shared family beach house - issue with damaged item

[Anonymous]

If you do not own the house and leave something like a boogie board or chairs it becomes common property. This means anyone can use it. You look at it as the cost of using the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m still stuck on the price of the boogie board LOL. Also where are the parents of the kid who broke it? Are they not offering to pay? How old is the kid? If 2, prob not heavy enough. If 8, prob knew better….

Boogie boards are for riding surf but you can use them as a skim board. If the kid used it as a skim board you can break it pretty easily. Boogies are not designed to stand on. Good skim boards actually cost a lot more and are sold by the riders weight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP is the worst most insufferable beach house GUEST. Beach house OWNERS are numb to guests using any and all items and equipment, and things breaking, often pricey items. It's the cost of owning a beach house.

Here's the mentally of lifer beach house interloper moochers like OP: Why buy a beach house when we can use one for FREE? They want all the perks of owning a beach house with ZERO of the expenses or liabilities. Imagine being such an entitled prick that you think you can leave large items in the OWNERS' personal garage for months at a time, and demand nobody use them.

OP is an all-around uncouth and entitled tightwad INTERLOPER. And there's zero chance she can prove she paid this much for the item. The whole vibe about it being nearly brand new and a particular color reeks of conniving cheap skate looking to get over on family.

Your post reeks of jealousy and envy. You seem so hung up on the fact that this OP is able to use a family beach house free of charge, and that makes her an interloper, uncouth, a moocher and a prick. Were you the little girl who watched all her friends have things that she couldn't, and silently hated them for it? Who brooded over what she wanted from the outside looking in? Good grief, get a grip.

How can you have this much venom toward an anonymous poster? TIGHTWAD? She paid $275 for a boogie board, so I'm guessing not. INTERLOPER and MOOCHER because she is able to use a family owned beach house where her PARENTS are joint owners? Nope, not if she's invited to use it by one of the co-owners, as one would assume her cousin also was. We get it, if your family had a beach house and offered it up to you for a free week, you would reject this out of ... principle ...and an amazing display of virtue, because you believe parental generosity involving vacation homes makes the recipient a horrible human being. Where is your rage toward the cousin for then being the same?

I'm sorry if you haven't been given similar things in your life and you're resentful of others that are lucky enough to benefit from this, but that doesn't make her a bad person just because she stays at a beach house for free. You don't know if she owns another beach house somewhere else but uses this one once a year because HER PARENTS ALLOW HER TO DO SO. You don't know if she fills the kitchen cabinets and refrigerator while she's there because that's her way of paying her parents and aunt back for allowing her to use the house. You know nothing about what OP spends money on at home or at the beach, other than a $275 boogie board that clearly offends your sensibilities. Seriously, there's probably plenty of blame to go around with all parties involved in this mess and I'm sure OP and her DH aren't free and clear of criticism, but your so-called assessment of this situation is a little alarming. Figure out a way to manage that green eyed envy of yours. You sound unhinged.

DP. You must understand that you also seem completely unhinged, right? Why do you feel the need to be OP’s champion long after she abandoned the thread? PP’s take is bizarre, but recognize that you are also sitting here spewing venom at an anonymous poster.

Huh. Interesting take, but no, I'm not unhinged. I feel the need to champion anyone who I think is being unfairly attacked. Of course OP left the thread. I would too if I was called the names that this PP and others have called her. As I said above, I don't think the OP is above reproach (I actually think they ALL bear some burden in this mess), but I believe a response that is laden with childish name-calling, especially over something as innocuous as the use of her parents' beach house with their consent, is pathetic and over the top and I feel more than comfortable commenting on that on a message board (whether the OP is there or not...). Note that I defended my position and didn't hurl childish names at the PP, who had NOTHING to offer but jealous accusations--nothing of value, nothing constructive, just assumptions of wrongdoing and names spewed from a place of resentment. There is nothing there but jealousy and envy. But whatever. You're entitled to your opinion but I stand by my comments.

[Anonymous]

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At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

That Aunt should know to stay out of it. What is stopping OP's DH from running to their Daddy and having Daddy call Cousin and yell at him for only offering 50%?

Cousin was wrong. Cousin didn't even offer to pay for broken item at 100%. Cousin got called on it. Cousin didn't like it so had to whine to his mom (or Aunt. it was).

Nope. Aunt is one of the owners and perfectly justified to think that generously opening up the home to guests means that they should stop the squabbling and be appreciative.

This. It's usually best to overlook the technicalities of who's right in a situation like this. Allowing a petty annoyance to blow up into a drama is bad form.

Completely agree. OP is being really petty. If the boogie board was that valuable/important to you, then you should not have left it at the house. I can’t imagine a boogie board costing this much. Perhaps OP got ripped off and is taking it out on that cousin because it broke and should t have?

[Anonymous]

The cousin knew it was off limits but selfishly decided the rules don't apply to him, took it, and it broke because of him. If I were in his shoes I would immediately fully reimburse the owner.

Cousin can get the kid's parents to pay him back if he wants.

[Anonymous]

If you left it there, it is implied that it is for general use. Unless you locked it in a closet somewhere. I think it was generous of the cousin to offer as much as they did!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you left it there, it is implied that it is for general use. Unless you locked it in a closet somewhere. I think it was generous of the cousin to offer as much as they did!

I see you didn’t bother to read the thread.

[Anonymous]

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At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

That Aunt should know to stay out of it. What is stopping OP's DH from running to their Daddy and having Daddy call Cousin and yell at him for only offering 50%?

