DS's friend called me a "tiger mom"- should I say something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be embarrassed if this were my son, but I would note that "tiger mom" is totally decontextualized from Asian American culture in the minds of the current generation.

That is, those of us old enough to remember when Amy Chu burst onto the scene with her book about how Chinese Americans are better parents understand that "Tiger Mom" has a connection to Chinese culture, but it has come to mean any competitive parent who pushes their kids into a specific set of activities.

So, while it might "feel* racist, it's not in the sense that the kids say it. However, any sort of commenting about your parenting in front of you is rude.

Did you actually read the book? Because that wasnt what it was about. At the end of the book she let her 2nd daughter drop down to normal/average violin practice because she realized if she kept pushing her she would lose her, the way her own dad was the black sheep of his family because he was pushed too hard

+1
the book is very funny and self-aware.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not liking Korean food I don’t think is racist.
I would consider calling out the tiger mom comment, but my kid would probably just get embarrassed.

- Asian mom (but not a “tiger mom”)

I feel like lumping all Asian food together is sort of ignorant, if not racist. Chicken tikka masala is very different from seaweed salad.

Stop getting riled up about sh!t that doesn’t matter.

Nobody calls Indian food Asian food. Asian food (as used by Americans, and FYI we are in America) means Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Thai, etc. And obviously it’s not all the same food. No cuisine in the entire world is comprised of all the same food. Wouldn’t you agree that Haggis is very different from Yorkshire pudding?

I am a south asian and refer to myself as asian. Ignorant person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are an overly sensitive twat

Only the white people on this page are saying tht

[Anonymous]

Only someone half-Korean would be offended by this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I feel like lumping all Asian food together is sort of ignorant, if not racist. Chicken tikka masala is very different from seaweed salad.

Lol. Nobody calls indian food "asian food"

Hell, nobody even really uses the term "asian food"

You say "I'm in the mood for Thai" or, "lets get japanese"

Sometimes I feel like you guys make stuff up to get worked up about

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not liking Korean food I don’t think is racist.
I would consider calling out the tiger mom comment, but my kid would probably just get embarrassed.

- Asian mom (but not a “tiger mom”)

I feel like lumping all Asian food together is sort of ignorant, if not racist. Chicken tikka masala is very different from seaweed salad.

Stop getting riled up about sh!t that doesn’t matter.

Nobody calls Indian food Asian food. Asian food (as used by Americans, and FYI we are in America) means Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Thai, etc. And obviously it’s not all the same food. No cuisine in the entire world is comprised of all the same food. Wouldn’t you agree that Haggis is very different from Yorkshire pudding?

I am a south asian and refer to myself as asian. Ignorant person.

You know you're stretching it a bit too far - Indian food has never been called Asian food. Fellow South Asian

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I feel like lumping all Asian food together is sort of ignorant, if not racist. Chicken tikka masala is very different from seaweed salad.

Lol. Nobody calls indian food "asian food"

Hell, nobody even really uses the term "asian food"

You say "I'm in the mood for Thai" or, "lets get japanese"

Sometimes I feel like you guys make stuff up to get worked up about

+1

[Anonymous]

I agree that the term Tiger Mom has now generally become race neutral in usage, though I would not call an Asian mom a Tiger Mom unless she used the term first. (I’m white and definitely a “Tiger mom.”)

But bigger picture, I want other parents to correct my kid when they do something wrong, especially in someone else’s house. So if you think something is impolite, say “I think that’s an impolite thing to say” or whatever. Doesn’t need to be a lecture.

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with not liking Asian food or saying so. A proper host would have asked what the kids would want to eat at a sleepover. Second comment was rude to say in your presence but I don’t think something worth dwelling over or saying something to the parent about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could you inform the school guidance counselor and see if she can do anything, OP ?

Sooooo inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

I could eat that Indian for lunch

[Anonymous]

He sounds pretty immature, but so do you. He at least has the excuse of being 12.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think the Tiger mom thing refers to a specific race. It refers to moms that have extremely high expectations for their kids and have them in activities that take up any free time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think the Tiger mom thing refers to a specific race. It refers to moms that have extremely high expectations for their kids and have them in activities that take up any free time

Where do you think the term "Tiger Mom" came from?

[Anonymous]

Anyone who doesn't like Korean fried chicken is a .. something, something.
On the other note, it is clear that this kid is being provocative on purpose.