"Don't Text Me So Early!"

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Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

Not really. What you are really saying is people have to out think those that are too dumb to know how to use their phone. There are simple settings that allow any call or text to come through even when a phone is silenced or on do not disturb. My phone, for instance, can be set to never silence notifications from certain people. Other settings allow any number (in your contacts or not) to get through if two attempts are made back to back. The police and hospitals know this so they will always call multiple times.

Don't encumber me because you don't know how to use your own phone.

You sound like an a$$

I love the person who thinks they are intelligent because they know how to use basic tools on an iPhone. Oh phone wizard, tell us, what do you do for a living with that high intelligence? OOhh, is it PR? I bet you lead a fascinating life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once again everyone, silence your texts and leave your ringer on for emergencies.

I'm with the other PP on this one. I am fine with silencing my texts. But I still don't want to have to see texts from you when I first wake up. Stop texting me between midnight and 8 am. It's really annoying--and not because it wakes me up. Because you are not the first person I want to hear from in the morning.

I’m quite skeptical that you have friends who want to talk to you at other times of the day.

The friends that I have are smart, educated, and well-mannered. Not desperate for attention and so selfish that they have to text exactly what's on their mind at 6:10 on a Saturday morning. People like OP are in my life only because I married their brother--and my husband doesn't really like her either.

A poster said it earlier - most of you show yourselves as very provincial ludidtes.

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

You don’t have friends and family thoughout the world and it shows.

That’s not the gotcha you wished it was.

It’s not a gotcha, it’s an explanation. It explains why you are so small minded here.

How do you know where the relatives of the person you responded to live? You know her and all her friends and family?

Because literally *no one* who has family who lives on a different continent objects to when they text. She claims to only text during certain acceptable hours. That would really affect communication if the person’s family lived in different parts of the world.

You obviously don’t have relatives or family on other continents, otherwise you and them would have reason to know the time difference.
You have google, look up Webster’s dictionary for the word literally.

I know the time zones. That don’t even understand the point confirms you don’t actually find yourself in this situation — I said. Thanks for confirming.

You had no point other than you made up some stupid sh*t thinking you had a point.
Literally.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

You don’t have friends and family thoughout the world and it shows.

That’s not the gotcha you wished it was.

It’s not a gotcha, it’s an explanation. It explains why you are so small minded here.[/quote

Listen, nobody doesn't think you're rude. I am not a grandma. I am 35 years old. I was raised with manners. I am certain that OP knew she was texting her SIL--about something that sounds very annoying--at an early hour. She felt that her time was so important that she had to send the text when it was convenient for her, rather than waiting or opening her email, and sending a message that, for one, is easier to respond to and secondly, allows her SIL to respond when it is convenient for her. OP was acting out of her own selfishness to make her life easier and about her and her precious graduate. She knew full well what time zone her SIL was in, and it was likely her own. You all do not want to admit that you have been acting selfishly for years and didn't realize it. It's okay. Now you know. Just stop doing it.

I get complaints that I don’t text and call enough! So it’s highly unlikely anyone is upset with my texts. But then again my friends aren’t princesses so that helps.

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

But you’re the one asking other people to modify their behavior to benefit you. I would never expect someone to know which time zone I’m in and adhere to my schedule for texts because the world does not revolve around me. And it’s great that our phones now provide settings so that I have total control over notifications and don’t need to rely on others.

Are you too stupid to think that OPs SIL does not know what time zone she is in.

People travel and don’t always keep the same schedule. I would never expect anyone to give me a detailed itinerary every week nor would I look at it before texting. The responsibility to manage alerts is on the person receiving texts.

The responsibility is on you to not text at inappropriate hours. You aren’t special.

Every hour is inappropriate for someone. I expect people to text me when it’s convenient for them, whether that’s 3am or 3pm. I’ll respond when it’s convenient for me.

I expect people to text when it’s appropriate.
It’s convenient for me to cut my grass at 6 in the morning, but I have self awareness and aren’t a jerk to my neighbors.

Those are not equivalent. Your neighbor can’t silence your lawnmower but you have the power to silence text notifications.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

You don’t have friends and family thoughout the world and it shows.

That’s not the gotcha you wished it was.

It’s not a gotcha, it’s an explanation. It explains why you are so small minded here.

How do you know where the relatives of the person you responded to live? You know her and all her friends and family?

Because literally *no one* who has family who lives on a different continent objects to when they text. She claims to only text during certain acceptable hours. That would really affect communication if the person’s family lived in different parts of the world.

You obviously don’t have relatives or family on other continents, otherwise you and them would have reason to know the time difference.
You have google, look up Webster’s dictionary for the word literally.

