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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are making a lot of assumptions just on the fact a kid is headed to an Ivy.

We are the farthest thing from tiger parents.  We were the parents raising our hands in elementary school orientation to ask how long PE was...and then lobbying for more recess time.

We did not tutor or push either of our kids.  They both had test scores and learning that qualified way above the GT cutoff, but neither was placed in GT because by 4th grade it was filled with the Kumon kids and the kids with parents names on the side of the building or the school path.

My kids both were always quick learners with big memories and academic leanings.  The only thing we did was support their interests at that point in time---sports---driving/$/time; interested in Legos--trips to legoland, countless lego sets, movies, etc., Dinosaurs? puzzle books, etc., Reading was big in our house. Current events too.

By middle school, neither son needed any reminders or support for us for school work and easily obtaining As in all courses which continued through HS along with 99%+ test scores.  Older son was in charge of his college list and applications.  I was all set for him to get rejected from the state flagship because that was the horror story everyone kept telling us...also pushing him to ED (which he did not anywhere).  Counselor providing list of lower rated schools, etc.  Kid applied mainly to T10 and T20 and did incredibly well and is headed to an Ivy next year (surprise to all of us).  He hadn't talked about it much, and we never discussed attending an Ivy--neither of us did.  I went to a public university, spouse a T20.  He is the first headed to an Ivy.

My kid is self-motivated and all of this is from him.  He had a big social life, sports life and was never stressed out.  Easy-going.

So this idea that every kid headed to an Ivy was micromanaged, tiger mom'd, polished and forced that direction is not true for everyone.  In fact, my kid's other two friends headed to Ivies are very low-key, non-helicopter kids that also weren't pushed into summer programs or internships or starting non-profits, etc.[/quote]

How virtuous of you.[/quote]

You missed the point.  It’s not about the kids who are self driven and got lucky with no impediments in their way to do really well in school.  It’s about the parents who think they can make their child into a student qualified for Ivy Leagues by pushing and shoving and not accepting that might not be the best route for this particular child.   [/quote]

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