Cousin was wrong. Cousin didn't even offer to pay for broken item at 100%. Cousin got called on it. Cousin didn't like it so had to whine to his mom (or Aunt. it was).

Nope. Aunt is one of the owners and perfectly justified to think that generously opening up the home to guests means that they should stop the squabbling and be appreciative.

This. It's usually best to overlook the technicalities of who's right in a situation like this. Allowing a petty annoyance to blow up into a drama is bad form.

Completely agree. OP is being really petty. If the boogie board was that valuable/important to you, then you should not have left it at the house. I can’t imagine a boogie board costing this much. Perhaps OP got ripped off and is taking it out on that cousin because it broke and should t have?

You guys, if you're at a relative's beach house and you break something, you're honestly saying it would NOT be appropriate for you to replace it?

I'm with op. Cousin broke it, cousin replaces it.

[Anonymous]

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At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

That Aunt should know to stay out of it. What is stopping OP's DH from running to their Daddy and having Daddy call Cousin and yell at him for only offering 50%?

Cousin was wrong. Cousin didn't even offer to pay for broken item at 100%. Cousin got called on it. Cousin didn't like it so had to whine to his mom (or Aunt. it was).

Nope. Aunt is one of the owners and perfectly justified to think that generously opening up the home to guests means that they should stop the squabbling and be appreciative.

This. It's usually best to overlook the technicalities of who's right in a situation like this. Allowing a petty annoyance to blow up into a drama is bad form.

Completely agree. OP is being really petty. If the boogie board was that valuable/important to you, then you should not have left it at the house. I can’t imagine a boogie board costing this much. Perhaps OP got ripped off and is taking it out on that cousin because it broke and should t have?

You guys, if you're at a relative's beach house and you break something, you're honestly saying it would NOT be appropriate for you to replace it?

I'm with op. Cousin broke it, cousin replaces it.

No. That's not what people are saying. Cousin should pay replacement value, but cousin initially refused and offered half. The question is what comes next. Do you fight until he relents or just let it go. A lot of people are on team let it go, and stop leaving expensive stuff there.

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At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

That Aunt should know to stay out of it. What is stopping OP's DH from running to their Daddy and having Daddy call Cousin and yell at him for only offering 50%?

Cousin was wrong. Cousin didn't even offer to pay for broken item at 100%. Cousin got called on it. Cousin didn't like it so had to whine to his mom (or Aunt. it was).

Nope. Aunt is one of the owners and perfectly justified to think that generously opening up the home to guests means that they should stop the squabbling and be appreciative.

This. It's usually best to overlook the technicalities of who's right in a situation like this. Allowing a petty annoyance to blow up into a drama is bad form.

Completely agree. OP is being really petty. If the boogie board was that valuable/important to you, then you should not have left it at the house. I can’t imagine a boogie board costing this much. Perhaps OP got ripped off and is taking it out on that cousin because it broke and should t have?

You guys, if you're at a relative's beach house and you break something, you're honestly saying it would NOT be appropriate for you to replace it?

I'm with op. Cousin broke it, cousin replaces it.

No. That's not what people are saying. Cousin should pay replacement value, but cousin initially refused and offered half. The question is what comes next. Do you fight until he relents or just let it go. A lot of people are on team let it go, and stop leaving expensive stuff there.

That’s actually not clear. A few pages back someone wrote that the cousin’s friend is the person who gave half and that’s what the cousin was passing on to OP without putting in his 50%.

[Anonymous]

Parents were not smart leaving an expensive item in a communal space, no matter what the typical use policy is.

Child and parents have learned an expensive lesson: you buy cheap or used stuff for the beach to leave there. You buy expensive, precious stuff and you take it home with you.

At best, even 50% of the cost may teach both the cousins a lesson.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t have asked them too pay for full replacement. If it was so special/irreplaceable, you shouldn’t have left it there.

+1

Exactly this. If it was your house, I would feel differently, OP.

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At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

That Aunt should know to stay out of it. What is stopping OP's DH from running to their Daddy and having Daddy call Cousin and yell at him for only offering 50%?

Cousin was wrong. Cousin didn't even offer to pay for broken item at 100%. Cousin got called on it. Cousin didn't like it so had to whine to his mom (or Aunt. it was).

Nope. Aunt is one of the owners and perfectly justified to think that generously opening up the home to guests means that they should stop the squabbling and be appreciative.

This. It's usually best to overlook the technicalities of who's right in a situation like this. Allowing a petty annoyance to blow up into a drama is bad form.

Completely agree. OP is being really petty. If the boogie board was that valuable/important to you, then you should not have left it at the house. I can’t imagine a boogie board costing this much. Perhaps OP got ripped off and is taking it out on that cousin because it broke and should t have?

You guys, if you're at a relative's beach house and you break something, you're honestly saying it would NOT be appropriate for you to replace it?

I'm with op. Cousin broke it, cousin replaces it.

No. That's not what people are saying. Cousin should pay replacement value, but cousin initially refused and offered half. The question is what comes next. Do you fight until he relents or just let it go. A lot of people are on team let it go, and stop leaving expensive stuff there.

That’s actually not clear. A few pages back someone wrote that the cousin’s friend is the person who gave half and that’s what the cousin was passing on to OP without putting in his 50%.

Does that make a difference to you? You would start a fight with cousin if the friend was the only person paying?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents were not smart leaving an expensive item in a communal space, no matter what the typical use policy is.

Child and parents have learned an expensive lesson: you buy cheap or used stuff for the beach to leave there. You buy expensive, precious stuff and you take it home with you.

At best, even 50% of the cost may teach both the cousins a lesson.

Yes this, a thousand times this.