shared family beach house - issue with damaged item

[Anonymous]

I think you are right to be annoyed OP and cousin should absolutely be on the hook for the entire cost of an item that his guests broke. My guess is that he was expecting you to say, it was $30 and was shocked when you said $275. Its likely that he was more angry at the friend in that moment than he was at your husband and just needed a minute to swallow the cost. I agree that $275 is a bit over the top for a boogie board but that's my opinion and you have the right to spend your money how you want. He should have asked--expensive lesson learned. And aunt needs to butt out.

But I would definitely not leave anything of that kind of value there ever again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My siblings and I share a family beach house and it sure can create headaches. It sounds like you have more people coming into and out of the house than we do - we just have the 3 families - but especially for that reason, I would never leave stuff at the house that was off-limits for others who use it. I don't see how you would function if you had to request permission to use the toaster or a volleyball net or some other object in the house.

If I broke something that one of my relatives bought, I'd pay for it. OTOH I know that if I went after one of my siblings to pay to replace some inanimate object at the house, it would cause a blow-up that wouldn't be worth the trouble.

oh, I don't know. Maybe you can come to an understanding with family members and create rules regarding stuff. Maybe something like all the stuff in the beach house can be used by everyone. All the stuff in communal storage shed #1 can be used by everyone and all the stuff in communal storage shed #2 is not allowed to be used by everyone. Then put cheap boogie boards in communal storage shed #1 and put the expensive, special boogie board in communal storage shed #2?

+1000

Aside from it being commercial shed, isn't that exactly [i]what the OP and the family did?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Team OP. The DH and the cousin have equal right to the house. DH’s father is a co-owner. The cousin had a nerve offering to pay 50%. He should replace what broke as a result of him healing himself when he shouldn’t have. According to the social norms of the house, he should have asked first. I OP’s husband could have asked him to replace it and that would have cost the full amount. Aunt needs to butt out.

+1

Depreciation. You all are too ridiculous OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My siblings and I share a family beach house and it sure can create headaches. It sounds like you have more people coming into and out of the house than we do - we just have the 3 families - but especially for that reason, I would never leave stuff at the house that was off-limits for others who use it. I don't see how you would function if you had to request permission to use the toaster or a volleyball net or some other object in the house.

If I broke something that one of my relatives bought, I'd pay for it. OTOH I know that if I went after one of my siblings to pay to replace some inanimate object at the house, it would cause a blow-up that wouldn't be worth the trouble.

oh, I don't know. Maybe you can come to an understanding with family members and create rules regarding stuff. Maybe something like all the stuff in the beach house can be used by everyone. All the stuff in communal storage shed #1 can be used by everyone and all the stuff in communal storage shed #2 is not allowed to be used by everyone. Then put cheap boogie boards in communal storage shed #1 and put the expensive, special boogie board in communal storage shed #2?

+1000

Aside from it being commercial shed, isn't that exactly [i]what the OP and the family did?

Yes, they did! I swear the reading comprehension on this board can be so poor.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:#firstworldproblems

We live in a first world country. So what is the issue?

We can't complain because we arent in Sierra Leone?

Okay, fine, I’ll change it to #richpeopleproblems. It’s akin to “omg I haven’t slept for DAYS because I’m up all night stressing over whether or not I picked the right tile for my backyard pool.” Sorry, I don’t feel sorry for you.

OP can afford a $275 boogie board. The “good ones” are $40-50 and you can get them as cheap is $5. Does a $275 boogie board operate that much differently than a $50 board? Doubtful.

Op has access to a FREE beach house for family vacations.
Op didn’t want to put forth the effort of bringing said expensive boogie board home or storing it in her house all year. Does it suck that it got broken? Sure. But this whole post reeks of privilege and entitlement.

Just because something is free doesn't mean all manners and rules go out the window. The cousin and guests also got a free week, that doesn't mean they can trash the place and break things that aren't theirs.

