. I wish my parents could have had a kid , just not me.

This is a huge reason why I just can't have kids. I would feel so awful making someone be alive, it's so awful.

Does this outlook make you more likely to do risky things or have suicidal tendencies?

I am not a risk taker in anyway. I am extremely conservative and very religious. But I think about dying almost everyday. I don't want to commit suicide, I would rather be killed. The only thing that stops me is my parents. I'm an only child now as my sibling was murdered years ago. I would hate for them to have to go through that again. I just wish to have never existed.

[Anonymous]

not taking my first love seriously enough

I do believe he was the one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, where to start. I guarantee I am the biggest failure on DCUM. I have so many regrets.

I regret that I was lazy and self-destructive and never worked hard to get good grades. I'm as intelligent and far better-read than the 4.0 GPA holders I know, but because of my laziness and lack of time management skills and motivation and discipline (oh, and zero self-esteem and self-destructive instincts) I:

- graduated high school with a 3.0 and went to a shitty local state school that I still regret attending.
- graduated college with a 3.1 and went to a mid-level law school
- graduated law school with a 2.9 (always one point lower - that amuses me) and somehow got a job.

And now as a lawyer I'm applying myself for the first time and am bitter and shocked to see how good I am at what I do. I could have gone to Ivies if I had worked this hard when I was younger. I REALLY regret it. Like it or not, people in DC judge you by the schools you went to.

I also regret not losing weight while I was still young enough to enjoy being pretty. That goes back to the same laziness I had in all areas of my life.

I regret getting so deep into credit card debt as a student.

I regret that I was nearly evicted from my apartment because I couldn't make rent.

I regret that I almost never had any romantic success with the opposite sex because I had no confidence in myself.

I'm a failure.

You are being too hard on yourself. You may have not lived up to your potential but you went to college and law school and got a job after law school. Be good to yourself and learn from your past and vow to try your hardest from here on out.

+1

[Anonymous]

Not having a lesbian experience before marriage.

Not living overseas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not buying a house with an in-law/au pair suite. DHa nd I bought before kids, and didn't realize how nice an au-pair would be, esp. when dealing with early release/teacher workdays/etc.