Why so much disgust felt towards men for dating significantly younger?

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Anonymous wrote:And as PP said it creates a weird power imbalance, it’s almost as if older men prey on the nievete of young women.

And the women feed the old men's fragile egos, because they are so easily impressed (with world experiences and material status).

If you have ever had child in their young 20's, you should recognize why they don't make an appropriate life PARTNER.

But maybe this set up most appeals to men who don't seek an equal partner?

None of the men on this thread who are bragging (?) about dating women much younger than them do not sound as though they’re looking for an equal partner, or in fact a partner at all. They are openly objectifying these young women and with them it seems exclusively for their appearance (along with a fetishization of youth and a seeming hatred and/or resentment of older women). It’s a very tired trope.

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^should say, none of the men seem to be looking for an equal partner, or partner at all

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

Guess what, you aren’t holding up well either.

Men take note: on this forum, the go-to line of argument for women is the ad hominem attack.

DP. The comment regarding you aren't holding up either was after a man mentioned older women not holding up well in age. I guess it is the same both ways huh. I mean lets be honest once both sexes hit 60+ they certainly look their age, they look old, no matter how deluded they are.

I made both Comme ts. I'm very fortunate to not look anywhere near my age along with pretty good health, all my teeth and most of my hair. Barely a single wrinkle in my face. It's all genetics, nothing I've really done except avoid the sun and eat healthy.

“All my teeth and most of my hair” omg. Imagine what kind of 20 something hears that and thinks those are legitimate plus factors! I’m mid 30s and the idea of a guy bragging about having his teeth makes me shudder.

Right? When I was younger, I remember getting asked out by an older guy who had some white chest hair. I wanted to vomit. Just the thought of seeing white pubes made me have dry heaves. Still does, TBH. I love my H to death and we've been married for decades but another thing that nobody mentions is that gravity works in cruel ways for men too. The ba** sagging is real. I would have died seeing something like this in my 20s and 30s. We are fortunate that we can lift almost everything - a breast lift is only 5K, men not so much.

Men don't realize that a fit looking 40 something is still disgustingly ancient to a women in her twenties.

When my middle-aged boss started chasing me in my first job, I was in a state of shock that he had EVER considered our encounters potentially romantic.

I could not imagine him that way in the slightest. You are really deceiving yourselves.

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Anonymous wrote:Instinctively l think most of us understand that an equal partnership, with equal power and emotional maturity, is healthier and more fulfilling than a relationship with a power imbalance.

I think older people who seek younger partners are either in denial about this, emotionally immature, or both.

Guys who buy mail order brides - l guess they just don’t care about an equal partnership? Gross.

They are the truly desperate OR have no sense that women are more than consumer products that can be purchased after looking thru online catalogues. It is the really ugly side of global disparities.

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Shame, shame, shame. That's all you people have.

Complimentarity over "equality" (whatever that means ) all day.

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Anonymous wrote:Shame, shame, shame. That's all you people have.

Complimentarity over "equality" (whatever that means ) all day.

Ephebophilia deserves shame, sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:Shame, shame, shame. That's all you people have.

Complimentarity over "equality" (whatever that means ) all day.

Ephebophilia deserves shame, sorry.

Cause that's what this thread is about...

Stop trying to mask your desperation for control in morality language.

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It's hilarious to me that older men brag about them being better in bed than younger ones. Unless the old dude slept with a younger one, how would they know that? Oh, the women told them that. So you can see that men are idiots who believe whatever we tell them, at any age.
IMO, the opposite is true. Older men have more hang-ups about sex and are more selfish, in addition to stamina problems. If you read any of the sex ed books written by boomers, oral sex is recommended as a very special event to be offered very rarely, so it won't diminish its appeal. This is not a jab to only the boomer men; a lot of boomer women are also uncomfortable with oral sex, both giving and receiving it. For us, younger people, it's very normal. It was normalized by genX; before it was considered perverse behavior, as it would be sexual activity avoiding reproduction.

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Anonymous wrote:It's hilarious to me that older men brag about them being better in bed than younger ones. Unless the old dude slept with a younger one, how would they know that? Oh, the women told them that. So you can see that men are idiots who believe whatever we tell them, at any age.
IMO, the opposite is true. Older men have more hang-ups about sex and are more selfish, in addition to stamina problems. If you read any of the sex ed books written by boomers, oral sex is recommended as a very special event to be offered very rarely, so it won't diminish its appeal. This is not a jab to only the boomer men; a lot of boomer women are also uncomfortable with oral sex, both giving and receiving it. For us, younger people, it's very normal. It was normalized by genX; before it was considered perverse behavior, as it would be sexual activity avoiding reproduction.

Why do you care so much?

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I don't care. Also, I prefer younger men. A lot of men over 45 need to big those big rhino pills at the 7-11 just to keep it up and...no.

And the little blue pill.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I don't care. Also, I prefer younger men. A lot of men over 45 need to big those big rhino pills at the 7-11 just to keep it up and...no.

And the little blue pill.

They do not make a pill for women over 40. Wish they did but they do not.

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Anonymous wrote:Shame, shame, shame. That's all you people have.

Complimentarity over "equality" (whatever that means ) all day.

Ephebophilia deserves shame, sorry.

Not that I’m trying to date younger women, but I certainly don’t feel shamed by random strange women looking at me sternly. Perhaps you need a hobby.

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Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

No, I would seriously not want to date a man who dates younger women. I’m the poster who did date older guys when I was younger and those men have concerning issues. Which is why they do so, they have predator tendencies. That’s why they target naive girls. Honest to God I would not be envious, a man like that does not command respect and really is looked at as a joke.

Or maybe they don't want to deal with frozen eggs and geriatric pregnancies.

Or maybe they’re misogynists with arrested development.

Don’t forget they have geriatric sperm. Ewww!

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Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

No, I would seriously not want to date a man who dates younger women. I’m the poster who did date older guys when I was younger and those men have concerning issues. Which is why they do so, they have predator tendencies. That’s why they target naive girls. Honest to God I would not be envious, a man like that does not command respect and really is looked at as a joke.

Or maybe they don't want to deal with frozen eggs and geriatric pregnancies.

Or maybe they’re misogynists with arrested development.

Yes, wanting a higher chance at healthier children with fewer developmental problems is soooo misogynistic! Keep coping.

Increased parental age is associated with a higher frequency of birth defects. But please, enjoy your delusion.

And enjoy your geriatric sperm.

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Anonymous wrote:Power imbalance. No need to explain it further. Society socialized everyone to accept this mate pairing as ideal for men with money and women with no career ambition using their bodies to gain money. Their body is their power but it fades over time whereas men with money still have money and power even when their balls hit their ankles.

Why do women hate this? Obvious town. We women don’t have the same power longevity men yield.

Well, thank God it is 2022 and women now have ways to acquire power beyond their bodies.

People who still chose to re-enact that dated life (i.e., melania & donald) are sad anachronisms.

You can marry a quality young guy with potential instead of an old guy. Sorry, I had no interest in kissing and smelling the mouth of an old dude with extensive dental work, so I married my college bf who comes from a good family and had potential for a great career.
Another point that nobody makes is that boomers are sitting on 35 trillion dollars and have accumulated most of the wealth in this country. Because of these boomer parents, we don't have to date older men for material resources. Older men need to date very poor young women or go abroad to buy the youth. And, in most cases, the mail order brides divorce them after 2 years, when the green card becomes permanent, and leave with part of the old guy's money. So, in summary, I want to thank my parents for making sure that I don't have to see ankle-hitting balls in my 20s and 30s.