My sister just tried to stage a parenting intervention with me, basically

[Anonymous]

I could have written this post myself. If it weren't for my older parents, I wouldn't spend time with my sister at all.

[Anonymous]

Um, going through a drive through for a fast food burger on vacation is …. normal. Fun, even, if it’s not something normally done. Everything in moderation. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to chime back in to say how fascinating these threads ripen into elaborate scenarios with no basis on the original post -- as in, suddenly the kids who popped onto iPads while waiting for dinner are ignoring their cousins to be on iPads all the time, and a mom who stopped quickly at a drive-thru now feeds her obese kids nothing but fast-food. It's a weird phenomenon how details get warped to fit a nonsensical narrative.

I think most kids recharge/relax occasionally with an iPad before dinner.

I know very few parents who have absolutely never quickly gone to a drive-thru, and it has no bearing on their child-rearing skills or health perspectives.

Many of you are in denial and coping. Millions of normal families do not eat fast food. It's one thing for an adult to grab a burger in an airport or even a McMuffin before work -- an adult. It's an entirely different thing to feed that poisonous garbage to children. Ever notice where fast food restaurants are concentrated? Low class hoods. Where they're basically banned? High class hoods. I'm sure in your delusional mind millions of affluent families drive 'across the tracks' to go score fast food a few nights a week.

Lady, I hate to break it to you, but the chick fil a’s in the affluent neighborhoods are SLAMMING. All the time. All the fancy people I know go.

[Anonymous]

I think this thread illustrates perfectly why people become so entrenched in these ideals. I’m sorry, but some of you are true whack a doos. I would rather do anything than go anywhere with you, and I’m sure you do not get many invites so I simply would not worry about it. We’ve been to three beach houses thus far this summer in nice upscale places like Nantucket and Kiswahili and our kids, 8 and 9, have played, eaten salads, watched movies AND played games on devices AND eaten some crap. The days are long, people. All of these things can occur. I know very few adults who eat no fat and consume no screens, and holding your children to those standards and judging others for falling short is, in fact, ridiculous, but nobody else cares what you do. They just don’t want to hang out with you. So, rent your house alone and enjoy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to chime back in to say how fascinating these threads ripen into elaborate scenarios with no basis on the original post -- as in, suddenly the kids who popped onto iPads while waiting for dinner are ignoring their cousins to be on iPads all the time, and a mom who stopped quickly at a drive-thru now feeds her obese kids nothing but fast-food. It's a weird phenomenon how details get warped to fit a nonsensical narrative.

I think most kids recharge/relax occasionally with an iPad before dinner.

I know very few parents who have absolutely never quickly gone to a drive-thru, and it has no bearing on their child-rearing skills or health perspectives.

Many of you are in denial and coping. Millions of normal families do not eat fast food. It's one thing for an adult to grab a burger in an airport or even a McMuffin before work -- an adult. It's an entirely different thing to feed that poisonous garbage to children. Ever notice where fast food restaurants are concentrated? Low class hoods. Where they're basically banned? High class hoods. I'm sure in your delusional mind millions of affluent families drive 'across the tracks' to go score fast food a few nights a week.

You mean the McDonalds across the street from Whole Foods on River Rd in Bethesda?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to chime back in to say how fascinating these threads ripen into elaborate scenarios with no basis on the original post -- as in, suddenly the kids who popped onto iPads while waiting for dinner are ignoring their cousins to be on iPads all the time, and a mom who stopped quickly at a drive-thru now feeds her obese kids nothing but fast-food. It's a weird phenomenon how details get warped to fit a nonsensical narrative.

I think most kids recharge/relax occasionally with an iPad before dinner.

I know very few parents who have absolutely never quickly gone to a drive-thru, and it has no bearing on their child-rearing skills or health perspectives.

Many of you are in denial and coping. Millions of normal families do not eat fast food. It's one thing for an adult to grab a burger in an airport or even a McMuffin before work -- an adult. It's an entirely different thing to feed that poisonous garbage to children. Ever notice where fast food restaurants are concentrated? Low class hoods. Where they're basically banned? High class hoods. I'm sure in your delusional mind millions of affluent families drive 'across the tracks' to go score fast food a few nights a week.

You mean the McDonalds across the street from Whole Foods on River Rd in Bethesda?

…and the five guys on Bethesda ave? And the shake shack on tuckerman lane? And the Starbucks in wildwood?

[Anonymous]

Or the Chick fil a in tenleytown? 7-11 in Georgetown? All of McLean? Weird.

[Anonymous]

OP, the last time we vacationed with my SIL and her children, they were on their screens all the time (including at the table while eating meals...when everyone was sitting at the table together) and it was obnoxious. Our kids asked why they couldn't do the same and we just kept saying that we have different rules. For what it's worth, we do eat fast food and we do allow our kids to have screen time on their iPads, especially, like you said, after a few hours in the pool.

If your kids will all together, then I think letting yours be on iPads while hers weren't was a little rude? You said you're in different cottages but then how did they know what was going on? If they were together, I would have suggested doing something together. If they were apart, I wouldn't have minded iPads for a bit, but it sounds like they must have been together if they knew what your kids were doing.

HOWEVER, the fact that your sister lectured you based on her "concern" for your children is the most obnoxious thing that happened. If I were you, I would try to make peace and have fun. Ignore her judgment but think about your niece and nephew and maybe that will help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to chime back in to say how fascinating these threads ripen into elaborate scenarios with no basis on the original post -- as in, suddenly the kids who popped onto iPads while waiting for dinner are ignoring their cousins to be on iPads all the time, and a mom who stopped quickly at a drive-thru now feeds her obese kids nothing but fast-food. It's a weird phenomenon how details get warped to fit a nonsensical narrative.

