Husband is furious at me for telling his mother to stop talking down to me at dinner
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Anonymous
I have read it, maybe you havent. If someone "slights you" by looking at their phone it is not appropriate to go off on a childish rant. You can't just blame OP when she was simply reacting to how her MIL treated her. |
Anonymous
Thought those dialogs in OP were poorly written 
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Anonymous
DP. That pp is someone with manners. That is not age limited. |
Anonymous
| 15 pages of responses and only one other person realized the OP was written by ChatGPT? |
Anonymous
jfc i weighed in on this thread days ago and this is still a thing? you dont get to scold people for looking at their phone at dinner unless they are your own kids and they are under 18. And everyone i know looks at their phone at some points during meals. the only people mad about this are boomers. although even my boomer parents do it. |
Anonymous
It is an oddly written troll post. |
Anonymous
Been there. MIL doesn't like you and spews hatred at you subconsciously. Your reaction was assertive but, of course, not wise. But, hey, some people can't naturally be two-faced. |
Anonymous
In some cultures this etiquette does not exist. Not saying it's bad. But it's socially acceptable to check your phone during dinner. Fact. |
Anonymous
It's also socially acceptable to loudly belch at the table in Asia. And eat with your mouth open. |
Anonymous
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Haha, it’s honestly hilarious how quick some white women are to jump at the chance to condescend to someone, especially when the word “immigrant” enters the conversation. Like, really? Suddenly it’s all pearl-clutching about manners and pretending to be the authority on civility—when we all know what’s actually going on here. Another white American man showing interest in someone outside their little bubble, and the claws come out.
I see you, Miss “Eat with Your Mouth Closed” over there. The same one preaching about manners while clearly missing the part where real decency is about how you treat people, not whether you adhere to some outdated, performative nonsense. Manners mean nothing if you’re cold, fake, or just plain mean under the surface. Honestly, some people are like relics from another time—polished on the outside, but fundamentally stuck in their weird, bitter ways. A bunch of weird dinosaurs, clinging to fake rules instead of actual kindness. |
Anonymous
Would you give the same advice if the genders were reversed and the MIL or FIL berated the son-in-law for looking at their phone? My family litmus test is “would this be acceptable or likely behavior if this was a close friend”? Would the MIL have berated their good friend for looking at a phone, would you have responded in that way if it was your close friend that said that to you, would the spouse have said nothing to de-escalate the situation of a close friend going thru a tough time berating their wife about looking at their cell phone, leave even when they could have stayed behind after the confrontation, and then go out to party with different friends on NYE? I understand it’s different with the emotional bonds and parent child relationships and spouse relationships are different than friends. However, the bar of how we treat each other should be higher with family because of those bonds than how we treat friends when often it’s reversed because the BS bar is far lower with friends and that relationship is not guaranteed. |