I'm so tired of mom cliques

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These are trolls, right? Tell me these are trolls.

I just hope there are not people in the world who are ACTUALLY this mad about the idea that that someone might be mildly hurt by a photo they post. This is so off the rails.

I can’t believe there are people in here who see every post they aren’t in as an attack on themselves and that it means all of their relationships are lies.

DP, and that's not it. At all. Why you're mischaracterizing the problem is beyond me.

It's not "every post they aren't in." It's *specific* posts, with other members of their social circle, and from which they were excluded.

But, we get it, you love to post with your #bestmomfreeeeiiiinndddsss and don't want to stop letting people know that you're having #somuchfun. We get it.

Are you the same one who objected to a photo of a family BBQ because it might not have all cousins in it?

Nope. Not me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After reading several pages of this, I can see why these ladies were not invited to the party.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Do people really get this mad about Facebook and keep using it? If you hate everyone who posts about their social lives at all, why do you still have them on Facebook?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These are trolls, right? Tell me these are trolls.

I just hope there are not people in the world who are ACTUALLY this mad about the idea that that someone might be mildly hurt by a photo they post. This is so off the rails.

I think you have that reversed.

[Anonymous]

I only post pictures of my family.

If I am not close to a person and they hang out, I’m not sure why I would be upset. This is a group of friends you are not close with, correct?

I have always had small groups of friends. I prefer one on one hangouts.

[Anonymous]

All of you, look at your last posts. I bet none of you posted pictures of friends.

You probably posted yourself, kids, meme, yourself, kid, meme, object. If you posted a friend, it was probably in good taste.

I don’t see a lot of friends posting friends. If so, it’s unique opportunities. Like meeting up with one old friend who is in town.

[Anonymous]

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Most of the new women I meet are moms. So that's pretty much my only option

I def understand wanting friends, but I think trying to be friends with groups of women, similar to the same way our children socialize at school, is hard. The friend groups I have were made organically (i like someone, we get on, I introduce my friends or vice versa, and over time it’s a group. Focus on making one friend at a time, based on liking that person and having friend chemistry. I have many friends but no mom friends - people I like and are friendly with, but that’s it. The idea of trying to break Into a clique is exhausting and I think doomed to failure.

best advice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only post pictures of my family.

If I am not close to a person and they hang out, I’m not sure why I would be upset. This is a group of friends you are not close with, correct?

I have always had small groups of friends. I prefer one on one hangouts.

I think this person THOUGHT they were close and then because they were not invited to an event decided they were not close. Other people believe that posting photos which include non-family members is some sort of attack on them, personally. I cannot imagine such a hostile way of looking at friends and neighbors. I can't imagine thinking that I needed to be invited to everything my friends do for us to be friends.

[Anonymous]

I came on to say that once your kids graduate HS, they won’t even talk to most of these kids, and their moms will also be a distant memory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I only post pictures of my family.

If I am not close to a person and they hang out, I’m not sure why I would be upset. This is a group of friends you are not close with, correct?

I have always had small groups of friends. I prefer one on one hangouts.

I think this person THOUGHT they were close and then because they were not invited to an event decided they were not close. Other people believe that posting photos which include non-family members is some sort of attack on them, personally. I cannot imagine such a hostile way of looking at friends and neighbors. I can't imagine thinking that I needed to be invited to everything my friends do for us to be friends.

+1 it certainly is a ummm...one way to go through life and friendships.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Wow, this really escalated! You all know i was just annoyed about something and venting in the moment, right? I'm not actually moving. I am 100% totally over it now.

And now I'm amused because there are some really angry people on this board who appear not to understand that someone's feelings can get hurt by something (even something silly or unreasonable) for a short time and then that person gets over it and moves on.

[Anonymous]

I think some of you are being really disingenuous and reading way more into the comments on here than anyone is saying.

No one has said you can't post photos of people to Facebook. I keep seeing this and then trying to find the post that suggest this and it doesn't exist. Y'all are reading into something that isn't there.

Once a friend of mine organized a mom's night but she did not invite a close friend of ours who had just had a baby, because she assumed that said friend wouldn't be able to come out. Some photos of the night got posted to Instagram and the new-mom friend was understandably hurt (and likely super hormonal and more sensitive to the unintentional slight -- been there). It was wrong to assume she wouldn't want to at least be invited even if she bowed out because of the baby, and it was insensitive of us to post photos of it, knowing she'd see them, without thinking about how she'd feel about it. She posted a comment that made it clear she was hurt, we apologized, and everyone moved on. It was a simple mistake and one we won't make again.

If instead we'd responded by saying "OMG why do you even care -- why must you live in anger over this?!?!?" I sense that friendship would be destroyed and she'd rightfully think we were hateful jerks.

Some of you are really starting to sound like hateful jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow, this really escalated! You all know i was just annoyed about something and venting in the moment, right? I'm not actually moving. I am 100% totally over it now.

And now I'm amused because there are some really angry people on this board who appear not to understand that someone's feelings can get hurt by something (even something silly or unreasonable) for a short time and then that person gets over it and moves on.

I don't think the ones who were getting really worked about this (calling people whores and reading hostility into facebook posts) were getting over it and moving on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think some of you are being really disingenuous and reading way more into the comments on here than anyone is saying.

No one has said you can't post photos of people to Facebook. I keep seeing this and then trying to find the post that suggest this and it doesn't exist. Y'all are reading into something that isn't there.

Once a friend of mine organized a mom's night but she did not invite a close friend of ours who had just had a baby, because she assumed that said friend wouldn't be able to come out. Some photos of the night got posted to Instagram and the new-mom friend was understandably hurt (and likely super hormonal and more sensitive to the unintentional slight -- been there). It was wrong to assume she wouldn't want to at least be invited even if she bowed out because of the baby, and it was insensitive of us to post photos of it, knowing she'd see them, without thinking about how she'd feel about it. She posted a comment that made it clear she was hurt, we apologized, and everyone moved on. It was a simple mistake and one we won't make again.

If instead we'd responded by saying "OMG why do you even care -- why must you live in anger over this?!?!?" I sense that friendship would be destroyed and she'd rightfully think we were hateful jerks.

Some of you are really starting to sound like hateful jerks.

Literally someone said you shouldn't post photos of backyard bbqs or any social events of less importance than weddings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some of you are being really disingenuous and reading way more into the comments on here than anyone is saying.

No one has said you can't post photos of people to Facebook. I keep seeing this and then trying to find the post that suggest this and it doesn't exist. Y'all are reading into something that isn't there.

Once a friend of mine organized a mom's night but she did not invite a close friend of ours who had just had a baby, because she assumed that said friend wouldn't be able to come out. Some photos of the night got posted to Instagram and the new-mom friend was understandably hurt (and likely super hormonal and more sensitive to the unintentional slight -- been there). It was wrong to assume she wouldn't want to at least be invited even if she bowed out because of the baby, and it was insensitive of us to post photos of it, knowing she'd see them, without thinking about how she'd feel about it. She posted a comment that made it clear she was hurt, we apologized, and everyone moved on. It was a simple mistake and one we won't make again.

If instead we'd responded by saying "OMG why do you even care -- why must you live in anger over this?!?!?" I sense that friendship would be destroyed and she'd rightfully think we were hateful jerks.

Some of you are really starting to sound like hateful jerks.

Literally someone said you shouldn't post photos of backyard bbqs or any social events of less importance than weddings.

Just get off of Facebook, seriously. Everyone.