Why so much disgust felt towards men for dating significantly younger?

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

What are you looking for at this stage in life? Just some random, short-lived fun, or a long-term relationship?

LTR eventually with the right partner but not looking to get married again. I have that for the past few years now.

You’re in a long-term relationship but are still dating women in their 40s to early 50s?

No. I was describing the past 15 years or so of dating. Current relationship is 14 years younger.

Ah, the story changes. Someone is telling porkie pies.

Not lies. I've been dating younger women this whole time. If my current relationship ends, I'll still be dating in the same age range. Because that's what I want and because I can.

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

Guess what, you aren’t holding up well either.

Men take note: on this forum, the go-to line of argument for women is the ad hominem attack.

DP. The comment regarding you aren't holding up either was after a man mentioned older women not holding up well in age. I guess it is the same both ways huh. I mean lets be honest once both sexes hit 60+ they certainly look their age, they look old, no matter how deluded they are.

I made both Comme ts. I'm very fortunate to not look anywhere near my age along with pretty good health, all my teeth and most of my hair. Barely a single wrinkle in my face. It's all genetics, nothing I've really done except avoid the sun and eat healthy.

If “still have all my teeth” is the standard for looking younger than you are, you must be ancient. Go eat your applesauce, old man.

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

What are you looking for at this stage in life? Just some random, short-lived fun, or a long-term relationship?

LTR eventually with the right partner but not looking to get married again. I have that for the past few years now.

You’re in a long-term relationship but are still dating women in their 40s to early 50s?

No. I was describing the past 15 years or so of dating. Current relationship is 14 years younger.

Ah, the story changes. Someone is telling porkie pies.

Not lies. I've been dating younger women this whole time. If my current relationship ends, I'll still be dating in the same age range. Because that's what I want and because I can.

DP. You sound creepy.

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

Guess what, you aren’t holding up well either.

Men take note: on this forum, the go-to line of argument for women is the ad hominem attack.

DP. The comment regarding you aren't holding up either was after a man mentioned older women not holding up well in age. I guess it is the same both ways huh. I mean lets be honest once both sexes hit 60+ they certainly look their age, they look old, no matter how deluded they are.

I made both Comme ts. I'm very fortunate to not look anywhere near my age along with pretty good health, all my teeth and most of my hair. Barely a single wrinkle in my face. It's all genetics, nothing I've really done except avoid the sun and eat healthy.

“All my teeth and most of my hair” omg. Imagine what kind of 20 something hears that and thinks those are legitimate plus factors! I’m mid 30s and the idea of a guy bragging about having his teeth makes me shudder.

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I don't feel any of those feelings. However, I've never seen myself dating older simply because we would be of different generations with basically zero in common. He wouldn't get my generation's cultural references and our interests would be vastly different. For example, when I was in college, one of my neighbors had a major crush on me. On paper, he was a great catch - in his early 40s, very successful, old money, never married, no kids. He wanted to settle down and get married ASAP and all I wanted to do is party, travel, and make $$$. His interests were so boring to me. Fast forward 20+ years later, I'm volunteering and spending a lot of time advocating the same issues that the old guy did 20 years ago and that made him so successful. I recently read his books that he gifted to me decades ago and they are actually good.
If I were single today, I can't see myself dating someone 60+. I'm way way too active for an older guy; over 70% of the men between the ages of 60 and 79 have some sort of cardiovascular disease and 42% are obese, so it's practically impossible for me to date them.

[Anonymous]

When someone in their 60s dates people in their 40s, I assume their really looking to secure a nursemaid for their elderly years.

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

Guess what, you aren’t holding up well either.

Men take note: on this forum, the go-to line of argument for women is the ad hominem attack.

DP. The comment regarding you aren't holding up either was after a man mentioned older women not holding up well in age. I guess it is the same both ways huh. I mean lets be honest once both sexes hit 60+ they certainly look their age, they look old, no matter how deluded they are.

I made both Comme ts. I'm very fortunate to not look anywhere near my age along with pretty good health, all my teeth and most of my hair. Barely a single wrinkle in my face. It's all genetics, nothing I've really done except avoid the sun and eat healthy.

“All my teeth and most of my hair” omg. Imagine what kind of 20 something hears that and thinks those are legitimate plus factors! I’m mid 30s and the idea of a guy bragging about having his teeth makes me shudder.

