Is "sugar" a thing in DMV upper class?

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with most sugar “relationships” is that they’re temporary and artificial. Few girls think about networking and how the relationship can pay off in the long run.

My favorite niece got a job a couple of years ago in a prominent research lab after graduating from a T-40 college, to get some experience before med or grad school. She never expected that the 50+ Director is tall, trim and had a full head of hair. But over the months working there she learned how unhappy he was, researching critical medical breakthroughs while his SAHM wife bugged him about the kids’ school things and her wanting to start her career but the kids’ emotional needs and her missing her Dad who passed away etc.

So my niece got to know him over the months of working together and happy hours and lunches and conferences, and they both realized how much they enjoyed each other’s company. And for those who think yeah right he’s stringing her along, the wife found photos on the cloud where they’re clearly thrilled to be spending PLATONIC time together. Wife issued an ultimatum, and HE LEFT the wife for my niece. So it’s real, NOT. a transaction. My niece and the Director are still together and just waiting for the divorce settlement so that they can be open with the kids and don’t pay the wife anything more than necessary.

Was my niece “sugar”? NO. He did not pay one dime to my niece beyond the LAB paying salary and benefits. My niece is far better off as she has built a successful career right out of school AND has a man who is far more established and mature than boys her own age.

Will it last forever? Will they get married? Who knows? But the relationship fits right now, and without any sneaky private exchange of funds. Everything is above board. He gets the vitality and respect he’s earned, and she gets the success and happiness that SHE’S earned. THAT’S how so-called May-December relationships should work: mutual sweetness.

The lab director sounds gross. Takes for granted his stay at home wife who enabled him to get ahead in his career while having a family because she is handling everything at home for him. Because he devalues her work at home, he has no respect for her. And cheats on her emotionally with a younger, childless woman. Does your niece think it’s going to work out long term with this narcissist?

SAHM is not a job. He could outsource her completely.

Unfortunately for the next gal (were this not fictional), neither is sex, and you can outsource that as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this type of sex work called sugar babying because of the age difference?

It sounds like it’s because the parties involved are in denial that it’s sex work.

NP. The answer above is perfect.

Sugar babying is prostitution, plain and simple. That's not a value judgement on morality; it's a fact, and using cutesy, infantalizing terms like sugar baby doesn't change that fact. Calling it prostitution, or sex work if one prefers, is honest. Sugar baby isn't.

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Obviously yes. I wasn’t wily/calculating enough to become a sugar baby, but I had a TON of wealthy (or at least very comfortably UMC) men try to date me when I was a cocktail waitress in posh DC restaurants, most of them married. Late teens/early twenties.

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What are the best restaurants/ bars in the area to meet a sugar baby that is freestyling?

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Anonymous wrote:What are the best restaurants/ bars in the area to meet a sugar baby that is freestyling?

"Sugar baby that is freestyling from a perch on a barstool" is called a hooker, hon.

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My friend was years ago. He bought her a beautiful house in VA.

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I would not be able to have sex w someone if I know they put out for the right price/gifts/whatever-you-want-to-call-it, even if they show me a clean STD panel. It's like going to a heavily used public bathroom. Yuck!

The sites like Seeking are just modern versions of something that has been around for a long time, except men don't have to do their picking from street corners. They can peruse profiles. There is a strong element of pretending, like it is more of a "relationship" than it really is, and that they are "helping a good cause" because these are bright girls mature for their age and just trying to "make it." But in reality, the best case scenario is getting a college/grad school student simply looking for some extra spending cash. More of the women on these sites have substance misuse issues or are desperate single moms or have mental health issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem with most sugar “relationships” is that they’re temporary and artificial. Few girls think about networking and how the relationship can pay off in the long run.

My favorite niece got a job a couple of years ago in a prominent research lab after graduating from a T-40 college, to get some experience before med or grad school. She never expected that the 50+ Director is tall, trim and had a full head of hair. But over the months working there she learned how unhappy he was, researching critical medical breakthroughs while his SAHM wife bugged him about the kids’ school things and her wanting to start her career but the kids’ emotional needs and her missing her Dad who passed away etc.

So my niece got to know him over the months of working together and happy hours and lunches and conferences, and they both realized how much they enjoyed each other’s company. And for those who think yeah right he’s stringing her along, the wife found photos on the cloud where they’re clearly thrilled to be spending PLATONIC time together. Wife issued an ultimatum, and HE LEFT the wife for my niece. So it’s real, NOT. a transaction. My niece and the Director are still together and just waiting for the divorce settlement so that they can be open with the kids and don’t pay the wife anything more than necessary.

