If you went to top schools but your kids are attending a lower tier, are you worried about downward mobility?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a mother, I believe in giving my child every opportunity to succeed. If they chose a path that didn’t lead to a university at least on par with George Washington University, I would seriously consider medically assisted death, because without that chance, life would lose its meaning for both of us.

I really hope this is sarcasm.

I understand why you’d think that, but it’s not sarcasm. As a mother, I feel deeply responsible for my child’s future, and if they chose not to pursue a top-tier education, it would feel like losing everything. It’s extreme, but the weight of that disappointment could be overwhelming.

I am the poor/ immigrant background poster. While I agree with you on the intense worry aspect and feeling responsible--I worried too--again mine are already settled at elites--but I think the other posters have a point that therapy could help. I mean this most kindly, I think you are being overdramatic about this. If your background is at all similar to mine then I really do understand a portion of the feelings and fear! However there is worry about your child and encouraging them to be their best WITHIN the framework of their true capabilities, but then there is irrational fear worry which could be significantly clouding your judgement and leading to unnecessary misplaced disappointment.

This is not my life experience, but exactly this. I understand a degree of worry, but this is not normal or healthy for her or her child. It’s also probably hindering their potential as I have to believe what we’re seeing here oozes into life at home. The most successful are happy and passionate and curious and driven, not motivated by fear.

Got it but if my child doesn’t aim for their potential, I won’t stick around to watch it. That’s just where I stand.

[Anonymous]

I find the not stick around to watch it very triggering and upsetting. Can you please stop repeating that over and over, we all got your point. If you want what you say you want, you’re going about it all wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find the not stick around to watch it very triggering and upsetting. Can you please stop repeating that over and over, we all got your point. If you want what you say you want, you’re going about it all wrong.

Understood. I’ll stop repeating it. But I stand by my belief that if my child doesn’t aim for their best, I can’t accept that outcome. It’s non-negotiable for me.

[Anonymous]

Wtf am I reading here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

I know! I’m shook, I genuinely didn’t think this was possible on here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

I know! I’m shook, I genuinely didn’t think this was possible on here.

I wasted a few mental cycles trying to think of something clever to post for this one, but OP is so clearly trolling that it's not worth the effort.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

I know! I’m shook, I genuinely didn’t think this was possible on here.

I wasted a few mental cycles trying to think of something clever to post for this one, but OP is so clearly trolling that it's not worth the effort.

The commitment and staying in character has been commendable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

I know! I’m shook, I genuinely didn’t think this was possible on here.

I wasted a few mental cycles trying to think of something clever to post for this one, but OP is so clearly trolling that it's not worth the effort.

I’m not trolling. This is my reality. I’m just being honest about the stakes, and I don’t see it as anything less than crucial. If you don’t get it, that’s on you, but this isn’t a joke to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

I know! I’m shook, I genuinely didn’t think this was possible on here.

I wasted a few mental cycles trying to think of something clever to post for this one, but OP is so clearly trolling that it's not worth the effort.

The commitment and staying in character has been commendable.

I’m not trolling. If you can’t see that, it’s fine, but it’s my truth.

[Anonymous]

What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

I know! I’m shook, I genuinely didn’t think this was possible on here.

I wasted a few mental cycles trying to think of something clever to post for this one, but OP is so clearly trolling that it's not worth the effort.

I’m not trolling. This is my reality. I’m just being honest about the stakes, and I don’t see it as anything less than crucial. If you don’t get it, that’s on you, but this isn’t a joke to me.

I don’t think this one’s the OP.

[Anonymous]

Why do people believe so-called lower-tier colleges or universities are any easier or not as good as top tier schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What year is your kid and what schools are they interested in?

My child is in early high school. For me, George Washington University is the line.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf am I reading here?

Something that has put an uncharacteristic hush over the normally rabid crowd in this forum.

I know! I’m shook, I genuinely didn’t think this was possible on here.

I wasted a few mental cycles trying to think of something clever to post for this one, but OP is so clearly trolling that it's not worth the effort.

I’m not trolling. This is my reality. I’m just being honest about the stakes, and I don’t see it as anything less than crucial. If you don’t get it, that’s on you, but this isn’t a joke to me.

I don’t think this one’s the OP.

It’s still me. This is how I see things, no matter how it reads to you. I’m clear on what’s important.