Fairfax Murder

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen very positive comments online from people who knew both victims, but none about the husband. As for the au pair, we don’t even know if she saw the attack or only heard it.

Where online are they talking about JR?

On Reddit

Which sub? I have not seen a discussion there.

I found it by googling "Herndon house shooting Reddit"

[Anonymous]

Thanks.

If the Reddit poster there did know the deceased and if his info is accurate, what a mess.

Curious if he had been there since the night before, perhaps neighbors noticed the car? And the day before was the husband's birthday. Wonder if he had been there since the night before, too, or if he arrived that morning? All 3 may have been there all night.

The latest from LE was that the husband was not cooperating. It was being described as a domestic incident. One report was that the 3 were known to one another, another suggested that the 2 deceased parties knew one another but did not address a connection btw Ryan and DH.

That poor child. Seems she will be left basically an orphan if the DH is not exonerated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen very positive comments online from people who knew both victims, but none about the husband. As for the au pair, we don’t even know if she saw the attack or only heard it.

Where online are they talking about JR?

On Reddit

Which sub? I have not seen a discussion there.

/nova

[Anonymous]

The suggestion is that this was an agreed to swinging / cuckolding type encounter. It true, possibly timed to the DH's birthday the day before. If so, obviously went very wrong. I always thought people did that kind of thing in hotels, not the family home with a preschooler and au pair on the premises, but who knows?

Very tragic for that little girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The suggestion is that this was an agreed to swinging / cuckolding type encounter. It true, possibly timed to the DH's birthday the day before. If so, obviously went very wrong. I always thought people did that kind of thing in hotels, not the family home with a preschooler and au pair on the premises, but who knows?

Very tragic for that little girl.

OMG, I've never even heard of such encounters. I really need to get with it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks.

If the Reddit poster there did know the deceased and if his info is accurate, what a mess.

Curious if he had been there since the night before, perhaps neighbors noticed the car? And the day before was the husband's birthday. Wonder if he had been there since the night before, too, or if he arrived that morning? All 3 may have been there all night.

The latest from LE was that the husband was not cooperating. It was being described as a domestic incident. One report was that the 3 were known to one another, another suggested that the 2 deceased parties knew one another but did not address a connection btw Ryan and DH.

That poor child. Seems she will be left basically an orphan if the DH is not exonerated.

Link please?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The suggestion is that this was an agreed to swinging / cuckolding type encounter. It true, possibly timed to the DH's birthday the day before. If so, obviously went very wrong. I always thought people did that kind of thing in hotels, not the family home with a preschooler and au pair on the premises, but who knows?

Very tragic for that little girl.

OMG, I've never even heard of such encounters. I really need to get with it!

I also feel very vanilla but even Heathline has a piece on it.

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/cuckolding#common-cuck-scenarios

[Anonymous]

Sometimes LE uses the word "domestic" to indicate that the parties were known to one another, as opposed to "strangers."

[Anonymous]

“ Detectives from our Major Crimes Bureau and Cyber and Forensics Bureau are actively investigating”


Does the cyber division get involved to review the phone records or is this looking at their computers for online search history/dating sites, etc. ??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“ Detectives from our Major Crimes Bureau and Cyber and Forensics Bureau are actively investigating”


Does the cyber division get involved to review the phone records or is this looking at their computers for online search history/dating sites, etc. ??

My guess would be the latter?

[Anonymous]

The guy who posted on Reddit who said he knew Joe and of a planned c assignation that week said he has spoken with detectives. So they may be trying to verify that with electronic records.

From the Healthline link above, "Emotional risk is something else to consider. Even if you’re completely on board at the start, feelings can change at any time. One person may decide they want to stop, the cuck may begin to experience more jealousy than they bargained for, or one or both of the people hooking up could become too attached."

Not sure what went on there or how much LE will actually end up disclosing, but, for those interested in the idea, maybe this is something best kept to the realm of fantasy? I always thought Healthline was pretty mainstream, so I guess this must be too? Seems like something people could find titilating from porn or erotica but real emotions can be very different. Again, no idea what went on in Herndon, but for those contemplating it, might be best not to bring it into real life?

[Anonymous]

I'm the PP who knew Joe and knows his girlfriend.

There was definitely some mental illness in there, but it was all self-destructive. I was never scared that Joe would hurt somebody, just do bat-shit insane things.

Think bipolar - when manic, he was very, very manic in a way to seek out thrills for himself. When he was not manic, he was an absolutely lovely, loving person who loved his grandmother more than life itself. He loved his dog and that dog was the best treated dog I've ever met.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP who knew Joe and knows his girlfriend.

There was definitely some mental illness in there, but it was all self-destructive. I was never scared that Joe would hurt somebody, just do bat-shit insane things.

Think bipolar - when manic, he was very, very manic in a way to seek out thrills for himself. When he was not manic, he was an absolutely lovely, loving person who loved his grandmother more than life itself. He loved his dog and that dog was the best treated dog I've ever met.

Was she aware he was into the dating/cuck websites? I can't imagine how devastated she must be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP who knew Joe and knows his girlfriend.

There was definitely some mental illness in there, but it was all self-destructive. I was never scared that Joe would hurt somebody, just do bat-shit insane things.

Think bipolar - when manic, he was very, very manic in a way to seek out thrills for himself. When he was not manic, he was an absolutely lovely, loving person who loved his grandmother more than life itself. He loved his dog and that dog was the best treated dog I've ever met.

That's very sad and I am sorry for your loss, PP. The poster on Reddit said that Joe used to shovel the snow for the poster's elderly grandparents. He also described a kind and lovely person. He told the police/detectives what he knew of the situation. Now 3 adult lives ruined or ended and that poor young child. I get that Banfield had a gun for work but part of that is managing anger. He posted that Joe was into MMA training and scorned those who fought with knives, he found Banfield's story implausible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The suggestion is that this was an agreed to swinging / cuckolding type encounter. It true, possibly timed to the DH's birthday the day before. If so, obviously went very wrong. I always thought people did that kind of thing in hotels, not the family home with a preschooler and au pair on the premises, but who knows?

Very tragic for that little girl.

OMG, I've never even heard of such encounters. I really need to get with it!

Me neither. Nor have I heard of LARPing. But it looks like that could be the niche activity pp was talking about. And I could see how someone who enjoys LARPing might also enjoy cuckolding. But there is no way any parent would do that with a 4 year old and a nanny present in the house. No. Way. That would be crazy. What if your kid walked in on you?