I’m sure they didn’t break it on purpose! If I visited a beach house and my kid accidentally broke a boogie board I would be happy to buy a new one….a $50 one to replace it. $275 is absurd—and apparently not that great of a board if it breaks that easily.

If you can't afford the cost to replace something your kid is playing with, he shouldn't be playing with it. You are like that woman who lost Carrie's shoes in SATC.

Um, the woman did not lose Carrie’s shoes, dingbat. Someone took them, or they were lost at the party because Carrie CHOSE to take the shoes off and leave them by the front door. How about Carrie could have left, or could have removed her shoes but carried them around with her/put them in her purse/asked the host for a safer spot to store them. She was careless with her shoes and blamed the host, who didn’t actually steal them. FFS.

Everyone is responsible for their own possessions. Don’t leave expensive things in storage at SOMEONE ELSE’S SHARED BEACH HOUSE, and it won’t be a problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For the people googling the 275 boogie board, I found them!!
https://hubboards.com/collections/boards

For the record, I think the cousin shouldn’t have touched or taken the board but also, who the heck buys a boogie board for 275 dollars?

Are you a serious boarder or surfer? No? Then you know nothing.

From the OP:

"Also want to add that my kids picked this specific one because of the colors and of course, it isnt available anymore so another reason we are annoyed."

Pretty sure serious boarders and surfers don't choose their board because of the color.

You asked “who the check buys a boogie board for 275 dollars”. Serious boarders and surfers do so take your derision elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cousins and parents of the brat who broke it should split the full replacement cost.

Here’s what: replacement cost of a USED item is not a NEW item.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Cousins and parents of the brat who broke it should split the full replacement cost.

Here’s what: replacement cost of a USED item is not a NEW item.

Who is to assess the value, though?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My siblings and I share a family beach house and it sure can create headaches. It sounds like you have more people coming into and out of the house than we do - we just have the 3 families - but especially for that reason, I would never leave stuff at the house that was off-limits for others who use it. I don't see how you would function if you had to request permission to use the toaster or a volleyball net or some other object in the house.

If I broke something that one of my relatives bought, I'd pay for it. OTOH I know that if I went after one of my siblings to pay to replace some inanimate object at the house, it would cause a blow-up that wouldn't be worth the trouble.

oh, I don't know. Maybe you can come to an understanding with family members and create rules regarding stuff. Maybe something like all the stuff in the beach house can be used by everyone. All the stuff in communal storage shed #1 can be used by everyone and all the stuff in communal storage shed #2 is not allowed to be used by everyone. Then put cheap boogie boards in communal storage shed #1 and put the expensive, special boogie board in communal storage shed #2?

+1000

Aside from it being commercial shed, isn't that exactly [i]what the OP and the family did?

Yes, they did! I swear the reading comprehension on this board can be so poor.

Both of you pps need a course in well-written sarcasm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:#firstworldproblems

We live in a first world country. So what is the issue?

We can't complain because we arent in Sierra Leone?

Okay, fine, I’ll change it to #richpeopleproblems. It’s akin to “omg I haven’t slept for DAYS because I’m up all night stressing over whether or not I picked the right tile for my backyard pool.” Sorry, I don’t feel sorry for you.

OP can afford a $275 boogie board. The “good ones” are $40-50 and you can get them as cheap is $5. Does a $275 boogie board operate that much differently than a $50 board? Doubtful.

Op has access to a FREE beach house for family vacations.
Op didn’t want to put forth the effort of bringing said expensive boogie board home or storing it in her house all year. Does it suck that it got broken? Sure. But this whole post reeks of privilege and entitlement.

Just because something is free doesn't mean all manners and rules go out the window. The cousin and guests also got a free week, that doesn't mean they can trash the place and break things that aren't theirs.

I’m sure they didn’t break it on purpose! If I visited a beach house and my kid accidentally broke a boogie board I would be happy to buy a new one….a $50 one to replace it. $275 is absurd—and apparently not that great of a board if it breaks that easily.

If you can't afford the cost to replace something your kid is playing with, he shouldn't be playing with it. You are like that woman who lost Carrie's shoes in SATC.

