"Don't Text Me So Early!"

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

But you’re the one asking other people to modify their behavior to benefit you. I would never expect someone to know which time zone I’m in and adhere to my schedule for texts because the world does not revolve around me. And it’s great that our phones now provide settings so that I have total control over notifications and don’t need to rely on others.

Are you too stupid to think that OPs SIL does not know what time zone she is in.

People travel and don’t always keep the same schedule. I would never expect anyone to give me a detailed itinerary every week nor would I look at it before texting. The responsibility to manage alerts is on the person receiving texts.

I travel and never text anyone this early. You don’t know the concept of time zones and how to figure them out? A query about a party does not require a text in the morning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

But you’re the one asking other people to modify their behavior to benefit you. I would never expect someone to know which time zone I’m in and adhere to my schedule for texts because the world does not revolve around me. And it’s great that our phones now provide settings so that I have total control over notifications and don’t need to rely on others.

Are you too stupid to think that OPs SIL does not know what time zone she is in.

People travel and don’t always keep the same schedule. I would never expect anyone to give me a detailed itinerary every week nor would I look at it before texting. The responsibility to manage alerts is on the person receiving texts.

The responsibility is on you to not text at inappropriate hours. You aren’t special.

Every hour is inappropriate for someone. I expect people to text me when it’s convenient for them, whether that’s 3am or 3pm. I’ll respond when it’s convenient for me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

You don’t have friends and family thoughout the world and it shows.

That’s not the gotcha you wished it was.

It’s not a gotcha, it’s an explanation. It explains why you are so small minded here.

How do you know where the relatives of the person you responded to live? You know her and all her friends and family?

Because literally *no one* who has family who lives on a different continent objects to when they text. She claims to only text during certain acceptable hours. That would really affect communication if the person’s family lived in different parts of the world.

You obviously don’t have relatives or family on other continents, otherwise you and them would have reason to know the time difference.
You have google, look up Webster’s dictionary for the word literally.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

You don’t have friends and family thoughout the world and it shows.

That’s not the gotcha you wished it was.

It’s not a gotcha, it’s an explanation. It explains why you are so small minded here.[/quote

Listen, nobody doesn't think you're rude. I am not a grandma. I am 35 years old. I was raised with manners. I am certain that OP knew she was texting her SIL--about something that sounds very annoying--at an early hour. She felt that her time was so important that she had to send the text when it was convenient for her, rather than waiting or opening her email, and sending a message that, for one, is easier to respond to and secondly, allows her SIL to respond when it is convenient for her. OP was acting out of her own selfishness to make her life easier and about her and her precious graduate. She knew full well what time zone her SIL was in, and it was likely her own. You all do not want to admit that you have been acting selfishly for years and didn't realize it. It's okay. Now you know. Just stop doing it.

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

But you’re the one asking other people to modify their behavior to benefit you. I would never expect someone to know which time zone I’m in and adhere to my schedule for texts because the world does not revolve around me. And it’s great that our phones now provide settings so that I have total control over notifications and don’t need to rely on others.

Are you too stupid to think that OPs SIL does not know what time zone she is in.

People travel and don’t always keep the same schedule. I would never expect anyone to give me a detailed itinerary every week nor would I look at it before texting. The responsibility to manage alerts is on the person receiving texts.

You don’t know time zones? You cannot county hours?

I have friends and family who travel frequently. I don’t always know where they are so I often text at times when they might be sleeping. But no one gets angry because theyre not luddites and are capable of silencing notifications.

[Anonymous]

If you are texting that early in the morning it better be an emergency—not some $€#* about an upcoming graduation party. I don’t silence my phone because of the occasional early morning work emergency. I don’t need your nonsense waking me up on the one day I can sleep past 5:30.

This “just silence your phone” bs betrays your entitlement, lack of perspective, and self-involvement.

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

But you’re the one asking other people to modify their behavior to benefit you. I would never expect someone to know which time zone I’m in and adhere to my schedule for texts because the world does not revolve around me. And it’s great that our phones now provide settings so that I have total control over notifications and don’t need to rely on others.

Are you too stupid to think that OPs SIL does not know what time zone she is in.

People travel and don’t always keep the same schedule. I would never expect anyone to give me a detailed itinerary every week nor would I look at it before texting. The responsibility to manage alerts is on the person receiving texts.

The responsibility is on you to not text at inappropriate hours. You aren’t special.

Every hour is inappropriate for someone. I expect people to text me when it’s convenient for them, whether that’s 3am or 3pm. I’ll respond when it’s convenient for me.

