Flame Me: I don't think affairs are generally a big deal

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have been devastated by an affair early in a marriage. After 20 years....I get it. Not saying it's right but I get the temptation.

So long as no professions of love, I can forgive but I would rather never find out

If this is your perspective, which seems pretty generous and mature, may I ask why a “profession of love” changes things?

DP.

Because sex is different than love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have been devastated by an affair early in a marriage. After 20 years....I get it. Not saying it's right but I get the temptation.

So long as no professions of love, I can forgive but I would rather never find out

If this is your perspective, which seems pretty generous and mature, may I ask why a “profession of love” changes things?

DP.

Because sex is different than love.

You realize men make fake professions of love to keep the sex coming. Even if it’s just a “me too” after she says it.

If sex has been going on for awhile in an affair, trust me, somebody said those words in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have been devastated by an affair early in a marriage. After 20 years....I get it. Not saying it's right but I get the temptation.

So long as no professions of love, I can forgive but I would rather never find out

If this is your perspective, which seems pretty generous and mature, may I ask why a “profession of love” changes things?

Because everyone wants to have sex with a new, attractive person after a while. It has nothing to do with me. But if they fall in love and don't want to be with me, it's a game changer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have been devastated by an affair early in a marriage. After 20 years....I get it. Not saying it's right but I get the temptation.

So long as no professions of love, I can forgive but I would rather never find out

If this is your perspective, which seems pretty generous and mature, may I ask why a “profession of love” changes things?

DP.

Because sex is different than love.

You realize men make fake professions of love to keep the sex coming. Even if it’s just a “me too” after she says it.

If sex has been going on for awhile in an affair, trust me, somebody said those words in bed.

No duh.

But saying it and meaning it are two different things.

An affair can be just sex, or it can be true love.

If you’re willing to dump your spouse and kids for your AP, it’s love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you men who don’t want a divorce but think sex outside the marriage and lies are ok. Why shouldn’t your wife have the right to know the truth and decide whether she wants a divorce? Why do you get to lie and keep your wife around for the domestic and parenting duties?

Because I want to see my kids everyday?

I look at it this way. It was her decision to stop having sex, not mine. I am not depriving her of anything she wants. If I get caught, she can decide whether to stay or leave.

I mean, you already know she would ditch you in a hot second if she found out. Otherwise you wouldn’t be worried about seeing your kids.

And you already know the sex stopped because you’re comfortable and convenient but she just doesn’t love you that much anymore.

+1 Be honest, fake-open-marriage guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have been devastated by an affair early in a marriage. After 20 years....I get it. Not saying it's right but I get the temptation.

So long as no professions of love, I can forgive but I would rather never find out

If this is your perspective, which seems pretty generous and mature, may I ask why a “profession of love” changes things?

DP.

Because sex is different than love.

You realize men make fake professions of love to keep the sex coming. Even if it’s just a “me too” after she says it.

If sex has been going on for awhile in an affair, trust me, somebody said those words in bed.

No duh.

But saying it and meaning it are two different things.

An affair can be just sex, or it can be true love.

If you’re willing to dump your spouse and kids for your AP, it’s love.

Yeah when they dump you like a hot potato and cut off all communication, that wasn’t love. That was just sex.

[Anonymous]

^ if they aren’t taking you out to dinner or meeting anywhere else except for a 30 min meet up to f@ck once or twice a month that ain’t love either...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ if they aren’t taking you out to dinner or meeting anywhere else except for a 30 min meet up to f@ck once or twice a month that ain’t love either...

You are basically a blow up doll to use for their pleasure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have been devastated by an affair early in a marriage. After 20 years....I get it. Not saying it's right but I get the temptation.

So long as no professions of love, I can forgive but I would rather never find out

If this is your perspective, which seems pretty generous and mature, may I ask why a “profession of love” changes things?

DP.

Because sex is different than love.

You realize men make fake professions of love to keep the sex coming. Even if it’s just a “me too” after she says it.

If sex has been going on for awhile in an affair, trust me, somebody said those words in bed.

No duh.

But saying it and meaning it are two different things.

An affair can be just sex, or it can be true love.

If you’re willing to dump your spouse and kids for your AP, it’s love.

Yeah when they dump you like a hot potato and cut off all communication, that wasn’t love. That was just sex.

And you have no way to reach them because they closed all accounts. Yeah. You were used.