Was my niece “sugar”? NO. He did not pay one dime to my niece beyond the LAB paying salary and benefits. My niece is far better off as she has built a successful career right out of school AND has a man who is far more established and mature than boys her own age.

Will it last forever? Will they get married? Who knows? But the relationship fits right now, and without any sneaky private exchange of funds. Everything is above board. He gets the vitality and respect he’s earned, and she gets the success and happiness that SHE’S earned. THAT’S how so-called May-December relationships should work: mutual sweetness.

Such a hypocrite. I’m team wife.

[Anonymous]

How common do you see Sugar relationships being among married affluent men in DMV? I know of a few, but they are low key about it.

Anonymous wrote:How do you sort through all of the potential scammers on Seeking. Do most of these women look as good as they do in their photos?


quote=Anonymous]I’m divorced two years, almost 50 and have been using seeking the most popular sugar site since my divorce. I have two little kids share 50/50 with mom so mainly I have no time or emotional energy for normal dating. That plus an average looking divorced single dad 50 don’t have much success on OLD apps. I just don’t have time to socialize and find dates the normal way as I did 20-30yrs ago. I’ve had many sugarships, but I’m posting the memorable ones below. Sugaring is definitely a thing and quite prevalent here in DMV. I live in Arlington FYI.

1. Let’s call her Tina the one that got away. 26, blonde, only fans soft core model and DC club bottle service girl. We met for drinks in Tyson’s and immediately hit it off. She was fun beautiful and had such a bubbling personality. Sex was great. I could tell she was really into me (guys she dated in past all kinda had same look as me) We dated for about 3mo she would drive to meet me from Hagerstown 1-2 times a week. $400 per meet. Usually at my place drinking and sex. She cancelled a date and I was so dumb to end things with her over it. She was a no drama perfect sugar baby. I was new to sugar and didn’t appreciate a good thing I had because of so many options

2. Let’s call her Lily, the girl who broke my heart. This one is kind of cringe in so many ways. She was 18 and I wasn’t sure about it. Pale skin, black hair beauty who was unbelievably intelligent. Living alone since 15 her life was a complete mess. We met for lunch and it was meh. But we kept in touch. Found out she tried to kill herself and ended up in ER. She didn’t seem to have any friends or family nearby after she came home from ER a few days later I invited her over just so she could have someone to talk to, and eat! She hadn’t eaten for days. We talked till 3am and I was sure I’m not getting into any arrangement with her. But I felt so sorry for her a girl so smart not in school with no prospects for future. Broken home, raised by foster parents, clearly the most traumatic childhood of anyone I knew. But since she was so smart she had turned herself into a classy well spoken young girl not trashy at all as would be expected. We stayed in touch. I really admired her independence and intelligence more than anything. Yeah she looked great but she was 18 lol! She did indicate she was interested in an arrangement but there wasn’t much sexual chemistry mostly I guess because of the age diff and we both feeling weird about it. She flew home a few weeks later and when she came back was sick for a week and after lots of text back and forth I called her and told her I’m picking her up and taking her to ER. Spent the day with her in the hospital. Bought her groceries when I dropped her home. Couple weeks later we met for lunch in Tyson’s. She looked nice. Went back to my place to listen to music and chill. Having been talking for weeks were getting friendly by now and she told me how much she appreciated me taking care of her at ER etc. She excused herself. Came back in a skimpy white lingerie.. I’ll leave the rest to your imagination but it was amazing and so our arrangement started. I was giving her 5k a month she’d meet up 2-3 times a week stay over sometimes. We connected. Bonded. She would stay over for hours talking about her life and I kept feeling more and more “caring” towards her. But her intense childhood and family trauma meant there was an unbelievable amount of drama. And instead of being a sugar daddy her age meant I kept having “dad” type feelings for her. I wanted to her her on therapy to heal. It was weird And emotions all over the place. Months in I hear ” I love you “ and stupid me (I should have known better) said it back. A month later everything ended. The end was horrid. She moved back home. It hurt a lot. I decided no more exclusive arrangements for me.

3. Francesca the former porn star. She was mid late 20s now but still looked as great as in her younger porn days. She is smart, has a college degree and comes across as a normal cute gnd type unless you try to reverse image search (lol) She was extremely submissive in all ways. Sex was super as expected from a former porn star. But she was such a cool chill person. We would hang out a lot, watch movies go out to eat. No drama. Did I say great sex? I’d watch her old vids and tell her I went to do that and she was more than game! Every time! Perfect communication and logistics too. She had a good head on her shoulders. I’d pay 500 per meet and I guess she liked me enough and would stay overnight and even weekends never asking for more $ than we agreed to. I guess she found a rich SD who locked her into an exclusive thing. I’d love to meet her again any time ..

