shared family beach house - issue with damaged item

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Anonymous wrote:The aunt who is “butting in” is an OWNER of a house you were a GUEST at. Any stuff you leave there is HER property along with the other co-owners. The rules are HERS along with the co-owners to enforce, not yours. I think you guys are going to get voted out of the beach house and that 275 board is about to be very expensive. But hey you stuck to your guns and got you $100 bucks!

You embarrass yourself by not reading the thread. Op’s father is also a co-owner.

Umm no the aunt can and should veto them from the guest list no matter what the other co-owners want. No one is allowed to have guests unless all co-owners agree on them. The entitlement of op is ASTOUNDING. They are guests who think they are owners. You don’t store your property on someone else’s house and then demand reimbursement for its damage.

yea, that would work out great in practice- Aunt, "I veto nephew and his awful family" FIL, "OK aunt, I veto your kids." And then you have a family beach house that no one can use

…well, YES, dear. That’s how it works. When co-owners can no longer agree on things like guests, you SELL, you buy someone out, or you go to a no-guests-whatsoever policy. That’s how it goes.

And if guests don’t want that to happen, perhaps they shouldn’t act in an entitled and absurd manner over a used boogie board.

[Anonymous]

If I were you, I would apologize to the aunt for making a big deal out of it (while personally being annoyed with cousin).

A beach house can cost at least $2,000 per week, so don’t bite the hand that feeds you.

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Anonymous wrote:Cousins and parents of the brat who broke it should split the full replacement cost.

Here’s what: replacement cost of a USED item is not a NEW item.

Who is to assess the value, though?

Google the item and see what comes up on eBay or some other site where it or a similar item is selling as “used.”

[Anonymous]

If they are family you smile and say okay. Next time, put a note that says not to use it. But I also hope you leave lots of wine or chip in lots for use of the house and storage. Nitpicking over the cost of the board is a bad look when you're getting a free vacation.

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Anonymous wrote:#firstworldproblems

We live in a first world country. So what is the issue?

We can't complain because we arent in Sierra Leone?

Okay, fine, I’ll change it to #richpeopleproblems. It’s akin to “omg I haven’t slept for DAYS because I’m up all night stressing over whether or not I picked the right tile for my backyard pool.” Sorry, I don’t feel sorry for you.

OP can afford a $275 boogie board. The “good ones” are $40-50 and you can get them as cheap is $5. Does a $275 boogie board operate that much differently than a $50 board? Doubtful.

Op has access to a FREE beach house for family vacations.
Op didn’t want to put forth the effort of bringing said expensive boogie board home or storing it in her house all year. Does it suck that it got broken? Sure. But this whole post reeks of privilege and entitlement.

Just because something is free doesn't mean all manners and rules go out the window. The cousin and guests also got a free week, that doesn't mean they can trash the place and break things that aren't theirs.

I’m sure they didn’t break it on purpose! If I visited a beach house and my kid accidentally broke a boogie board I would be happy to buy a new one….a $50 one to replace it. $275 is absurd—and apparently not that great of a board if it breaks that easily.

If you can't afford the cost to replace something your kid is playing with, he shouldn't be playing with it. You are like that woman who lost Carrie's shoes in SATC.

Um, the woman did not lose Carrie’s shoes, dingbat. Someone took them, or they were lost at the party because Carrie CHOSE to take the shoes off and leave them by the front door. How about Carrie could have left, or could have removed her shoes but carried them around with her/put them in her purse/asked the host for a safer spot to store them. She was careless with her shoes and blamed the host, who didn’t actually steal them. FFS.

Everyone is responsible for their own possessions. Don’t leave expensive things in storage at SOMEONE ELSE’S SHARED BEACH HOUSE, and it won’t be a problem.

IIRC, in that episode, it was a "no shoes" apartment and the lady insisted Carrie take her shoes off and leave them at the door.

And as Carrie is not mute, she could have opened her mouth and said, “I prefer to keep them with me; do you have a plastic bag?” Or “I am going to put them in my purse.” Or she could have, you know, left.

[Anonymous]

From now on, any boogie board over $75 will be referred to as a BOUGIE board.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The aunt who is “butting in” is an OWNER of a house you were a GUEST at. Any stuff you leave there is HER property along with the other co-owners. The rules are HERS along with the co-owners to enforce, not yours. I think you guys are going to get voted out of the beach house and that 275 board is about to be very expensive. But hey you stuck to your guns and got you $100 bucks!

You embarrass yourself by not reading the thread. Op’s father is also a co-owner.

Umm no the aunt can and should veto them from the guest list no matter what the other co-owners want. No one is allowed to have guests unless all co-owners agree on them. The entitlement of op is ASTOUNDING. They are guests who think they are owners. You don’t store your property on someone else’s house and then demand reimbursement for its damage.

yea, that would work out great in practice- Aunt, "I veto nephew and his awful family" FIL, "OK aunt, I veto your kids." And then you have a family beach house that no one can use

…well, YES, dear. That’s how it works. When co-owners can no longer agree on things like guests, you SELL, you buy someone out, or you go to a no-guests-whatsoever policy. That’s how it goes.

And if guests don’t want that to happen, perhaps they shouldn’t act in an entitled and absurd manner over a used boogie board.

Yeah, that isn’t how this will go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From now on, any boogie board over $75 will be referred to as a BOUGIE board.

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Anonymous wrote:For the people googling the 275 boogie board, I found them!!
https://hubboards.com/collections/boards

For the record, I think the cousin shouldn’t have touched or taken the board but also, who the heck buys a boogie board for 275 dollars?

Are you a serious boarder or surfer? No? Then you know nothing.

