shared family beach house - issue with damaged item

[Anonymous]

I would have just accepted the 50% and been more clear about items that shouldn’t be used going forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the owners is my husband's father. The other 2 owners are the dads brother and sister (cousin's mom).
The boogie board was $275.
The child that broke the board wasn't staying at the house, but they were all at the beach at the same time.
We have other things at the house that we allow others to use and these are in the main shed or in the house. I disagree with some of you about just letting this go. The rules of the house were clear. We have not had issues in the past 12 years that we have been using it. If it was me who damaged something, I'd replace it, and we did this once when we bought a new beach umbrella when the old one another cousin contributed broke as I was opening it.
Glad the cousin finally agreed to compensate us and annoyed his mom is getting in the middle.

If this family is like most families, they will all talk about you guys and how ungrateful and cheap you were. I hope the $137.50 was worth it.

[Anonymous]

You and your husband are cheap and petty. Be glad you have a beach house someone lets you use and move on with your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You and your husband are cheap and petty. Be glad you have a beach house someone lets you use and move on with your life.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Who the hell buys a 275 dollar boogie board for two days at the end of a season?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there a question here? The cousin agreed to pay for it. Ignore the aunt as this isn’t her fight. Next time label the board with a note to not use.

Move on.

Actually, the aunt is a saint to let this stream of people stay in her home all summer, provide free storage year round, and put up with this petty bullshit. What she says about these petty squabbles should be the end of it. Sweet jesus, I'd weep tears of joy to have this arrangement -- the aunt did this during the pandemic summer last year, no less! What a bunch of ingrates squabbling of nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Team OP. The DH and the cousin have equal right to the house. DH’s father is a co-owner. The cousin had a nerve offering to pay 50%. He should replace what broke as a result of him healing himself when he shouldn’t have. According to the social norms of the house, he should have asked first. I OP’s husband could have asked him to replace it and that would have cost the full amount. Aunt needs to butt out.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is correct. 50% still means you have to spend money to replace it for no reason. But in the name of family I would probably taken the 50% and been annoyed. In response, in the future I would put very clear labels on things.

[Anonymous]

Saying a prayer of gratitude that we’ve never fought over petty crap like this at our family beach house.

[Anonymous]

I think you should have taken the 50% and let it go. Don’t leave expensive stuff at the beach house — others will use it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t have asked them too pay for full replacement. If it was so special/irreplaceable, you shouldn’t have left it there.

Bingo. There are rules, yes, but…stuff happens. And your husband isn’t an OWNER, so he doesn’t get to store things as an owner would. You are NOT OWNERS, so your stuff should be in-and-out.

[Anonymous]

In the future don’t leave your stuff at someone else’s house! Take your stuff home. Cousin was very rude to offer to replace 1/2. You should’ve accepted that though and not made a huge deal of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t have asked them too pay for full replacement. If it was so special/irreplaceable, you shouldn’t have left it there.

Bingo. There are rules, yes, but…stuff happens. And your husband isn’t an OWNER, so he doesn’t get to store things as an owner would. You are NOT OWNERS, so your stuff should be in-and-out.

I can’t imagine (1) getting upset enough over something that was partially my fault for leaving it there in the first place that I would demand 100% reimbursement and (2) staying so upset over the $137 that I’d start a thread on DCUM. Talk about petty!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it was petty and penny-pinching to insist on full cost replacement and would have been more graceful to tell the cousin not to worry about it. But then it was also petty and penny-pinching to assign depreciation of 50%. So in classic DCUM fashion everyone in this story sucks.

This!

+2 As a PP said, I hope the $137.50 was worth it.

[Anonymous]

You sicken me with your pettiness and greed.