4. Let’s call her Anastasia the Princess. About 30, blonde divorced with no kids. Her ex hubby took care of her financially so she never gained any workplace skills but got used to a lux life. She had limited options to sugaring but the best part she seems really into me. I see her 2-4 times a month. $500 a meet. But since she is so normal and the kind of person I’d associate with in real life we go out lots to eat, hang out at park to hike etc. I don’t offer any $ for these she is the one calling and texting me to hang out. Like I said I feel like she might have a bit of crush on me but I don’t take advantage. If we meet to have sex I give her what I promised.

5. Let’s call her Laila. Could have met her on bumble she is 40/41 divorced Persian single mom with two little kids. Beautiful but has had a lot of work done. Has a grad degree from John Hopkins and professional job. But does this to get extra luxuries she couldn’t afford after her divorce. If you know these Persian girls they are high maintenance.. I paid her 600 and sex was great she was really into it. It’s like she can play out her porn star fantasies that she couldn’t with her ex husband .. But after a while I felt like we didn’t have much of a connection apart from sex (she wanted things discrete. Meet at hotel. I prefer more normal kind of arrangements doing other things besides that too) also since I match with 40yr plus single moms on OLD I felt it wasn’t as much of a novelty to be paying to have sex with her. Plus her kids and my kids meant logistics sucked.

6. Let’s call this one Raisa the Russia-Turkish minx. Mid 30s very classy elegant beautiful face and body. works a premier banker for a large bank dealing with high net worth guys. I guess that’s how she got into this. Her 80-100k bank job catering to multi millionaires all day must have created some luxxx cravings. Anyway we started off taking kinky things like bdsm and she was game (and it’s all new to me) so we started to exploring with some fun messing around like in the shades of grey movies lol. Because of her 9-5/mon to Friday job we don’t meet as much but I pay 700 a meet. Highest I’ve paid but she is a banker and tough negotiator. No regrets though. Yesterday we had 7hrs of sex. I kid you not. After 4hrs she looks at me and says how do I look after 4hr of sex. I say: hungry. So we go out for a quick bite. Come back for 3 more hours of sex. Somehow she keeps me going at my age. It’s her kissing that does it for me. And how she looks at me. Unlike Anastasia above I’m not sure if she is really into me or just a sex goddess who knows how to make the man feel like a sex god lol.

There have been plenty of forgetful meetings too. But overall it’s been good to great. I never did this while married though I hear most of the legit sugar daddies are married. But I definitely recommend it to any single 40+ guys who have extra $ to spare. It’s nothing like pros/escort/ick and there are genuine connections and chemistry coming out of many of these relationships. Not to mention the financial help they get from it

In hindsight my ex wife was my biggest sugar baby. When we met she just finished grad school and we decided she didn’t need to work full time as I made very high income. In 15yrs of marriage I brought in about 90-95% of HHI and we both liked it that way. I do come from a traditional family background and this is the norm in my circle. So helping these girls out is nothing out of the ordinary for me.

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7399721/amp/Executive-Hollywood-lobbying-firm-arrested-rape-blackmail.html

The problem here in DC is that the women are just as educated as the men. Catches them off guard.

Wait, what is the deal with that picture? Is it an outtake someone sent them to be mean? Like they contacted his office for a photo and his assistant was like, this one?

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Anonymous wrote:There are lots of sugaring in DMV!

For the men who can afford it, they get to have sex with a hot woman and not have to put in the time or effort to woo them and date them. There's not pressure about serious commitment and can extricate oneself at will. Of course, downside would be potential scam artists, extortion, and risk of STIs from someone who is akin to a prostitute.

For the women, money is good and a lot less effort than working a regular job. Of course, downside is having to have sex with men you are not attracted to and obliging on things on normally wouldn't want to do.

It’s straight up prostitution - and both parties are engaging in it.

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Anonymous wrote:What are the best restaurants/ bars in the area to meet a sugar baby that is freestyling?

"Sugar baby that is freestyling from a perch on a barstool" is called a hooker, hon.

+1

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In the eyes of the law it is not.

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Anonymous wrote:There are lots of sugaring in DMV!

For the men who can afford it, they get to have sex with a hot woman and not have to put in the time or effort to woo them and date them. There's not pressure about serious commitment and can extricate oneself at will. Of course, downside would be potential scam artists, extortion, and risk of STIs from someone who is akin to a prostitute.

For the women, money is good and a lot less effort than working a regular job. Of course, downside is having to have sex with men you are not attracted to and obliging on things on normally wouldn't want to do.

It’s straight up prostitution - and both parties are engaging in it.

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21 sugar baby confessions:

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