From the OP:

"Also want to add that my kids picked this specific one because of the colors and of course, it isnt available anymore so another reason we are annoyed."

Pretty sure serious boarders and surfers don't choose their board because of the color.

You asked “who the check buys a boogie board for 275 dollars”. Serious boarders and surfers do so take your derision elsewhere.

Oh, I think I'll keep my derision for "serious boarders and surfers," if it's all the same to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The aunt who is “butting in” is an OWNER of a house you were a GUEST at. Any stuff you leave there is HER property along with the other co-owners. The rules are HERS along with the co-owners to enforce, not yours. I think you guys are going to get voted out of the beach house and that 275 board is about to be very expensive. But hey you stuck to your guns and got you $100 bucks!

You embarrass yourself by not reading the thread. Op’s father is also a co-owner.

Umm no the aunt can and should veto them from the guest list no matter what the other co-owners want. No one is allowed to have guests unless all co-owners agree on them. The entitlement of op is ASTOUNDING. They are guests who think they are owners. You don’t store your property on someone else’s house and then demand reimbursement for its damage.

yea, that would work out great in practice- Aunt, "I veto nephew and his awful family" FIL, "OK aunt, I veto your kids." And then you have a family beach house that no one can use

…well, YES, dear. That’s how it works. When co-owners can no longer agree on things like guests, you SELL, you buy someone out, or you go to a no-guests-whatsoever policy. That’s how it goes.

And if guests don’t want that to happen, perhaps they shouldn’t act in an entitled and absurd manner over a used boogie board.

Yeah, that isn’t how this will go.

Oh really, do tell. How interesting that OP’s FIL (or another co-owner of this property) has found this board.

My view is based on my mom and her siblings co-owning a large lake property, managing it for decades, and ultimately selling it. What is your view based on?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For the people googling the 275 boogie board, I found them!!
https://hubboards.com/collections/boards

For the record, I think the cousin shouldn’t have touched or taken the board but also, who the heck buys a boogie board for 275 dollars?

Are you a serious boarder or surfer? No? Then you know nothing.

From the OP:

"Also want to add that my kids picked this specific one because of the colors and of course, it isnt available anymore so another reason we are annoyed."

Pretty sure serious boarders and surfers don't choose their board because of the color.

You asked “who the check buys a boogie board for 275 dollars”. Serious boarders and surfers do so take your derision elsewhere.

Oh, I think I'll keep my derision for "serious boarders and surfers," if it's all the same to you.

Serious boarders and surfers who use a board twice and leave it in a space outside their control….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:For the people googling the 275 boogie board, I found them!!
https://hubboards.com/collections/boards

For the record, I think the cousin shouldn’t have touched or taken the board but also, who the heck buys a boogie board for 275 dollars?

Are you a serious boarder or surfer? No? Then you know nothing.

From the OP:

"Also want to add that my kids picked this specific one because of the colors and of course, it isnt available anymore so another reason we are annoyed."

Pretty sure serious boarders and surfers don't choose their board because of the color.

You asked “who the check buys a boogie board for 275 dollars”. Serious boarders and surfers do so take your derision elsewhere.

Oh, I think I'll keep my derision for "serious boarders and surfers," if it's all the same to you.

Serious boarders and surfers who use a board twice and leave it in a space outside their control….

Exactly — I mean you don’t leave expensive stuff you care about in a shared space like this. You literally have no idea what stuff is being used when you are not there. Just because they haven’t broken anything before this doesn’t mean they have not been using your stuff for years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The aunt who is “butting in” is an OWNER of a house you were a GUEST at. Any stuff you leave there is HER property along with the other co-owners. The rules are HERS along with the co-owners to enforce, not yours. I think you guys are going to get voted out of the beach house and that 275 board is about to be very expensive. But hey you stuck to your guns and got you $100 bucks!

You embarrass yourself by not reading the thread. Op’s father is also a co-owner.

Umm no the aunt can and should veto them from the guest list no matter what the other co-owners want. No one is allowed to have guests unless all co-owners agree on them. The entitlement of op is ASTOUNDING. They are guests who think they are owners. You don’t store your property on someone else’s house and then demand reimbursement for its damage.

yea, that would work out great in practice- Aunt, "I veto nephew and his awful family" FIL, "OK aunt, I veto your kids." And then you have a family beach house that no one can use

…well, YES, dear. That’s how it works. When co-owners can no longer agree on things like guests, you SELL, you buy someone out, or you go to a no-guests-whatsoever policy. That’s how it goes.

And if guests don’t want that to happen, perhaps they shouldn’t act in an entitled and absurd manner over a used boogie board.

Yeah, that isn’t how this will go.

Oh really, do tell. How interesting that OP’s FIL (or another co-owner of this property) has found this board.

My view is based on my mom and her siblings co-owning a large lake property, managing it for decades, and ultimately selling it. What is your view based on?

Yes. So very interesting that OP’s FIL has found this board. That is exactly what has happened.

[Anonymous]

So much to unpack here!

First, who knew $275 boogie boards exist!

Second, for that price, I assume it is fiberglass not styrofoam, so how the heck did a little
kid break it?

Third, if I were that kid’s parent, I’d be racing over checkbook in hand to replace it, where is that parent in this story? I admit I’d be shocked at the cost of the boogie board, but man that must have been some rough play by the kid so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯!

Fourth, in the cousin’s shoes I’d have offered to fully replace the board. The fact that he offered half makes me think he knew what an expensive board this was (otherwise, wouldn’t he just have picked up a new one for $30 when checking out at harris teeter?!). The “house rules” were clear and I bet there is lots of history with the cousin stepping on toes.

Fifth, aunt should myob!

[Anonymous]

I’d bet $20 bucks that the cousin not the friends kid broke it or even stole it.