My sister just tried to stage a parenting intervention with me, basically

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OP’s sister’s head would probably explode at the amount of screen time my kids have had since 2020.

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Tell her, "You do you", but leave your kids out of it. I would suggest once a year while on vacation she could lessen the restraints. Her kids would not be harmed and would actually look forward to it.

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I would be extra careful not to create envy in her poor children - so no pulling out of iPads, no walking in with fries, etc. It’s good for your kids to have a detox from all that, frankly. You don’t need to live like this all year - just when your families get together.

+1

You both sound like your home rules are similar to OP's sister's rules and you KNOW that your kids are deprived. It is NOT OP's responsibility to not "create envy" in her sister's children. It's their parents' responsibility to teach them that different families have different rules. That's a line that gets said a lot in our family and our children (5 and 7) understand. That said, we also tend to live a little when we're on vacation and break some of our rules, so why can't OP's sister say "F*ck it, we're on vacation, sure you can have some ice cream/french fries/play an iPad game"? Why isn't your advice "it's good for sister's kids to detox from their extremely rigid and controlled lifestyle and get some food and candy every once in a while" instead?

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Anonymous wrote:I'd also love to hear what OP's kids actually eat at mealtime.

What does that have to do with anything? Presumably they stopped at McDonald's on the way home from the beach because the kids were starving. You've NEVER done that before? WTF is wrong with YOU?

[Anonymous]

Hey, OP, I get you. You're on vacation and things are relaxed. Don't think everyone on DCUM is as psycho as your sister and the posters here. I get you!!

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OP, I saw this today and thought of you. Admittedly, I haven’t read it but the idea of no screen time being elitist made me kind of happy. Let’s cancel the no screen time elites!

https://www.motherjones.com/media/2021/06/kids-screen-time-science-panic/

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I come to this site to argue about stupid shut and rage post. You guys did not disappoint!

Thank you! I feel better now.

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I didn’t read the whole thread but to me it’s BS to say you made your kids eat in the car bcs you knew her kids don’t eat fast food but “I guess” your kid wandered around with a bag of French fries.

I don’t know exactly what the answer is her but own your ish

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP’s sister’s head would probably explode at the amount of screen time my kids have had since 2020.

+1. People losing their minds over the 30min a day her kids get and I’m over here like…whoops!

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Anonymous wrote:I'd also love to hear what OP's kids actually eat at mealtime.

What does that have to do with anything? Presumably they stopped at McDonald's on the way home from the beach because the kids were starving. You've NEVER done that before? WTF is wrong with YOU?

NP but I would, too. I’m very into menu planning.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t read the whole thread but to me it’s BS to say you made your kids eat in the car bcs you knew her kids don’t eat fast food but “I guess” your kid wandered around with a bag of French fries.

I don’t know exactly what the answer is her but own your ish

This. If you were really trying to avoid conflict, you would have just eaten in the restaurant.

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Anonymous wrote:I know I’m going to get railed on here, but each of your kids have their own iPad? Honestly, it’s awful for children. You go to another country where this is not the norm and are amazed at how much more engaged the children all with their world. Here we are headed into Wall-E territory out of ignorance and defensiveness.

just spent a while year in “another country” and all kids are on phones all the time. the world is not what you think it is.

5 yos?

Wow, PP here- I said “another country WHERE the kids are not on their phones all the time”. Hello the world is a big place. Intentionally obtuse of you, and very defensive.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd also love to hear what OP's kids actually eat at mealtime.

What does that have to do with anything? Presumably they stopped at McDonald's on the way home from the beach because the kids were starving. You've NEVER done that before? WTF is wrong with YOU?

#psycho #projecting #deflecting

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t read the whole thread but to me it’s BS to say you made your kids eat in the car bcs you knew her kids don’t eat fast food but “I guess” your kid wandered around with a bag of French fries.

I don’t know exactly what the answer is her but own your ish

It’s called lazy and don’t care. Same reason she doesn’t have actual meals at mealtime or snacks in her bag for her 5 yo when out.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd also love to hear what OP's kids actually eat at mealtime.

What does that have to do with anything? Presumably they stopped at McDonald's on the way home from the beach because the kids were starving. You've NEVER done that before? WTF is wrong with YOU?

NP but I would, too. I’m very into menu planning.

OMG. You need to get a job or something, your lives do not sound healthy