Well my kid turned down Hopkins for turd mountain apparently. Quality of life and location matter a lot. As an alum- I’m happy he chose elsewhere. |
Attractive > Smart |
Don’t feed the troll!!! 😂 |
Thank you for this! I just can't understand the need for parents who pressure their kids to attend top 10-20 universities. Is it your goal or your kids? It's hard for some to believe my kid had the stats to attend top 20's, but absolutely didn't want to attend many of those schools. We let our kid decide where to attend college. Finished a great freshman year, made the deans list and was very social. Not all kids are looking for more years of the slog from top private schools to top academic universities, especially if they don't have a desire to attend graduate school or an advanced degree. We maybe the problem. We did well out of state colleges and have a high net wealth. We have raised our kids to follow their dreams, not ours. |
This is not actually true though. |
It is. You should spend more time around MIT students. |
You missed the point. It’s not about the kids who are self driven and got lucky with no impediments in their way to do really well in school. It’s about the parents who think they can make their child into a student qualified for Ivy Leagues by pushing and shoving and not accepting that might not be the best route for this particular child. |
This. I’m many years out from college and can see top 10 does not mean success. I think GPA, choice of major, and personality matter more. As Malcolm Gladwell pointed out, students in the top ten of ANY university tend to do well. The parents who think T20 is the only answer are narrow minded. |
Sue you? We have better things to do. No one cares where your kid goes to college. Posters here think that college is some kind of an end goal. There is life after college too. In the end, you want your kids to be happy. They can be happy without going to a top 20 college too. |
+ people think that instead of giving genuine advise, they could just attack parents who want to understand the world of education more. And they do it without even knowing what those children are capable of. |
I find the people in DC who are invested in these elite institutions to be some of the most dogmatic, shrill. Status-obsessed, and unpleasant people I've ever met... And what's also remarkable: they don't seem all that smart.
I was kinda proud when I realized DD was going to be looking at the CTCL list and not the ivies. I won't sue you for waking your kid to go to a TT school. I'm just glad that there's so many degrees of separation between us, because I don't think I want your kids coming over for holidays. |
I genuinely do not agree. DH and I are both HYPSM with amazing kids who are smarter than we were. But it would be setting them up for failure to expect them to get into the same schools, given how the decks are stacked against them (Asian, DMV, wealthy but not enough to give multi-million dollar donations) |
Share your info so we can sue you |
It smacks of walking thru life in need of external validation. Assuming brand names are always better and trying to impress others.
Finding a list of schools that offer quality education, but are curated with your kid in mind is a far more nuanced and time-consuming way to approach the process. Versus delegating that important job to USNWR and a paid stranger. |
I was also proud when my kid chose a CTCL over more highly ranked admits. It meant they were their own person, internally vs externally-driven . I felt I had done a good job as a parent. |