In-laws are mad that we are inviting others to Christmas dinner. How to resolve this?

[Anonymous]

Just say you’re sorry she’s not open to your chosen guests so if she prefers to do something else then you’ll accept her decision. I’m petty so I’d probably add a dig about how you’re trying to teach your children about kindness to others and gracious hospitality at Christmas and all year long so you won’t be changing your mind about inviting friends.

[Anonymous]

It's your house and your rules, but I am team MIL.
They are coming, probably at an expense, to spend time with family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's your house and your rules, but I am team MIL.
They are coming, probably at an expense, to spend time with family.

They are staying for “several days”. This is one meal, and on Christmas Day. There will be plenty of “family time”. Their hearts are two sizes too small.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's your house and your rules, but I am team MIL.
They are coming, probably at an expense, to spend time with family.

They are staying for “several days”. This is one meal, and on Christmas Day. There will be plenty of “family time”. Their hearts are two sizes too small.

I guess mine is, too, then because I wouldn't like this either. The difference is is that I would accept that it wasn't my home or my decision and that I was a guest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's your house and your rules, but I am team MIL.
They are coming, probably at an expense, to spend time with family.

They are staying for “several days”. This is one meal, and on Christmas Day. There will be plenty of “family time”. Their hearts are two sizes too small.

I guess mine is, too, then because I wouldn't like this either. The difference is is that I would accept that it wasn't my home or my decision and that I was a guest.

Yes, yours is small as well. You would still be spending time with family. And as mentioned, it’s one meal. I’m impressed that you can admit how selfish you are, and glad that you would at least keep your mouth shut, though I suspect your unkindness would reveal itself in other ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's your house and your rules, but I am team MIL.
They are coming, probably at an expense, to spend time with family.

They are staying for “several days”. This is one meal, and on Christmas Day. There will be plenty of “family time”. Their hearts are two sizes too small.

I guess mine is, too, then because I wouldn't like this either. The difference is is that I would accept that it wasn't my home or my decision and that I was a guest.

Yes, yours is small as well. You would still be spending time with family. And as mentioned, it’s one meal. I’m impressed that you can admit how selfish you are, and glad that you would at least keep your mouth shut, though I suspect your unkindness would reveal itself in other ways.

Your hypocrisy reveals itself as well (preaching inclusiveness while showing no tolerance to other values (such as cherishing holiday dinners as intimate family time, which is perfectly valid)).