I know the time zones. That don’t even understand the point confirms you don’t actually find yourself in this situation — I said. Thanks for confirming.

You literally have literal relatives who literally live on other literal continents? I literally want to know and what their literal time zone is in the part of the literal world they literally live in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

But you’re the one asking other people to modify their behavior to benefit you. I would never expect someone to know which time zone I’m in and adhere to my schedule for texts because the world does not revolve around me. And it’s great that our phones now provide settings so that I have total control over notifications and don’t need to rely on others.

Are you too stupid to think that OPs SIL does not know what time zone she is in.

People travel and don’t always keep the same schedule. I would never expect anyone to give me a detailed itinerary every week nor would I look at it before texting. The responsibility to manage alerts is on the person receiving texts.

The responsibility is on you to not text at inappropriate hours. You aren’t special.

Every hour is inappropriate for someone. I expect people to text me when it’s convenient for them, whether that’s 3am or 3pm. I’ll respond when it’s convenient for me.

I expect people to text when it’s appropriate.
It’s convenient for me to cut my grass at 6 in the morning, but I have self awareness and aren’t a jerk to my neighbors.

Those are not equivalent. Your neighbor can’t silence your lawnmower but you have the power to silence text notifications.

And you still don’t know what is appropriate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once again everyone, silence your texts and leave your ringer on for emergencies.

I'm with the other PP on this one. I am fine with silencing my texts. But I still don't want to have to see texts from you when I first wake up. Stop texting me between midnight and 8 am. It's really annoying--and not because it wakes me up. Because you are not the first person I want to hear from in the morning.

I’m quite skeptical that you have friends who want to talk to you at other times of the day.

The friends that I have are smart, educated, and well-mannered. Not desperate for attention and so selfish that they have to text exactly what's on their mind at 6:10 on a Saturday morning. People like OP are in my life only because I married their brother--and my husband doesn't really like her either.

A poster said it earlier - most of you show yourselves as very provincial ludidtes.

I have to ask, do you think you're smarter than the polite people here because you know how to use your iPhone? Can you not read here when people say they know how to use them? That it doesn't change the fact that it's rude to email people unimportant text messages at 6:10 am on Saturday morning? Not a single person has come back and said, "oh wise one, please teach me how to use my new fangled computer phone so that you can text me at an hour at your best and easiest convenience. Then we can all become members of the 21st century like you."Have you? Why do you keep calling people stupid?

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

But you’re the one asking other people to modify their behavior to benefit you. I would never expect someone to know which time zone I’m in and adhere to my schedule for texts because the world does not revolve around me. And it’s great that our phones now provide settings so that I have total control over notifications and don’t need to rely on others.

Are you too stupid to think that OPs SIL does not know what time zone she is in.

People travel and don’t always keep the same schedule. I would never expect anyone to give me a detailed itinerary every week nor would I look at it before texting. The responsibility to manage alerts is on the person receiving texts.

The responsibility is on you to not text at inappropriate hours. You aren’t special.

Every hour is inappropriate for someone. I expect people to text me when it’s convenient for them, whether that’s 3am or 3pm. I’ll respond when it’s convenient for me.

I expect people to text when it’s appropriate.
It’s convenient for me to cut my grass at 6 in the morning, but I have self awareness and aren’t a jerk to my neighbors.

Those are not equivalent. Your neighbor can’t silence your lawnmower but you have the power to silence text notifications.

Nor do I have to silence my notifications, you entitled nobody.

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

You don’t have friends and family thoughout the world and it shows.

That’s not the gotcha you wished it was.

It’s not a gotcha, it’s an explanation. It explains why you are so small minded here.

How do you know where the relatives of the person you responded to live? You know her and all her friends and family?

Because literally *no one* who has family who lives on a different continent objects to when they text. She claims to only text during certain acceptable hours. That would really affect communication if the person’s family lived in different parts of the world.

You obviously don’t have relatives or family on other continents, otherwise you and them would have reason to know the time difference.
You have google, look up Webster’s dictionary for the word literally.

I know the time zones. That don’t even understand the point confirms you don’t actually find yourself in this situation — I said. Thanks for confirming.

You had no point other than you made up some stupid sh*t thinking you had a point.
Literally.

Sigh, are you honestly that clueless? There is narrow window where everyone is up and it is the supposed appropriate time to text. Sometimes things come up outside the window. Please prefer you text when they are sleeping rather than hold on to the message even if it is not an emergency. I know this because I live this as do many of my friends.

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Anonymous wrote:Once again everyone, silence your texts and leave your ringer on for emergencies.

I'm with the other PP on this one. I am fine with silencing my texts. But I still don't want to have to see texts from you when I first wake up. Stop texting me between midnight and 8 am. It's really annoying--and not because it wakes me up. Because you are not the first person I want to hear from in the morning.