Right, you agree it’s inappropriate. Don’t text.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once again everyone, silence your texts and leave your ringer on for emergencies.

I'm with the other PP on this one. I am fine with silencing my texts. But I still don't want to have to see texts from you when I first wake up. Stop texting me between midnight and 8 am. It's really annoying--and not because it wakes me up. Because you are not the first person I want to hear from in the morning.

I’m quite skeptical that you have friends who want to talk to you at other times of the day.

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

You don’t have friends and family thoughout the world and it shows.

That’s not the gotcha you wished it was.

It’s not a gotcha, it’s an explanation. It explains why you are so small minded here.

How do you know where the relatives of the person you responded to live? You know her and all her friends and family?

Because literally *no one* who has family who lives on a different continent objects to when they text. She claims to only text during certain acceptable hours. That would really affect communication if the person’s family lived in different parts of the world.

You obviously don’t have relatives or family on other continents, otherwise you and them would have reason to know the time difference.
You have google, look up Webster’s dictionary for the word literally.

Is texting the only way you all know how to communicate? Texting is for immediate communication--it's like a telephone call. If you want to send a message with the expectation of a later reply, send an email.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are texting that early in the morning it better be an emergency—not some $€#* about an upcoming graduation party. I don’t silence my phone because of the occasional early morning work emergency. I don’t need your nonsense waking me up on the one day I can sleep past 5:30.

This “just silence your phone” bs betrays your entitlement, lack of perspective, and self-involvement.

Your post betrays your refusal to use the features on your phone. To each her own, I guess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once again everyone, silence your texts and leave your ringer on for emergencies.

I'm with the other PP on this one. I am fine with silencing my texts. But I still don't want to have to see texts from you when I first wake up. Stop texting me between midnight and 8 am. It's really annoying--and not because it wakes me up. Because you are not the first person I want to hear from in the morning.

I’m quite skeptical that you have friends who want to talk to you at other times of the day.

The friends that I have are smart, educated, and well-mannered. Not desperate for attention and so selfish that they have to text exactly what's on their mind at 6:10 on a Saturday morning. People like OP are in my life only because I married their brother--and my husband doesn't really like her either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

But you’re the one asking other people to modify their behavior to benefit you. I would never expect someone to know which time zone I’m in and adhere to my schedule for texts because the world does not revolve around me. And it’s great that our phones now provide settings so that I have total control over notifications and don’t need to rely on others.

Are you too stupid to think that OPs SIL does not know what time zone she is in.

People travel and don’t always keep the same schedule. I would never expect anyone to give me a detailed itinerary every week nor would I look at it before texting. The responsibility to manage alerts is on the person receiving texts.

The responsibility is on you to not text at inappropriate hours. You aren’t special.

Every hour is inappropriate for someone. I expect people to text me when it’s convenient for them, whether that’s 3am or 3pm. I’ll respond when it’s convenient for me.

I expect people to text when it’s appropriate.
It’s convenient for me to cut my grass at 6 in the morning, but I have self awareness and aren’t a jerk to my neighbors.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

Not really. What you are really saying is people have to out think those that are too dumb to know how to use their phone. There are simple settings that allow any call or text to come through even when a phone is silenced or on do not disturb. My phone, for instance, can be set to never silence notifications from certain people. Other settings allow any number (in your contacts or not) to get through if two attempts are made back to back. The police and hospitals know this so they will always call multiple times.

Don't encumber me because you don't know how to use your own phone.

You sound like an a$$

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you are texting that early in the morning it better be an emergency—not some $€#* about an upcoming graduation party. I don’t silence my phone because of the occasional early morning work emergency. I don’t need your nonsense waking me up on the one day I can sleep past 5:30.

This “just silence your phone” bs betrays your entitlement, lack of perspective, and self-involvement.

Your post betrays your refusal to use the features on your phone. To each her own, I guess.

Your clock betrays your refusal to use common sense and manners. To each their own, I guess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

You don’t have friends and family thoughout the world and it shows.

That’s not the gotcha you wished it was.

It’s not a gotcha, it’s an explanation. It explains why you are so small minded here.

How do you know where the relatives of the person you responded to live? You know her and all her friends and family?

Because literally *no one* who has family who lives on a different continent objects to when they text. She claims to only text during certain acceptable hours. That would really affect communication if the person’s family lived in different parts of the world.

You obviously don’t have relatives or family on other continents, otherwise you and them would have reason to know the time difference.
You have google, look up Webster’s dictionary for the word literally.

I know the time zones. That don’t even understand the point confirms you don’t actually find yourself in this situation — I said. Thanks for confirming.