Um, the woman did not lose Carrie’s shoes, dingbat. Someone took them, or they were lost at the party because Carrie CHOSE to take the shoes off and leave them by the front door. How about Carrie could have left, or could have removed her shoes but carried them around with her/put them in her purse/asked the host for a safer spot to store them. She was careless with her shoes and blamed the host, who didn’t actually steal them. FFS.

Everyone is responsible for their own possessions. Don’t leave expensive things in storage at SOMEONE ELSE’S SHARED BEACH HOUSE, and it won’t be a problem.

IIRC, in that episode, it was a "no shoes" apartment and the lady insisted Carrie take her shoes off and leave them at the door.

[Anonymous]

Op sounds like someone I wouldn’t want to share a beach house, or even a meal with. Leaving something at a house you don’t own that is used by many people and expecting no one to touch it is completely irrational.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The aunt who is “butting in” is an OWNER of a house you were a GUEST at. Any stuff you leave there is HER property along with the other co-owners. The rules are HERS along with the co-owners to enforce, not yours. I think you guys are going to get voted out of the beach house and that 275 board is about to be very expensive. But hey you stuck to your guns and got you $100 bucks!

You embarrass yourself by not reading the thread. Op’s father is also a co-owner.

Umm no the aunt can and should veto them from the guest list no matter what the other co-owners want. No one is allowed to have guests unless all co-owners agree on them. The entitlement of op is ASTOUNDING. They are guests who think they are owners. You don’t store your property on someone else’s house and then demand reimbursement for its damage.

If you think about it for three second and have the IQ of a potato, you'll see why this approach is absolutely idiotic. Come on, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the people googling the 275 boogie board, I found them!!
https://hubboards.com/collections/boards

For the record, I think the cousin shouldn’t have touched or taken the board but also, who the heck buys a boogie board for 275 dollars?

Are you a serious boarder or surfer? No? Then you know nothing.

From the OP:

"Also want to add that my kids picked this specific one because of the colors and of course, it isnt available anymore so another reason we are annoyed."

Pretty sure serious boarders and surfers don't choose their board because of the color.

+1. Also pretty sure “serious boarders” (snerk) don’t leave special, expensive equipment in storage that doesn’t actually belong to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My siblings and I share a family beach house and it sure can create headaches. It sounds like you have more people coming into and out of the house than we do - we just have the 3 families - but especially for that reason, I would never leave stuff at the house that was off-limits for others who use it. I don't see how you would function if you had to request permission to use the toaster or a volleyball net or some other object in the house.

If I broke something that one of my relatives bought, I'd pay for it. OTOH I know that if I went after one of my siblings to pay to replace some inanimate object at the house, it would cause a blow-up that wouldn't be worth the trouble.

oh, I don't know. Maybe you can come to an understanding with family members and create rules regarding stuff. Maybe something like all the stuff in the beach house can be used by everyone. All the stuff in communal storage shed #1 can be used by everyone and all the stuff in communal storage shed #2 is not allowed to be used by everyone. Then put cheap boogie boards in communal storage shed #1 and put the expensive, special boogie board in communal storage shed #2?

You know, this just might work. I assume that, if items in shed 2 are used by someone who doesn't own them and end up getting broken, they'd have to be replaced by the person who took them out, right? No matter how expensive they are - I mean, that's part of the reason they are not for general use, right?

Yeah, this seems like a workable system. OP, you should try this.

[Anonymous]

The families have an established procedure. They have a separate shed we’re families member place things that shouldn’t be shared. There is nothing rude or problematic about this.

Everyone respected this rule except the cousin who was tempted by the expensive board. Who knows maybe this cousin is a big jerk and just helps himself to the stuff he isn’t supposed to use all the time. He got caught and destroyed something that he shouldn’t have had anyway.

Not to mention, f my kid or guests kid destroyed something that was in the communal living area I would replace that item. This is a family home not an Airbnb with a security deposit.