My neighbor hosted her own daughter’s baby shower for her 2nd baby

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Anonymous wrote:Some of us were taught certain behavior rules, which this definitely violates, but we need to understand that not everyone had the benefit of learning rules about social norms and maybe they just want to have a fun event. Or maybe they want a gift grab.

You were taught wrong by your parents. What they taught you turned you into a nasty POS.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of us were taught certain behavior rules, which this definitely violates, but we need to understand that not everyone had the benefit of learning rules about social norms and maybe they just want to have a fun event. Or maybe they want a gift grab.

I was taught the same thing, but times change. It’s similar to being really wound up about someone wearing white after Labor Day, as noted earlier in the thread. If you had a baby shower thrown by your friend, you are participating in exactly as much of a gift grab as someone whose shower was thrown by a relative.

This. Times change.

Shakedowns have become acceptable?

Do you believe all parties where it’s traditional to give a gift (birthdays, weddings, baby showers) are “shakedowns”?

Stay in topic.

We are “in topic”. Answer the question, if you are able to.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to party, party. Who cares what rules dictate.

You mean if you want to gift grab, gift grab.

Don’t be so uptight. Nothing wrong with celebrating a new baby, no matter if it’s the first or last.

But OP does not believe in celebrating a new baby. She was abused and neglected as a child because she was not a firstborn. Now she is utterly triggered when babies who should not be celebrated, are.

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Anonymous wrote:And all I could think the whole time was “DCUM would absolutely die.”

That it is all. Just wanted to let you guys know how you invade my thoughts!

Uff...does your neighbor know what a snake you are?

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to party, party. Who cares what rules dictate.

You mean if you want to gift grab, gift grab.

Don’t be so uptight. Nothing wrong with celebrating a new baby, no matter if it’s the first or last.

There is a difference between celebrating a new baby and throwing an event that is essentially a shakedown for presents.

This is the reason only onesies and chocolates need to be brought as gifts.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to party, party. Who cares what rules dictate.

You mean if you want to gift grab, gift grab.

Don’t be so uptight. Nothing wrong with celebrating a new baby, no matter if it’s the first or last.

Apparently buying a gift is compulsory to celebrate a new baby.

NP. Did you have a shower for your baby?

DP-not for subsequent children after the first.

+1. Because the first shower sets you up for all subsequent babies. Anything else is a vulgar gift grab. And, no, a relative does not give any shower for the same reason (gift grab)

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to party, party. Who cares what rules dictate.

You mean if you want to gift grab, gift grab.

Don’t be so uptight. Nothing wrong with celebrating a new baby, no matter if it’s the first or last.

Apparently buying a gift is compulsory to celebrate a new baby.

NP. Did you have a shower for your baby?

DP-not for subsequent children after the first.

+1. Because the first shower sets you up for all subsequent babies. Anything else is a vulgar gift grab. And, no, a relative does not give any shower for the same reason (gift grab)

Your shower thrown by a non-relative was still a vulgar gift grab ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to party, party. Who cares what rules dictate.

You mean if you want to gift grab, gift grab.

Don’t be so uptight. Nothing wrong with celebrating a new baby, no matter if it’s the first or last.

Apparently buying a gift is compulsory to celebrate a new baby.

NP. Did you have a shower for your baby?

DP-not for subsequent children after the first.

+1. Because the first shower sets you up for all subsequent babies. Anything else is a vulgar gift grab. And, no, a relative does not give any shower for the same reason (gift grab)

Vulgar is the amount of wine you drink.

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Anonymous wrote:A bunch of comments are gone 😂

This has been my favorite thread in a long time. It's so entertaining.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to party, party. Who cares what rules dictate.

You mean if you want to gift grab, gift grab.

Don’t be so uptight. Nothing wrong with celebrating a new baby, no matter if it’s the first or last.

Apparently buying a gift is compulsory to celebrate a new baby.

NP. Did you have a shower for your baby?

DP-not for subsequent children after the first.

+1. Because the first shower sets you up for all subsequent babies. Anything else is a vulgar gift grab. And, no, a relative does not give any shower for the same reason (gift grab)

What if all your guest gave you cheap onesies and diapers for your first. Can you have a shower for your second and invite richer, better friends? Is that against the rules.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to party, party. Who cares what rules dictate.

You mean if you want to gift grab, gift grab.

Don’t be so uptight. Nothing wrong with celebrating a new baby, no matter if it’s the first or last.

There is a difference between celebrating a new baby and throwing an event that is essentially a shakedown for presents.

Please tell us the proper way to celebrate a new baby then.

We have, pay attention. A “no gifts” party for babies after the first.

Women should have one bridal shower and one baby shower period. Preferably hosted by a non-relative.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to party, party. Who cares what rules dictate.

You mean if you want to gift grab, gift grab.

Don’t be so uptight. Nothing wrong with celebrating a new baby, no matter if it’s the first or last.

There is a difference between celebrating a new baby and throwing an event that is essentially a shakedown for presents.

Please tell us the proper way to celebrate a new baby then.

We have, pay attention. A “no gifts” party for babies after the first.

Women should have one bridal shower and one baby shower period. Preferably hosted by a non-relative.

Everyone knows you can't show up to a party without a gift. That's not a solution.

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Anonymous wrote:This etiquette is outdated.

I think it’s better for the mom to shell out money to host than to impose upon a friend.

I was a bridesmaid a million years ago, and the mother insisted that etiquette dictated the bridesmaids should foot the bill. As a law student, I really wasn’t equipped to host a fancy shower on top of the dress, shoes, makeup, salon/stylist, manicure, plus gift plus bachelorette trip. It was super annoying since the parents of both the bride and groom had nice homes and plenty of money.

Screw etiquette.

My daughter had two recent grad friends hosting her baby shower, so I paid for the catering and decorations. I let them choose everything and they sent me the links, so I could order and pay. They organized the party itself. It was a nice solution.

So you hosted the shower (by paying for it). You just outsourced the planning to her pals who did it pro bono.

Yes, because people were just complaining about the cost being a burden to friends. See PP. The friends wanted to host the shower but didn't have many resources so I paid for it. I know, tacky, right? And I wouldn't call friends giving a shower for a friend "pro bono." You are very transactional.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to party, party. Who cares what rules dictate.

You mean if you want to gift grab, gift grab.

Don’t be so uptight. Nothing wrong with celebrating a new baby, no matter if it’s the first or last.

There is a difference between celebrating a new baby and throwing an event that is essentially a shakedown for presents.

Please tell us the proper way to celebrate a new baby then.

We have, pay attention. A “no gifts” party for babies after the first.

Women should have one bridal shower and one baby shower period. Preferably hosted by a non-relative.

Everyone knows you can't show up to a party without a gift. That's not a solution.

You can if the host puts “no gifts please” on the invitation. But most people aren’t doing that because it is, in fact, a gift grab. But tacky people have never minded being tacky. Nothing new there.