Right? When I was younger, I remember getting asked out by an older guy who had some white chest hair. I wanted to vomit. Just the thought of seeing white pubes made me have dry heaves. Still does, TBH. I love my H to death and we've been married for decades but another thing that nobody mentions is that gravity works in cruel ways for men too. The ba** sagging is real. I would have died seeing something like this in my 20s and 30s. We are fortunate that we can lift almost everything - a breast lift is only 5K, men not so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When someone in their 60s dates people in their 40s, I assume their really looking to secure a nursemaid for their elderly years.

And you’re wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And as PP said it creates a weird power imbalance, it’s almost as if older men prey on the nievete of young women.

And the women feed the old men's fragile egos, because they are so easily impressed (with world experiences and material status).

If you have ever had child in their young 20's, you should recognize why they don't make an appropriate life PARTNER.

But maybe this set up most appeals to men who don't seek an equal partner?

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Anonymous wrote:Why so much disgust and judgement? Isn't there also a significant number of women, especially in their 20's, who don't want to date men their age and prefer older guys? It takes two consenting adults for these relationships to happen.

It's 100% pure jealousy. I'm divorced mid 40s and in excellent shape. I've dated women as young as late 20s (rare). Most of the women I date are early to mid 30s and they have no issue with me being 10 years older. In fact, I would say they love it. I'm more mature, financially stable, great in bed, etc.

Woman want stability. Men want well put together women.

Some people actually seek equal partners (humans that is, not bank vs sex toy).

Did you read some of the earlier posters who are now disgusted by having done this? In retrospect they recognize it as a sign of psychological damage? How does that make you feel?

It is hilarious that you say they have no issue with it. Wishful thinking on your part.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why so much disgust and judgement? Isn't there also a significant number of women, especially in their 20's, who don't want to date men their age and prefer older guys? It takes two consenting adults for these relationships to happen.

It's 100% pure jealousy. I'm divorced mid 40s and in excellent shape. I've dated women as young as late 20s (rare). Most of the women I date are early to mid 30s and they have no issue with me being 10 years older. In fact, I would say they love it. I'm more mature, financially stable, great in bed, etc.

Woman want stability. Men want well put together women.

The funny part is that you think you are impressing people with your younger dates...but they think you are pathetic.

Read these posts again, and let them sink in.

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Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

No, I would seriously not want to date a man who dates younger women. I’m the poster who did date older guys when I was younger and those men have concerning issues. Which is why they do so, they have predator tendencies. That’s why they target naive girls. Honest to God I would not be envious, a man like that does not command respect and really is looked at as a joke.

This. I don’t know any men I respect who date/marry significantly younger. Most people bond over shared life experiences and having a similar world view. For context, I (36) have some friends in their twenties - male and female. I love their energy and their optimism but there is nothing about us that put us on equal footing in the context of a potential relationship. Financially, professionally, life experiences, travel, etc etc - I am light years beyond them. It baffles me how men can overlook these fundamental differences in order to “bang” a young “hottie.” Gross.

Or, to put it another way, men desire the nubile, positive, life-vivacious younger women. That jaded, seasoned, rigid disposition is off putting. Older women are set in their ways. Why deal with the hassle?

"set in their ways" = know what they want, and are harder to control

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every time I think of the older men I dated in the past, I throw up in my mouth. Losers seek the easiest prey. They are an embarrassment and cannot get respect from their own peers.

Read this one again, PP who thinks you are so fit and good in bed despite your age. This is a version of reality that you are hiding from.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Power imbalance. No need to explain it further. Society socialized everyone to accept this mate pairing as ideal for men with money and women with no career ambition using their bodies to gain money. Their body is their power but it fades over time whereas men with money still have money and power even when their balls hit their ankles.

Why do women hate this? Obvious town. We women don’t have the same power longevity men yield.

Well, thank God it is 2022 and women now have ways to acquire power beyond their bodies.

People who still chose to re-enact that dated life (i.e., melania & donald) are sad anachronisms.

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Instinctively l think most of us understand that an equal partnership, with equal power and emotional maturity, is healthier and more fulfilling than a relationship with a power imbalance.

I think older people who seek younger partners are either in denial about this, emotionally immature, or both.

Guys who buy mail order brides - l guess they just don’t care about an equal partnership? Gross.