If you went to top schools but your kids are attending a lower tier, are you worried about downward mobility?

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Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

What is there rigor and extracurriculars like?

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Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

I know! I’m shook, I genuinely didn’t think this was possible on here.

I wasted a few mental cycles trying to think of something clever to post for this one, but OP is so clearly trolling that it's not worth the effort.

I’m not trolling. This is my reality. I’m just being honest about the stakes, and I don’t see it as anything less than crucial. If you don’t get it, that’s on you, but this isn’t a joke to me.

I don’t think this one’s the OP.

It’s still me. This is how I see things, no matter how it reads to you. I’m clear on what’s important.

I dont believe you’re the OP of this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

What is there rigor and extracurriculars like?

Academically strong, top of their class, and very involved in extracurriculars. leadership roles, competitive sports. They’re on track to meet my expectations. I won't settle.

[Anonymous]

No. We've met enough successful people from all sorts of colleges to know it doesn't necessarily makes a difference. Starting out with no debt and with parental support makes more of a difference generally, and it's increasingly true to do housing costs.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

I know! I’m shook, I genuinely didn’t think this was possible on here.

I wasted a few mental cycles trying to think of something clever to post for this one, but OP is so clearly trolling that it's not worth the effort.

I’m not trolling. This is my reality. I’m just being honest about the stakes, and I don’t see it as anything less than crucial. If you don’t get it, that’s on you, but this isn’t a joke to me.

I don’t think this one’s the OP.

It’s still me. This is how I see things, no matter how it reads to you. I’m clear on what’s important.

I dont believe you’re the OP of this thread.

I am not the one who started this thread, yes. If that's what you mean.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

I know! I’m shook, I genuinely didn’t think this was possible on here.

I wasted a few mental cycles trying to think of something clever to post for this one, but OP is so clearly trolling that it's not worth the effort.

I’m not trolling. This is my reality. I’m just being honest about the stakes, and I don’t see it as anything less than crucial. If you don’t get it, that’s on you, but this isn’t a joke to me.

I don’t think this one’s the OP.

It’s still me. This is how I see things, no matter how it reads to you. I’m clear on what’s important.

I dont believe you’re the OP of this thread.

Agree, I think there was some confusion on their part.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

I know! I’m shook, I genuinely didn’t think this was possible on here.

I wasted a few mental cycles trying to think of something clever to post for this one, but OP is so clearly trolling that it's not worth the effort.

I’m not trolling. This is my reality. I’m just being honest about the stakes, and I don’t see it as anything less than crucial. If you don’t get it, that’s on you, but this isn’t a joke to me.

I don’t think this one’s the OP.

It’s still me. This is how I see things, no matter how it reads to you. I’m clear on what’s important.

I dont believe you’re the OP of this thread.

I am not the one who started this thread, yes. If that's what you mean.

Yes, that what I mean. OP means original poster.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

I know! I’m shook, I genuinely didn’t think this was possible on here.

I wasted a few mental cycles trying to think of something clever to post for this one, but OP is so clearly trolling that it's not worth the effort.

I’m not trolling. This is my reality. I’m just being honest about the stakes, and I don’t see it as anything less than crucial. If you don’t get it, that’s on you, but this isn’t a joke to me.

I don’t think this one’s the OP.

It’s still me. This is how I see things, no matter how it reads to you. I’m clear on what’s important.

I dont believe you’re the OP of this thread.

I am not the one who started this thread, yes. If that's what you mean.

Yes, that what I mean. OP means original poster.

Okay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

What is there rigor and extracurriculars like?

Academically strong, top of their class, and very involved in extracurriculars. leadership roles, competitive sports. They’re on track to meet my expectations. I won't settle.

Do you verbalize your expectations or just thoughts you keep to yourself? Are they a people pleaser type personality? I get you won’t settle. What matters is if they decide to as you can’t control them. I genuinely think if you’re at risk of alienating your child and harming their trajectory. If they are as you say, they will be just fine, so be supportive and kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do people believe so-called lower-tier colleges or universities are any easier or not as good as top tier schools?

You can judge by things like starting salary by major and acceptance to top graduate programs.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

What is there rigor and extracurriculars like?

Academically strong, top of their class, and very involved in extracurriculars. leadership roles, competitive sports. They’re on track to meet my expectations. I won't settle.

Do you verbalize your expectations or just thoughts you keep to yourself? Are they a people pleaser type personality? I get you won’t settle. What matters is if they decide to as you can’t control them. I genuinely think if you’re at risk of alienating your child and harming their trajectory. If they are as you say, they will be just fine, so be supportive and kind.

I do verbalize my expectations clearly. They know what’s at stake, and they’re not a people pleaser type. they’ve always been driven. If they choose to fall short, though, it’s not something I can just accept. I’ll have to make hard choices, and I’m prepared for that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

Weird. That isn’t even a good school. And not a dig from me, as I went to a not great state school. But if you are going all in, go all in!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find the not stick around to watch it very triggering and upsetting. Can you please stop repeating that over and over, we all got your point. If you want what you say you want, you’re going about it all wrong.

Understood. I’ll stop repeating it. But I stand by my belief that if my child doesn’t aim for their best, I can’t accept that outcome. It’s non-negotiable for me.

I’m going to predict your child keeps you at arms length by adulthood.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

What is there rigor and extracurriculars like?

Academically strong, top of their class, and very involved in extracurriculars. leadership roles, competitive sports. They’re on track to meet my expectations. I won't settle.

Do you verbalize your expectations or just thoughts you keep to yourself? Are they a people pleaser type personality? I get you won’t settle. What matters is if they decide to as you can’t control them. I genuinely think if you’re at risk of alienating your child and harming their trajectory. If they are as you say, they will be just fine, so be supportive and kind.

I do verbalize my expectations clearly. They know what’s at stake, and they’re not a people pleaser type. they’ve always been driven. If they choose to fall short, though, it’s not something I can just accept. I’ll have to make hard choices, and I’m prepared for that.

If they are not a people pleaser and early in high school, a lot of hormones are coming, and we as parents become less influential than their peers as much as we don’t always like it. Would you accept IU Kelley business school that is very well regarded and a couple slots away from GW or is it a hard cut-off?

[Anonymous]

This thread is super unhinged!