Wife wants to move from city to small hometown, I don't

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I know one family that made the move back to a medium sized Canadian town because that is where they were from. Only to come to the conclusion that those relatives that you see occasionally are not reason enough to live there and moved back

[Anonymous]

OP sounds crazy- he can't even live overseas? Sounds like an American even though he claims he is not in the US.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds crazy- he can't even live overseas? Sounds like an American even though he claims he is not in the US.

Crazy because I can’t move overseas? wtf - OP

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Anonymous wrote:Most people want to make their spouse happy (and that's the "no duh" secret to a happy marriage). Apparently you don't. You simply want your spouse to make you happy. That's the definition of selfish.

No need to move, op. I'm sure she'll reach her breaking point, file for custody, and take the kids. Then I'm sure you will be back here kvetching about paying child support...and complaining about dating. I wonder how you'll feel when your kids complain about visiting you in the city...and when they start calling some other guy "Dad."

I'm trying to find a compromise; I'm not saying my happiness is more important than hers.

But we have established our lives here, so it's not just a case of me saying "sure honey, let's change EVERYTHING so you'll feel happier" - OP

I'm still making my way through the thread OP but this is telling. If she has been thinking about/asking about this for more than 10 years then it isn't a passing fancy. Why else do things other than to make yourself feel happier? Life is too short to be miserable.