I’m quite skeptical that you have friends who want to talk to you at other times of the day.

The friends that I have are smart, educated, and well-mannered. Not desperate for attention and so selfish that they have to text exactly what's on their mind at 6:10 on a Saturday morning. People like OP are in my life only because I married their brother--and my husband doesn't really like her either.

A poster said it earlier - most of you show yourselves as very provincial ludidtes.

I have to ask, do you think you're smarter than the polite people here because you know how to use your iPhone? Can you not read here when people say they know how to use them? That it doesn't change the fact that it's rude to email people unimportant text messages at 6:10 am on Saturday morning? Not a single person has come back and said, "oh wise one, please teach me how to use my new fangled computer phone so that you can text me at an hour at your best and easiest convenience. Then we can all become members of the 21st century like you."Have you? Why do you keep calling people stupid?

Because you keep posting dumb things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

You don’t have friends and family thoughout the world and it shows.

That’s not the gotcha you wished it was.

It’s not a gotcha, it’s an explanation. It explains why you are so small minded here.[/quote

Listen, nobody doesn't think you're rude. I am not a grandma. I am 35 years old. I was raised with manners. I am certain that OP knew she was texting her SIL--about something that sounds very annoying--at an early hour. She felt that her time was so important that she had to send the text when it was convenient for her, rather than waiting or opening her email, and sending a message that, for one, is easier to respond to and secondly, allows her SIL to respond when it is convenient for her. OP was acting out of her own selfishness to make her life easier and about her and her precious graduate. She knew full well what time zone her SIL was in, and it was likely her own. You all do not want to admit that you have been acting selfishly for years and didn't realize it. It's okay. Now you know. Just stop doing it.

I get complaints that I don’t text and call enough! So it’s highly unlikely anyone is upset with my texts. But then again my friends aren’t princesses so that helps.

Moms don't count. Moms always think their kids don't text or call enough. I promise you, if you're texting people trying to confirm if they're coming to your kid's graduation, you're annoying them no matter what time you're texting, but definitely if it's 6 am on a Saturday.

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

You don’t have friends and family thoughout the world and it shows.

That’s not the gotcha you wished it was.

It’s not a gotcha, it’s an explanation. It explains why you are so small minded here.

How do you know where the relatives of the person you responded to live? You know her and all her friends and family?

Because literally *no one* who has family who lives on a different continent objects to when they text. She claims to only text during certain acceptable hours. That would really affect communication if the person’s family lived in different parts of the world.

You obviously don’t have relatives or family on other continents, otherwise you and them would have reason to know the time difference.
You have google, look up Webster’s dictionary for the word literally.

I know the time zones. That don’t even understand the point confirms you don’t actually find yourself in this situation — I said. Thanks for confirming.

You literally have literal relatives who literally live on other literal continents? I literally want to know and what their literal time zone is in the part of the literal world they literally live in.

Oh honey, do you feel better? I’m sorry the internet has you so triggered today.

[Anonymous]

Maybe this is an age related thing. Those of us who came of age before cell phones were ubiquitous might feel more strongly that courtesy dictates that you don’t contact people at all hours. People who who grew up texting probably don’t see it that way because texts are different than phone calls. It’s just a different frame of reference.

I don’t think OP or her SIL did anything wrong. OP wasn’t expecting to wake her SIL, and SIL wasn’t expecting such an early text about something that was not the least bit urgent. She’s letting you know her preference. If you care, take it into account. If you don’t, do whatever you want.

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

But you’re the one asking other people to modify their behavior to benefit you. I would never expect someone to know which time zone I’m in and adhere to my schedule for texts because the world does not revolve around me. And it’s great that our phones now provide settings so that I have total control over notifications and don’t need to rely on others.

Are you too stupid to think that OPs SIL does not know what time zone she is in.

People travel and don’t always keep the same schedule. I would never expect anyone to give me a detailed itinerary every week nor would I look at it before texting. The responsibility to manage alerts is on the person receiving texts.

The responsibility is on you to not text at inappropriate hours. You aren’t special.

Every hour is inappropriate for someone. I expect people to text me when it’s convenient for them, whether that’s 3am or 3pm. I’ll respond when it’s convenient for me.

I expect people to text when it’s appropriate.
It’s convenient for me to cut my grass at 6 in the morning, but I have self awareness and aren’t a jerk to my neighbors.

Those are not equivalent. Your neighbor can’t silence your lawnmower but you have the power to silence text notifications.

Nor do I have to silence my notifications, you entitled nobody.

Of course you don’t! Just don’t complain if people text and a beep wakes you because you were too lazy to set up your phone.