I think most kids recharge/relax occasionally with an iPad before dinner.

I know very few parents who have absolutely never quickly gone to a drive-thru, and it has no bearing on their child-rearing skills or health perspectives.

Many of you are in denial and coping. Millions of normal families do not eat fast food. It's one thing for an adult to grab a burger in an airport or even a McMuffin before work -- an adult. It's an entirely different thing to feed that poisonous garbage to children. Ever notice where fast food restaurants are concentrated? Low class hoods. Where they're basically banned? High class hoods. I'm sure in your delusional mind millions of affluent families drive 'across the tracks' to go score fast food a few nights a week.

Oh deer. There is a McDonalds and Wendy's in Greenwich, plus a Taco Bell in OLD Greenwich! Oh deerie me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to chime back in to say how fascinating these threads ripen into elaborate scenarios with no basis on the original post -- as in, suddenly the kids who popped onto iPads while waiting for dinner are ignoring their cousins to be on iPads all the time, and a mom who stopped quickly at a drive-thru now feeds her obese kids nothing but fast-food. It's a weird phenomenon how details get warped to fit a nonsensical narrative.

I think most kids recharge/relax occasionally with an iPad before dinner.

I know very few parents who have absolutely never quickly gone to a drive-thru, and it has no bearing on their child-rearing skills or health perspectives.

Many of you are in denial and coping. Millions of normal families do not eat fast food. It's one thing for an adult to grab a burger in an airport or even a McMuffin before work -- an adult. It's an entirely different thing to feed that poisonous garbage to children. Ever notice where fast food restaurants are concentrated? Low class hoods. Where they're basically banned? High class hoods. I'm sure in your delusional mind millions of affluent families drive 'across the tracks' to go score fast food a few nights a week.

You mean the McDonalds across the street from Whole Foods on River Rd in Bethesda?

…and the five guys on Bethesda ave? And the shake shack on tuckerman lane? And the Starbucks in wildwood?

I have a PhD and my kids eat from Shake Shack twice a month. My husband loves it and so do my kids. I see absolutely NOTHING wrong with it. We are all very fit, play tennis as a family weekly, run as a couple daily, swim and are currently traveling through Italy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to chime back in to say how fascinating these threads ripen into elaborate scenarios with no basis on the original post -- as in, suddenly the kids who popped onto iPads while waiting for dinner are ignoring their cousins to be on iPads all the time, and a mom who stopped quickly at a drive-thru now feeds her obese kids nothing but fast-food. It's a weird phenomenon how details get warped to fit a nonsensical narrative.

I think most kids recharge/relax occasionally with an iPad before dinner.

I know very few parents who have absolutely never quickly gone to a drive-thru, and it has no bearing on their child-rearing skills or health perspectives.

Many of you are in denial and coping. Millions of normal families do not eat fast food. It's one thing for an adult to grab a burger in an airport or even a McMuffin before work -- an adult. It's an entirely different thing to feed that poisonous garbage to children. Ever notice where fast food restaurants are concentrated? Low class hoods. Where they're basically banned? High class hoods. I'm sure in your delusional mind millions of affluent families drive 'across the tracks' to go score fast food a few nights a week.

You mean the McDonalds across the street from Whole Foods on River Rd in Bethesda?

…and the five guys on Bethesda ave? And the shake shack on tuckerman lane? And the Starbucks in wildwood?

I have a PhD and my kids eat from Shake Shack twice a month. My husband loves it and so do my kids. I see absolutely NOTHING wrong with it. We are all very fit, play tennis as a family weekly, run as a couple daily, swim and are currently traveling through Italy.

I bet that you are traveling through all of the low-class hoods of Italy, bella.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to chime back in to say how fascinating these threads ripen into elaborate scenarios with no basis on the original post -- as in, suddenly the kids who popped onto iPads while waiting for dinner are ignoring their cousins to be on iPads all the time, and a mom who stopped quickly at a drive-thru now feeds her obese kids nothing but fast-food. It's a weird phenomenon how details get warped to fit a nonsensical narrative.

I think most kids recharge/relax occasionally with an iPad before dinner.

I know very few parents who have absolutely never quickly gone to a drive-thru, and it has no bearing on their child-rearing skills or health perspectives.

Many of you are in denial and coping. Millions of normal families do not eat fast food. It's one thing for an adult to grab a burger in an airport or even a McMuffin before work -- an adult. It's an entirely different thing to feed that poisonous garbage to children. Ever notice where fast food restaurants are concentrated? Low class hoods. Where they're basically banned? High class hoods. I'm sure in your delusional mind millions of affluent families drive 'across the tracks' to go score fast food a few nights a week.

Lady, I hate to break it to you, but the chick fil a’s in the affluent neighborhoods are SLAMMING. All the time. All the fancy people I know go.

I agree that rich people eat fast food too.
My family and I REFUSE to eat there after learning about their dark money donations to Anti-Democratic groups.
Popeyes chicken sandwich is much better anyways.

[Anonymous]

I have been in several situations where my screen rules as well as buying junk rules were more lax than the other family’s.
I usually 1) try to gauge the other family’s rules around these 2) inform my kid of these rules and ask him to be mindful of those and please wait until we get to our house/room/are out by ourselves to be “rewarded” for the wait

It’s a strain for me and I try to avoid vacationing with families who have a different style but it can be done if you are stuck with them.