My neighbor hosted her own daughter’s baby shower for her 2nd baby

[Anonymous]

It's fine, honestly. People want to celebrate happy things in their lives, let them. The fact that it bothers people and makes them gripe about "rules" just reflects their own miserable lives.

Find joy where you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

I guess I’m just a lowly middle class person, because most people that I know had a shower for each baby (it’s fun, why not?) and who cares if a relative hosts the party? I never heard any of those rules until reading DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

I guess I’m just a lowly middle class person, because most people that I know had a shower for each baby (it’s fun, why not?) and who cares if a relative hosts the party? I never heard any of those rules until reading DCUM.

These are not uncommon “rules” just because you never heard of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares. I hate baby showers but I see nothing wrong in having one for each kid, having your parents or family host, etc. The second or third kid is not any less deserving of celebration, surely. People can get smaller token gifts if they want. No one says you have to buy the big ticket items.

Actually, I hate bridal showers even more than baby showers. Especially the ones with dumb sex jokes and penis cakes. Especially when half these people live together already. I assure you the wedding not is not the first time the bride has seen a penis.

Oh, so you don’t want to celebrate the bride but will celebrate the same mom having recurring baby showers for things she already has as a way to get more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

I guess I’m just a lowly middle class person, because most people that I know had a shower for each baby (it’s fun, why not?) and who cares if a relative hosts the party? I never heard any of those rules until reading DCUM.

These are not uncommon “rules” just because you never heard of them.

NP. Regardless of whether PP has heard of them, they are outdated. These rules are for people who need to fetch their smelling salts when someone wears white after Labor Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

I guess I’m just a lowly middle class person, because most people that I know had a shower for each baby (it’s fun, why not?) and who cares if a relative hosts the party? I never heard any of those rules until reading DCUM.

These are not uncommon “rules” just because you never heard of them.

NP. Regardless of whether PP has heard of them, they are outdated. These rules are for people who need to fetch their smelling salts when someone wears white after Labor Day.

You don’t get to decide if it’s outdated. It is tacky, very tacky and a grab. Everyone with any sense knows that.

[Anonymous]

Showers are a made-up event with no cultural roots at all.
There are no rules for showers, given that the entire concept is pretty tacky to begin with. Do what feels right for you, and stop criticizing what others do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Showers are a made-up event with no cultural roots at all.
There are no rules for showers, given that the entire concept is pretty tacky to begin with. Do what feels right for you, and stop criticizing what others do.

Stop criticizing others the way you just criticized others?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

I agree. We all know the purpose of a baby shower is the family needs baby supplies. Who cares who throws it. And who cares if there is a reason for a second one. People can always choose not to go.

[Anonymous]

Who cares? I wouldn't go but think it's fine for people to throw whatever party they want to.

[Anonymous]

This etiquette is outdated.

I think it’s better for the mom to shell out money to host than to impose upon a friend.

I was a bridesmaid a million years ago, and the mother insisted that etiquette dictated the bridesmaids should foot the bill. As a law student, I really wasn’t equipped to host a fancy shower on top of the dress, shoes, makeup, salon/stylist, manicure, plus gift plus bachelorette trip. It was super annoying since the parents of both the bride and groom had nice homes and plenty of money.

Screw etiquette.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares? I wouldn't go but think it's fine for people to throw whatever party they want to.

Well then why wouldn’t you go if it’s fine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This etiquette is outdated.

I think it’s better for the mom to shell out money to host than to impose upon a friend.

I was a bridesmaid a million years ago, and the mother insisted that etiquette dictated the bridesmaids should foot the bill. As a law student, I really wasn’t equipped to host a fancy shower on top of the dress, shoes, makeup, salon/stylist, manicure, plus gift plus bachelorette trip. It was super annoying since the parents of both the bride and groom had nice homes and plenty of money.

Screw etiquette.

No one should “shell out” money for a second, third, forth baby shower.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares. I hate baby showers but I see nothing wrong in having one for each kid, having your parents or family host, etc. The second or third kid is not any less deserving of celebration, surely. People can get smaller token gifts if they want. No one says you have to buy the big ticket items.

Actually, I hate bridal showers even more than baby showers. Especially the ones with dumb sex jokes and penis cakes. Especially when half these people live together already. I assure you the wedding not is not the first time the bride has seen a penis.

Oh, so you don’t want to celebrate the bride but will celebrate the same mom having recurring baby showers for things she already has as a way to get more.

I mean, I go to showers if I'm invited and I bring a gift, but I still hate them. If a friend has a baby I get a gift regardless of whether she has a shower. In fact I prefer that! But there's nothing wrong with it. It's a celebration, why shouldn't people give the baby gifts? Some stuff can't be handed down, and even if it could, who cares? If you don't want to go or get a gift, then don't.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I’m dying. So tacky.